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Straight Edge People

I don't drink smoke or have casual sex. Though this is the case as booze gives my sleep issues, I don't care for smoking and never have and I'm content enough with my current relationship that I've no desire to complicate things.

It is however laughable that I could be considered straight edge.


I'm a filthy raver, I'm in a polyamerous relationship and I'm ridiculously queer.
 
I used to be. Feel free to chime in with the "If you're not now, you never were". Don't worry -- I used to make disparaging remarks like that too.

I am glad that I was straight edge for all those years because being a teenager can be difficult. I respect it for what it was -- it kept me from making bad times worse (ie-drinking in response to having my heart broken, etc). For the past year or so, I realized I was just sticking with it to stick with it, not because I held those ideals anymore. So I gave it up and I don't regret it. With that said, I don't smoke, do drugs, or even get drunk. No casual sex either.

Also, when I was into this whole movement (hardcore shows and the like), hardly anyone really 'obeyed' that "no casual sex" thing. As a matter of fact, most of the 'edgers I knew were pretty promiscuous. I was mildly amused.
 
sXe'rs tend to regret later not having indulged in more casual sex and light recreational drug use when they had their chance.

I'm sure Ian MacKaye does, even if he won't admit it.
 
Chundles said:
Straight.
Drink socially
No drugs
Have had casual and pre marital sex.
No piercings
No wild hair-dos
Neither flashy nor drab in my fashion sense
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I don't know what it is but I'm with you. Now we have a group we just need a name. To the original poster I really don't see why you need to find more people like yourself. When I was at university I didn't have casual sex or drink but the majority of my friends did and it neither made me feel bad or decide that they were amoral. Now that I drink regularly I don't feel that I need to move from one group to another and I have all the same types of friends.

People shouldn't need to label themselves or try to find one word that sums up everything that they are. My political affiliations/sexuality/drinking habits are subject to change and in no way define the person that I am.
 
If by "don't drink" you mean 'not drinking to the point of getting silly or drunk', then no I don't drink (I do have a beer or Scotch now and then but not to the point of inebriation)

I don't smoke. Ever. Black, charred lungs aren't sexy.

No premarital sex (which since I'm not married makes me a virgin... but I'm no loser: believe me I've had the chance)

And I am college-aged. Stick to your guns mate - you're not alone. You'll feel better about yourself by sticking to your principles.
 
Mord said:
I'm a filthy raver, I'm in a polyamerous relationship and I'm ridiculously queer.
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You seem to be a very interesting person! :)

And if anybody cares I don't do drugs, I enjoy a good glass of wine, and making love to a beautiful girl... :p I have no idea what that makes of me
 
BigPrince said:
How do you recommend I go about seeking others who share similar characteristics to me?
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This comment confuses me. Do you introduce yourself "Hi, I'm Jon and I'm straight-edge. How about you?"

You will meet people just as you always have - by being out and opening yourself up to different opinions, options, and lifestyles. You will find people that you like to hang out with that share your lifestyle choices and you will hopefully enjoy the company of others who don't.

If I only hung out with people like myself, I'd be quite lonely. Instead, I enjoy the variety of people that make up this world and accept those who may choose a different path than I would because I understand that everyone is different.

Unless they're Cub fans. Then I can't stand 'em. ;)
 
emw said:
This comment confuses me. Do you introduce yourself "Hi, I'm Jon and I'm straight-edge. How about you?"

You will meet people just as you always have - by being out and opening yourself up to different opinions, options, and lifestyles. You will find people that you like to hang out with that share your lifestyle choices and you will hopefully enjoy the company of others who don't.

If I only hung out with people like myself, I'd be quite lonely. Instead, I enjoy the variety of people that make up this world and accept those who may choose a different path than I would because I understand that everyone is different.
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*applaud* i couldn't have said it any better.

variety is good, new people are good, experiences are good.

Unless they're Cub fans. Then I can't stand 'em. ;)
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i just don't understand sox fans.
 
Interesting thread..

Myself, I drink occassionally, got ****-faced once in my life, hated it (but not at the time, haha), I don't smoke (my grandfather passed away from lung cancer and that would be a slap in his face), and I don't have casual sex.

So I'm me and I live with my decisions, I still like to hang out with people who choose different life styles. Well with the exception that I'm not to keen on hanging with smokers.
 
emw said:
This comment confuses me. Do you introduce yourself "Hi, I'm Jon and I'm straight-edge. How about you?"

*snip*
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We have a whole thread on peoples sexual orientation here....so I was curious about straightedge people....sorry...
 
After looking into the movement I would suggest that people look into them before considering labelling themselves one.
 
BigPrince said:
We have a whole thread on peoples sexual orientation here....so I was curious about straightedge people....sorry...
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No need to be sorry for the thread - the topic itself is interesting, and prior to it I'd never heard of the straight edge "movement'.

I was more commenting on your choice of words as to how to meet people, that's all. I don't fault you for your choices or for creating this thread. There has been some interesting discussion. :)
 
I smoke ganja, mainly for its calming effect and to help with stress and relaxation. Other than that I am straight edge.

I dont enjoy drinking at all, I go to bed early (yes even fridays and saturdays when I am home I am in bed by nine pm), and I dont have casual sex. As a matter of fact, I dont have sex unless I am in a relationship with a girl and we have been dating for some months. In this day and age there is just too much to worry about in that respect.

Since I play in bands, I naturally end up in situations where I am involved with people who have more of an anything goes attitude and my lifestyle choices kind of put some of those off a little bit. Some people except it, some dont.

Im happy with the way I live my life, especially when I see people my age
(40), who lead lives that more wild than mine. Many of these guys look like they 50 or older.
 
BigPrince said:
Just curious if there are any people who don't drink, smoke, or have casual sex.


I am a straight edge person in college and its a bit frustrating to find other straight edge people. Whats worse is that the few straight edge friends I started with have been dwindling in ranks.

The only "edge" I am still working on, is my weight.



*This thread is not at all to bash people who are not straight edge or to judge others. I'm just looking to see if there are others around my age who are straight edge.

Thanks.
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*raises hand*

It's really hard to find others like that to hang out with.

I admit to having wine occasionally despite being underage (20), as my mom is Italian, but it's always moderated, in the evenings with my parents over dinner when I'm not going out again. And my dad's DEA, there's no way I'd EVER drink and drive :)
 
Well I am but thats probably because I am 13 and all that stuff is illegal for me... Then again that aint stopped me doing other stuff before... Ah well.

I dont really ever want to drink but I think as I grow older I will occasionally for social reasons.

I will certainly never smoke or anything else.
 
Drink
Smoke
Have casual sex

Such are some of life's greatest joys. :) I know I enjoy them. However, I do enjoy them in moderation. Relationships are great too. I just see no reason to deny myself sex when I'm not in one. Casual sex and relationships both have their place.
 
leekohler said:
Drink
Smoke
Have casual sex

Such are some of life's greatest joys. :) I know I enjoy them. However, I do enjoy them in moderation. Relationships are great too. I just see no reason to deny myself sex when I'm not in one. Casual sex and relationships both have their place.
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you mention the key here: moderation. also don't be stupid about any of the above and you'll still be heathy
 
In the beginning, I was a smoker, a frequent drinker, and I did more than my fair share of bedding down with the fine young damsels I happened to meet.

Then I quit smoking, toned down the alcoholism, and decided not to have too much extraneous sex.

Now I am married, a non-smoker, and a beer connoisseur on rare occasions.

I consider myself nothing close to "straight edge", whatever that means. I have many friends that would probably consider themselves such, but I find it often is associated with intense religious persuasion, which I myself have none of.

I gave up casual sex because of my marriage. I am a recovering breast fetishist, and it is very hard some days not to give a sightly pair a brief jostle, but I honor my wife above my sometimes intense desire to palm some bountiful bosom.

Straight edge, what an interesting concept. It takes all types to make a world, I guess. More power to you! Just don't try to pass any laws that forbid beer, as then I imagine you'd have a revolution on your hands.
 
Xfujinon said:
...Just don't try to pass any laws that forbid beer, as then I imagine you'd have a revolution on your hands.
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...Or, as the Simpsons have tought us, the Mafia will bring in beer to secret speakeasys until the mayor finds out that the law was canceled 199 years ago :p
 
PlaceofDis said:
you mention the key here: moderation. also don't be stupid about any of the above and you'll still be heathy
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I agree.

For me it is a personal choice for more than personal reasons.


Xfujinon said:
I have many friends that would probably consider themselves such, but I find it often is associated with intense religious persuasion, which I myself have none of.
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I about as religious as a car, religion doesn't come into it unless the person has a specific religious belief that aligns with that of straight edge.

Seems like you might be misunderstanding the word promiscuous.

Xfujinon said:
Straight edge, what an interesting concept. It takes all types to make a world, I guess. More power to you! Just don't try to pass any laws that forbid beer, as then I imagine you'd have a revolution on your hands.
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:rolleyes:
 
Ya know, I passed up this thread quite a few times because I didn't know what it was about and it didn't look (from the title) like anything I'd be interested in.

I don't drink (I've never understood the attraction some people have to it), don't smoke (I was an athlete throughout my late teens and my 20's, plus why would anyone do that to themselves?), and don't (if I understand the definition) have casual sex (I've been engaged or married for 20 of the last 25 years). Nor have I ever used drugs.

I've also never been associated with groups other than in an employment status (i.e. police officer, mathematician, track coach, etc.), and didn't party while in college (I was already married by that point anyways). And I've always made my choices based on what I felt I should do in life rather than to try and match some group or label's definition of what I should be.

So who came up with this term or label? And why do people who are abstaining from all these things need to group together anyways? I realize that I seem to have missed the whole peer pressure thing while growing up, but I would hope that people would be able to abstain from these types of things based on an informed choice rather than to fit into some group.
 
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