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Oh, grow up you shirtless boy.

A 15-year old daughter is still like a baby to her dad and it's his job to protect his baby until she grows up to be an independent adult. Who are you to say he should not?

While the relationship between a teenage daughter and her dad can sometimes be ugly and lousy, nonetheless, they need to learn to live together under same roof. It's their family business and you absolutely have no say as long as it's not an abusive situation.

Obama's two girls cannot watch TV during weekdays because it's Obama's rule set for his daughters.
 
jessica. said:
A father walking in on his daughter talking to a boy at 15 with his shirt off would probably freak any father out. Again, when you're no longer a dependent you'll probably understand.
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Exactly.


Like everyone else has said, talk to the father. Tell him, "I can't wear a shirt because of burns on my back/neck. It wasn't sexual. Also, I've been dating another girl for over 2 years now, and I have no interest in breaking up with her just to have a relationship with your daughter beyond our current friendship." Follow this up with, "No offence." :p

Even if you don't have a girlfriend, lie and tell him that you do. ;)
 
coolwater said:
Oh, grow up you shirtless boy.

A 15-year old daughter is still like a baby to her dad and it's his job to protect his baby until she grows up to be an independent adult. Who are you to say he should not?

While the relationship between a teenage daughter and her dad can sometimes be ugly and lousy, nonetheless, they need to learn to live together under same roof. It's their family business and you absolutely have no say as long as it's not an abusive situation.

Obama's two girls cannot watch TV during weekdays because it's Obama's rule set for his daughters.
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Yepp. The boys don't get that.....
 
Abstract said:
Exactly.


Like everyone else has said, talk to the father. Tell him, "I can't wear a shirt because of burns on my back/neck. It wasn't sexual. Also, I've been dating another girl for over 2 years now, and I have no interest in breaking up with her just to have a relationship with your daughter beyond our current friendship." Follow this up with, "No offence." :p

Even if you don't have a girlfriend, lie and tell him that you do. ;)
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Well, she's already dating someone, and her dad knows.

And I don't have a girlfriend, never have :/:(
 
have you ever met her in real life? or meet online? if i were a parent and saw my daughter vid chatting with some shirtless guy she has never met, or even less, me, i might not be too happy.

but sorry man, i understand weird fathers of girls sometimes.:rolleyes:
 
Prof. said:
What's wrong with a guy being shirtless? It's not like you were showing her your peepee or anything. :rolleyes:
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That's precisely what's knocking around inside her father's head right now. :eek:

At the same time, he's probably wishing all this technology would've been around in the late 1970's when he was 15, imagining all the fun times he could have had... :D :D
 
How about your 15 and this shouldnt matter so much to you?

Wow, you used video chatting (a really silly move in a home where you most likely have doors open, dad can walk in at any time, and would when he hears you actually talking to...no one on the phone or in the home)...when you shouldnt have.

Whatever the parents rules are, they are her problem, not yours. Obviously, she did something wrong that is no fault of yours.

However, not being able to talk to you PERIOD, is not just plain stupid but an act in futility. Is the father going to hang over her shoulder during every AIM conversation? Is his vision that good he could read the screen name, let alone know who it belongs to, from far enough away that she'd not see him coming?

Give me a break. Get over it, or use your brain to figure out a way "around this problem".
 
Prof. said:
**** 'em:mad:
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Agreed x 1,000,000

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When I have a kid, if my wife and I decide that there will be no video chatting, there will be no video chatting. My house. My rules. Wah wah wah it's unfair wah wah wah. Too bad.

How is that so hard to understand?
 
get off video chat and go play outside. It's summer! Go to the beach, sleep over at a friend's house. Get drunk in a park. Cause a scene! You're only in high school so long, make the best of it. I feel like I wasted a good portion of my senior year on this site. I did spend quite a bit of time fooling around here and there with her and him, but I really could have done a lot more if I wasn't busy texting, surfing the net, and dicking around with my computer.
 
holidaypf said:
Someday you'll fully understand just how nervous all this new technology can make the father of a teenage daughter. :D
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Or the parent of any teenager. Video chats can lead to inappropriate exchange of images between teenagers that any of the parties or their parents might someday regret.

Permitting video chats -- at least unsupervised by adults-- is akin to letting teenagers hang out with each other in a bedroom in one of their homes, behind closed doors, with some parent thinking that nothing untoward will happen because he or she is right downstairs in the kitchen. One thing leads to another and pretty soon the simple fact that a human being's capacity for good judgment is not fully formed until around age 25 will tend to surface.

Back in the day, Mom or Dad might suspect what was going on behind a closed door but figure the level of making out or whatever couldn't get too drastic due to the kids' fear of being interrupted without notice. Nowadays, when data transfer takes nanoseconds, maybe Mom and Dad are realizing that failure to supervise kids' use of the net can result in inappropriate communications, text or pix, being posted for the whole planet to glom onto. To suggest that that won't happen or wouldn't be a big problem is to be really naive.

OK, at age 18 or 21, depending on locale, the possible impact of decisions about net usage is the young person's burden to bear, but for a 15 year old living at home, mom or dad is totally right to put the foot down on unsupervised video chats.

Even chatting itself -- just regular text chatting -- is so addictive to some teens that parents I know have resorted to shutting down the household routers at 11pm, confiscating cell phones or laptops and making it clear that end runs like connecting to Suzy's helpfully unsecured net next door from Dad's desktop in the den will not be tolerated if discovered. It's not even about inappropriate content, just about helping a teen learn to manage personal behavior in ways that don't shut down or damage future options. How is a kid supposed to get through school (and life) in healthy fashion if he or she is on a cell or chat until 4:30am and then needing to get up at 6am to connect with a school bus?
 
TuffLuffJimmy said:
get off video chat and go play outside. It's summer! Go to the beach, sleep over at a friend's house. Get drunk in a park. Cause a scene! You're only in high school so long, make the best of it. I feel like I wasted a good portion of my senior year on this site. I did spend quite a bit of time fooling around here and there with her and him, but I really could have done a lot more if I wasn't busy texting, surfing the net, and dicking around with my computer.
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uggg.. i am going to be a Jr, and i feel like i have never had a summer. either i was at home doing nothing or on my computer, or at work.:(
If I didnt have a Job, and once i get a car, I might have some better times, but for now its really depressing me.
 
NC MacGuy said:
Yepp. The boys don't get that.....
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I get that. If I ever have a daughter, I'll kill any guy within ten feet of her.


Jokes aside, I'm sure you guys who don't get this can relate to it in some manner. A sister, cousin or anything like that. It's irrational, yes, but it's also natural to want to protect those you care about.
 
I am only 21, and I am not a father but I can weigh in a little I suppose. If I ever have a daughter, I am going to protect her by setting no video chat rules and the like as well. As a guy I understand what guys think about when they see girls. Thus my own thoughts about when I was in high school will drive me to be a protective parent.

Plus parents rules are rules. When I lived at home, I had to follow the rules. The girl should have done the same.
 
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