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So, what type is the marriage material?
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LOL Cute
That is basically where he's going to end up. With a list like that and the constant reassurance to us that he sits on a pile of cash (because somehow we're supposed to be impressed), he will undoubtedly attract that one woman who will leave him when he is no longer able to provide for her. That woman, YS2003 will not do your laundry as she does not do her own. You will hire a maid to do such chores. If you would like children she may give in and have them but she will not raise them. A nanny will take on that glorious task and she will spend her days spending your money that you earn from your Fortune 500 company. In this relationship, you know, "the marriage material" one, you will undoubtedly get to make your own decisions because frankly your wife won't give a rat's ass what you do so long as you keep her in good materials. This is most likely the best way for you based on your inability to be humble.
You are young, you said it first. You said when strangers see you they underestimate your age. I am going to go out on a limb here and say that regardless of the length of time these people have known you, the underestimation of your age has a lot to do with your attitude and your obvious sense of entitlement. Not your looks.
That said, you want to know what makes for "the marriage material"? I'm willing to play on a few points.
First, a decent prospect to marry would not get pissed when their tax dollars goes to pay for a child's education whether they're yours or not. However, if you can find someone as equally opinionated then one might cross their fingers and hope you two never produce a child, but if you do, let's hope they do well in school so you are not burdened with their higher education.
Yes, if you get married decisions will be made together. You may also have to sacrifice certain things like a night out with the boys because the wife is home ill. Likewise "the marriage material" lady would make similar if not more sacrifices. It really can work to your benefit.
Children and family aren't bargaining tools. When you learn that and you believe that you will find "the marriage material" you desire. In other words, not having a family or having a family doesn't give you the "get out of jail free" card I think you believe it gives you. If you do not want to go hang with your Fortune 500 co-workers then be a man and say you don't. Seems pretty simple.
Finally, being married gives you no higher social status than a single man. Fact is if you believe you'll be more socially accepted because you're married there is a good chance your marriage won't last because you'll be searching for a woman who appears to be socially acceptable and that may only be skin deep.
I think there are many fine points to both being married and single. I believe when you find that one person who can make everything ok just by walking into a room that makes for good marriage material. A fat wallet, a job with a Fortune 500 company, stellar looks falls to the wayside when that person can make you feel whole with them. Your Fortune 500 job will go away. It's the way of the world. You will grow, the company will hopefully grow and not shrink (Fortune 500 companies do fail), and your money may not last your lifetime. If you find the right one and not base her on everything you just listed in your original post that is one thing that may remain a constant in your life.
To summarize the above, "the marriage material" starts within. It does not start nor does it include what she will do for you, your wallet, or your social status. If you want tax breaks buy a home and donate part of your pile of cash that you sit on to charity. You may have to buy a real chair after that but the tax breaks are outstanding.
I say let him find out the hard way and marry a mercenary. One less for the rest of us to fall victim too. 
You're wrong.
Your stereotyping sounds like you've based all your observations of married life on what you've seen in sitcoms.
Thanks, Jessica. I had half a mind to say most of that myself, but I decided it was probably more productive to talk to this lovely and very sympathetic wall next to me. Talking in this guy's terms about bachelorhood and marriage is like comparing novels based on word count and cover art.
I'm not sure I could ever trust the little lady to not screw up my laundry; obviously I'm not the material.
Is the wall perchance red like my Ferrari?
eji said:
Is the wall perchance red like my Ferrari?
YS2003 is an advanced AI program. It has been tasked with gathering information about human mating behaviors. Do not get upset with it's questions – it is only trying to learn.
I'm not sure what the OP's situation is, but perhaps it would be best to do a little internal review... you probably be ready for marriage if your list looked something like this:
Probably ready to get married if
Probably ready to get married if
- I'm willing make large purchase decisions (including cars, Macs, and etc) with my wife, as I understand this may affect our financial position and long term goals.
- I willingly provide support with my salary when needed, because they don't ask for more than they need and I want to help them whenever I can.
- I would set aside money for kids education funds as I love them and recognize that education is the key to their future.
- When I get old, I will look back and not regret a single day married to her.
- I gladly extend my heart to her family and treat them as my own.
- I will respect her alone time as she will respect mine, as we will listen to our concerns, care for our feelings, and respect the bond we created.
- I can have a quiet night at home with my wife and call it a great evening.
- I'm willing to share the household chores, (even if I take the greater burden) as we are responsible adults.
a maid to do laundry for your spoiled wife who married you just for your huge pile of cash from your Fortune 500 company job: $35,000/year
marriage counseling: $250/session
divorce attorney: $175/hour
divorce settlement: (all your money and assets)/2
YS2003 making a post proving he is not ready to take care of a houseplant, nevermind getting married..........priceless.
marriage counseling: $250/session
divorce attorney: $175/hour
divorce settlement: (all your money and assets)/2
YS2003 making a post proving he is not ready to take care of a houseplant, nevermind getting married..........priceless.
I think the OP should wait until he is old enough and more importantly, mature enough to be married before he even starts thinking about it.
Oh and YS2003, you should read Jessica's post over and over again until every single word is burnt in to your mind...
Oh and YS2003, you should read Jessica's post over and over again until every single word is burnt in to your mind...
Being your own best marriage material is a good way to go, or at least to start.
If you want to find it, best to be it first.
If you want to find it, best to be it first.
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Also, there's this amazing thing called a washing machine and dryer. You put stuff in, press a few buttons, walk away and it all comes out clean. No need to go down to the river with your washing board, then hang it on the clothes line to dry anymore.
Dude it doesn't move from the washer to the dryer all by itself. That is where the woman comes into play.
Hmm, I always use a laundry basket to move them.. Your way sounds intriguing, though.
Oh, don't get your knickers in a twist. We're just joking around and having a little fun. No one respects women more than I do...
I wasn't referring to you
And my underwear of choice does not concern you!
Ha ha, ok cool. There's no doubt this thread is going to get wastelanded soon anyway...