Sexual Orientation

Discussion in 'Community Discussion' started by catfish743, Apr 22, 2008.

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Which option do you consider as your sexual orientation?

  1. GLBTQ (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning)

    82 vote(s)
    18.4%
  2. Straight

    357 vote(s)
    80.0%
  3. Not Sure/Undecided

    7 vote(s)
    1.6%
  1. catfish743 macrumors 6502

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    After a trip in the photo section of macrumors I was prompted to start this thread and poll. As a homosexual guy I was curious to see who else out there has gone through the same things as I have in regards to sexual orientation. And if you're not gay, feel free to post that too. I would just like to see people on another side, more than just an icon and screenname.

    Two request: One, please respect everyone regardless of their sexual orientation. I want this to be a non hostile environment for other people to express who they are, gay, straight, or whatever. Two, if you have any questions about sexual orientation, need help, are suffering from harassment, need someone to talk to, or are EVER in danger of hurting someone else or yourself, please contact me. I will be more than glad to listen and if I can't help, I will try to put you in contact with someone who can.

    Please feel free to post about your sexual orientation, your experiences, single or with someone, whatever you want that pertains to this topic.
    Thanks again.

    And BTW I'll be the first to say that I'm gay. (and single)
     
  2. wordmunger macrumors 603

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    Just curious: what's the difference between "not sure/undecided" and "questioning"?
     
  3. leekohler macrumors G5

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    Uh-oh, this could end up being another "Gayway Thread" disaster. To the OP, there was a thread such as this that existed a few years ago. It got out of control and was shut down, resulting in a lot of hurt feelings and many members leaving. Not saying that has to be the case here, but just be careful.
     
  4. Gray-Wolf macrumors 68030

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    Wouldn't this be more sutied for the restricted forum above, The religion/politics/soicial issues?
     
  5. DarkHeraldMage macrumors 6502a

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    I'm a single gay male in the Dallas area. Began to question myself in middle school and knew by 7th grade what I was. Took me until 10th grade to truly accept it and begin living my life, but I can't change the past.

    As I'm sure is the case with many teens, especially homosexuals, suicide was a very common thought when I was younger. Never sure of myself and always in fear of what others thought and said about me, I didn't want to deal with it. Nobody does. I found someone online when I was 13 and almost took a bus to meet this stranger just because he was nice and friendly and pretty much the only person who showed any interest in me. My parents caught me at the bus station and saved me from myself. Such is merely one drama of my crazy experiences in life thus far.
     
  6. Abstract macrumors Penryn

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    Why have all non-straight people been clumped into a single group?

    You spent the time spelling all that out, so why not just spend the extra 30 seconds to make them individual options?
     
  7. Father Jack macrumors 68020

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  9. j26 macrumors 65832

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    I'm straight, but shirt-lifting (;)) activity has never bothered me. I have some friends who are gay and my cousin is a lesbian who has recently had a baby (through IVF) with her life partner. It's not an issue for me.

    The one thing that surprises me is the level of promiscuity that i see among some (but not all) of my friends who are gay. I would have thought that in this day and age a slightly more careful attitude would be the order of the day. I have to say I don't know any straight people who are as promiscuous as one or two of the sausage jockeys (;)) I know.
     
  10. DarkHeraldMage macrumors 6502a

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    I agree, which is one of the reasons I'm still single. I believe in monogamy when in a relationship, and at least a little discretion when not. I just can't bring myself to date someone who has to have an excel spreadsheet to keep up with past intimacies and gets tested numerous times a year "just to be sure". Promiscuity is a common theme in the gay community, that's for sure.
     
  11. calculus Guest

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    Could we have separate categories for these two groupings as well. I think it would help ...
     
  12. swingerofbirch macrumors 68030

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    I don't identify as gay or straight.

    I'm coy. :rolleyes:
     
  13. Queso macrumors G4

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    That's because the gay scene is nearly completely geared towards sexual behaviour. I think many young gay people start to think that this is the way they fit in, because the scene is their only outlet for meeting other gay people. In those areas where there is a larger gay population you're much more likely to find gays who are more comfortable around monogamy and form friendships amongst themselves based on other criteria. Not saying their aren't monogamous gay relationships out there away from the cities, just that percentage wise I think there's more in the metropolitan areas.
     
  14. Father Jack macrumors 68020

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    Yes that would be a good idea.
     
  15. jimN macrumors 6502a

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    Have you ever been to a night club? Straight people can be pretty promiscuous too. It all depends on where you choose to observe the behaviour of your different groups. You can subscribe to the notion that gay men meet in toilets and that straight men just have sex within marriage or you can recognise that both groups will have their more promiscuous elements.
     
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  17. DarkHeraldMage macrumors 6502a

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    I agree to a certain extent. I believe a large portion of it is right along those lines, but I think there's something psychologically deeper to it as well.

    The gay population is nowhere near as vast as the 10% people seem to think is real. We'd be lucky if it's 2% or 3% - that's just realistic. Out of that small population of the world, the chances of finding someone you can connect with on an emotional level and developing a lasting relationship with are incredibly slim. Because of this, I think gay people (more specifically the men) resort to just accepting life for what they can get, and having sex. They may not get the emotional fulfillment, but they get sexual satisfaction and the brief feeling of being special.
     
  18. nomar383 macrumors 65816

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    Straight with a beautiful girlfriend, to each his own I guess
     
  19. Raid macrumors 68020

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    This thread reminds me of my bi friend; whenever she was asked "What is your sexual orientation?" She'd always say "South, cause sooner or later that's where I'm goin'!" :) She's hilarious, and quite aggressive...
    For me I'm straight, married and supportive of my friends with 'other' orientations. :cool:
     
  20. j26 macrumors 65832

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    True, I was no angel myself, but some of the people I know take it to a far higher level than I ever took it to when I was on the singles scene. I've been to a couple of gay clubs with my mates and the atmosphere is far more sexually charged than any "straight" night club I've been to.

    Maybe I just know some absolute tarts, but what I've seen does indicate to me a more promiscuous atmosphere. Of course, on the other hand I do know people with long term relationships, and people who are single, but not into that scene, but on balance I'd say it's more promiscuous.
     
  21. Santa Rosa macrumors 65816

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    Driving down the road with no corners, although I do fancy SJ :)
     
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  23. NotFound macrumors 6502a

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    I'm gay and in a very monogamous relationship. It's never interested me in having multiple partners not only because of the risk of disease, but because I know my thoughts of people I personally know who choose that. I would never want someone to not consider me qualified for... well... anything because of a decision.

    I'll be the first to tell you too that finding a partner who is as strongly opinionated about monogamy as you are can be difficult. But the wait is well worth it. Don't ever settle for anything less than what you absolutely want. :D
     
  24. muldul macrumors 6502

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    Straight

    I'm Straight. I'm currently in secondary school (High school). I hear of people who were beat up or bullied for being Homosexual or bisexual when they went to school, but i find it is a different case at my school. There are many openly gay people and instead of being teased they are repected for being open. Is this a normal thing in all schools now or is my school just special.
     
  25. NotFound macrumors 6502a

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    As compared to my high school experience, I wish I had gone to your high school. I wouldn't say I was 'bullied' as much as made fun of behind my back and rarely to my face.

    Safety among young homosexuals is something that concerns me. And I'm only 19! I know of several girls who went to my high school who were lesbians and were constantly teased and harassed by other girls. It's sad, but truthful.

    These kind of cases are what truly scare me to death:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QcMEL3_YsVI
     

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