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So, what type is the marriage material?

Oh come on, these type of threads are precisely what make the world turn. Everyone's got a stance and something to say, married, single, male, female, divorced, kids, everyone! Great thread. These are the one's you can't make up. I hope it lasts another 2 pages or so. That would probably be enough.
 
YS2003, you actually sound kinda jealous of the married folks. So, I'll add this: there are studies that show that married people tend to be happier than single people.
 
dejo said:
YS2003, you actually sound kinda jealous of the married folks. So, I'll add this: there are studies that show that married people tend to be happier than single people.
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They live longer, too, so he should probably enter that into his cost-benefit analysis.

The OP might enjoy some of the articles that pop up if you search for "economics of marriage" and "marriage cost-benefit" in Google Scholar. Of course, you'll have to have access to a library with a subscription (any university will do). I'm not saying that I agree, but the OP isn't the only one thinking about marriage in these terms.
 
Iscariot said:
You've swayed me. Lets get married.
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you'll have to get in line iscariot! :)

Jess always brings great points to threads. this was the best yet! Great job Jessica!

as for the OP, this sure sounds like someone who just spent the holidays alone (nothing wrong with that btw) and is trying to self-justify the long hours and loneliness in his job b/c he's a bit sad at not sharing his success with anyone close.

You sure show your age though. I do give you credit for admitting that your list is based on materialistic values. your comment about having people underestimate you and then burning them or getting them back is quite frankly sad. Life shouldn't be about putting it back in someone's face. Do the quality work in such a way that those folks will admit to being wrong or apologizing. Showing someone up won't get you far (well, maybe in the bank acct world, but not anywhere else).

As for marriage, you'll learn with age that there are all different kinds of marriages. some are open to partners, some have their own bank accts and pay their bills like roommates while others have 1 joint acct, some want kids, some can't have kids, some want 10 kids, some want the Fortune 500 job, some don't, some have the wives working while the man stays home etc..etc.. it's all personal.

ultimately, marriage comes down to find the right partner and being willing to make sacrifices at all levels, to enjoy the journey of life together.

cheers,
keebler
 
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Keebler said:
Life shouldn't be about putting it back in someone's face. Do the quality work in such a way that those folks will admit to being wrong or apologizing. Showing someone up won't get you far (well, maybe in the bank acct world, but not anywhere else).
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According to his profile the OP works in sales... says it all really :D
 
I guess a pro and con list is inappropriate to answer your question...
you'll know when you meet your personal marriage material...
if not...well...then maybe you are the one not being marriage material.
 
jessica. said:
LOL Cute... (was that a tongueNcheeky snarky quip? ;) )

I believe when you find that one person who can make everything ok just by walking into a room that makes for good marriage material.
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Jess, 'you complete me' :)D, sorry, I seemed to have fixated/obsessed on a quote from Renee Zellwiger (sP?)...'show me the money' line juxtaposed on my mind, in that movie with Tom Cruise).

Hmm, speaking of marriages, I'm sure a good portion of those 50% of marriages that end in divorces started out with the spouse thinking one person can make everything ok just by walking into a room. Robin Wright & Sean Penn no more, TomKat, etc. Pure love and romanticism, a fine concept, but one of youth and inexperience. Reality as you get older will show you that this is far from the truth..sorry, but it is what it is.
 
shecky said:
a maid to do laundry for your spoiled wife who married you just for your huge pile of cash from your Fortune 500 company job: $35,000/year

marriage counseling: $250/session

divorce attorney: $500/hour

divorce settlement: (all your money and assets)/2



YS2003 making a post proving he is not ready to take care of a houseplant, nevermind getting married..........priceless.
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Quoted for truth and just had to make a little edit there. If he wants a decent divorce attorney he should expect to pay much much more than his marriage counselor, but eh, he still probably lose half. Although it might be prudent to assume that a man of his materialism would have a prenup to protect his 40-50k a year.

I seriously question wether this guy has actually seriously dated or loved a woman before.

Fortune 500 company, meh, who cares, anyone that works at Walmart can say they work for a Fortune 500 company.
 
I guess this thread caused a bunch of negative opinions against me. Frankly speaking, I am fine with it. I am just doing fine with where I am financially. Also, I am comfortable where I am heading. For me, the marriage means the partnership which strengthens both partner's lives. It is not one party takes care of the other party in my play book.

My original intent was to ask for the opinion on what the typical "marriage materials" would be. I am aware I am not a typical marriage material because I am just too independent and into self gratification, which may have caused onslaught of negative comments on this thread. I guess this thread has gone to the wayside.

rhsgolfer33 said:
Although it might be prudent to assume that a man of his materialism would have a prenup to protect his 40-50k a year.
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Hey, dude. Speak for yourself. Good luck with such a low wage to make a living. There is no need to insult someone whom you know nothing about.
 
skunk said:
If that's enough for you, why bother with marriage?
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When I posted this thread, I was just curious to hear what the marriage materials would be. I admit I am not into marriage per se. But, many others do. So, I am just interested in knowing what those qualities are.

I had to post the last two comments because they got me annoyed with their half-thought-out posts.
 
YS2003, where (approximately) do you live? Perhaps the marriage materials customs are different where you are than where I am.

Is English your first language? (It is my first and only.)
 
You are marriage material if A) Somebody loves you and B) They happen to like that kind of formality.

Of course, there are other reasons why people get married, but all those other reasons suck.
 
I just got married about two weeks ago. And I must say, it's pretty friggin' cool! :) :)
 
YS2003 said:
Hey, dude. Speak for yourself. Good luck with such a low wage to make a living. There is no need to insult someone whom you know nothing about.
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I find it funny that you think 40-50k is such a low wage. 50k is above average starting pay for a college graduate, even at a Fortune 500 company and it's higher than the average salary for most Americans. I was hardly insulting you, merly making an observation that someone as materialistic as you make yourself out to be should or proably would get a prenup before getting married, even if he happened to make 50k a year, which is more than likely.
 
Keebler said:
ultimately, marriage comes down to find the right partner and being willing to make sacrifices at all levels, to enjoy the journey of life together.
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This doesn't work, however, if you got the feeling that you are the only one who makes sacrifices all of the time. I know what I am talking about...
 
I'm not going to take an unnecessary shot at YS2003. People get married for different reasons. Some are in it for romance, sharing, intimacy, etc, and some are in it because they don't want to be alone, and coming home to someone that they enjoy being with is enough (note: I didn't say "love eternally" or anything over the top; just "enjoy being with"). Some guys like to be taken care of, just like some women like to be taken care of. Maybe he can take care of her financially, if she can take care of other things. This doesn't necessarily imply that they don't love each other, or enjoy spending time with each other. Marriage can be different things, and his examples (ie: laundry = being taken care of (somewhat) by a woman) may be the type of situation he envisions marriage to be like. He may be looking for this. So what?

His question wasn't so bad. It's his examples that were, but maybe they weren't meant to be well thought-out answers....possibly because he didn't think every word he said was going to be scrutinized like this. How many of you quadruple-check your posts before replying? ;)

Also, he only mentioned his job because someone (Teleromeo) made some stupid remark about YS2003 spending his life living in his parents' home. It clearly isn't true, and it's not like he mentioned it because h

He just wanted to know if there are certain qualities that you're looking for in someone you're willing to marry. Maybe it really is a stable job, or wants no children, or wants 6 children. Whatever. I wouldn't marry (or continue dating) someone who didn't want children. Why? Because if she was, we're obviously looking for different things.


But please continue with your bullying....
 
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