sucks to get old...........

[Huntn]

I never waited around to go bald, instead went clean shaved before it could happen.
Male baldness has run in my family for generations, as you can see my son has taken the hint also.
I'm the young fella on the left in the photo.

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Even when they have hair, they look old.
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I’m currently 28
Getting old is one of the worst nightmares i hits once in a while
Can’t control my frats frrrrr frrr. Leaving piss marks on my pants. Getting old is pretty pathetic.

It’s part of the deal. Not saying you, but some people have a hard time accepting it.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

I’m currently 28
Getting old is one of the worst nightmares i hits once in a while
Can’t control my frats frrrrr frrr. Leaving piss marks on my pants. Getting old is pretty pathetic.

And, let me get this right, you're, what is it again, did you say, - or write - 82?

 

[maflynn]

47 here and say about 12 mentally.

I'm in my mid 50s, and I have to say the things that were becoming difficult in my 40s are getting harder in my mid 50s. You're body is a machine, no question, and after years and years of usage, the parts are showing wear and tear and some are breaking down. I'm in pretty good shape, I run almost daily, I go to cardio classes a number of times a week, and I take karate 4 days a week. yet with that said, parts of my body hurt plain and simple, my ankles, knees, shoulders and back.

my current biggest concern is in yob security, hard to find employment as we get older,

Yup, that thought crosses my mind more and more as the calendar months click by and I progress closer to 60.

 

[Tech198]

lol.. live it up... better than living it down...

You only live once.. (if your re-incarnated like Apu, than perhaps you live twice)

I'm 40-ish..... Can't remember exact age.... But it doesn't matter.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Come on, guys.

It sucked to be young, too.

All of this "back to the future stuff" - few nightmares would equal my appalled horror if I were to find myself, inexplicably, returned to the world of being a teenager again.

Hormonal challenges, alienation from parents and peers, ghastly teenage squabbles and spite, the feeing that the world was monstrously unfair, and the sheer horror of our equivalent (even though I attended an academically excellent one) of high school.

University was nirvana in comparison.

 

[Huntn]

And, let me get this right, you're, what is it again, did you say, - or write - 82?

I chose not to ask.

 

[LizKat]

Yup, that thought crosses my mind more and more as the calendar months click by and I progress closer to 60.

Working in tech can tend to burn people out even if we really like what we do. I was looking for the exits after 55 and surprised I didn't bail until I was nearly 60. My avocation (making quilts and wall hangings) was burning a hole in my mind sometimes when I was still working --mostly telecommuting at that point-- and especially when I would be up here in the boondocks but on the phone listening to someone in the city cursing me out at 3am because I wouldn't let him or her slide a one-line "fix" into a production system without any testing, etc.

I'd be half-listening to a rant like that, or once in awhile saying "yes sir, no problem sir right away sir" when some senior VP phoned to say "I don't care, just let him do it, we're running a business here, I'm supposed to worry about securing a database I can't transact into without this fix?" while pressing some fabrics I was going to cut later that morning... and one morning when I got up around 5 after being awakened three times since 10pm night before, I decided to put in my papers, also by telephone! Well I gave them a heads-up by phone and then drove down to the city later that week to finalize the arrangements for a wrap.

No regrets. I had been fortunate enough to have bought a really inexpensive house up here not even 40 miles from where I was born, and had been fixing it up for 15 years or so by time I quit working. On an emotional basis, it was really hard to give up my city place but I knew that if I did that, I could afford not to work for money any more.

I admit that it's vastly easier for people with no immediate dependents to make that sort of decision. I kicked in for education of enough nextgen in my family to figure ok been there done that, they're on their own now... but I realize it's not the same when it's your son or daughter who is short the money for graduate school or money to tide over while job-hunting. Still, I noticed that some of my friends around here who worked in tech and do have kids also put in their papers early and wandered off to do something with less 24/7 pressure, often focused on avocations they'd cultivated in their little bits of spare time and over vacations taken as three-day weekends for years.

 

[Ulenspiegel]

Come on, guys.

It sucked to be young, too.

All of this "back to the future stuff" - few nightmares would equal my appalled horror if I were to find myself, inexplicably, returned to the world of being a teenager again.

Hormonal challenges, alienation from parents and peers, ghastly teenage squabbles and spite, the feeing that the world was monstrously unfair, and the sheer horror of our equivalent (even though I attended an academically excellent one) of high school.

University was nirvana in comparison.

Some years ago I asked myself, would I relive those past years, decades. Knowing what I went through in my life, the answer is a definite no.

 

[Huntn]

Come on, guys.

It sucked to be young, too.

All of this "back to the future stuff" - few nightmares would equal my appalled horror if I were to find myself, inexplicably, returned to the world of being a teenager again.

Hormonal challenges, alienation from parents and peers, ghastly teenage squabbles and spite, the feeing that the world was monstrously unfair, and the sheer horror of our equivalent (even though I attended an academically excellent one) of high school.

University was nirvana in comparison.

What if you experienced a Peggy Sue Got Married event? That might be fascinating.

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If you’ve not seen this mystical movie, it is about a middle aged woman, with a troubled marriage, who is somehow transported back to her teenage years, but she remembers and knows she is out of place, and gets to relive a short part of her life.

I think it would be fascinating, if I knew I did not have to relive all of my life.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

What if you experienced a Peggy Sue Got Married event? That might be fascinating.

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If you’ve not seen this mystical movie, it is about a middle aged woman, with a troubled marriage, who is somehow transported back to her teenage years, but she remembers and knows she is out of place, and gets to relive a short part of her life.

I think it would be fascinating, if I knew I did not have to relive all of my life.

Seriously, @Huntn, unlike almost everyone else in this thread, I am not complaining about middle age, or ageing.

Occasional aching knees are a minor inconvenience when contrasted with improved judgment (personally, professionally, and perhaps politically) and greater control of impulse and of emotions such as anger.

Actually, I'm comfortable in my skin and in my mind and in my (somewhat overweight) body and in myself in a way I was not as a teen or in my early twenties. I feel as though I have grown into myself.

So, no, it wouldn't be fascinating. Not at all.

Anyway, I never got the hang of being young - and hated being young - all that alienation and awkwardness.
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Some years ago I asked myself, would I relive those past years, decades. Knowing what I went through in my life, the answer is a definite no.

Exactly.

Neither would I.

 

[Apple fanboy]

Seriously, @Huntn, unlike almost everyone else in this thread, I am not complaining about middle age, or ageing.

Occasional aching knees are a minor inconvenience when contrasted with improved judgment (personally, professionally, and perhaps politically) and greater control of impulse and of emotions such as anger.

Actually, I'm comfortable in my skin and in my mind and in my (somewhat overweight) body and in myself in a way I was not as a teen or in my early twenties. I feel as though I have grown into myself.

So, no, it wouldn't be fascinating. Not at all.

Anyway, I never got the hang of being young - and hated being young - all that alienation and awkwardness.
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Exactly.

Neither would I.

I didn’t hate being young. I don’t hate being older.
I miss being able to do things I used to be able to physically.
I don’t miss not earning much in my teens when I started working.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

I didn’t hate being young. I don’t hate being older.
I miss being able to do things I used to be able to physically.
I don’t miss not earning much in my teens when I started working.

Well said. That is a balanced response.

 

[Apple fanboy]

Well said. That is a balanced response.

I try to be balanced. And I don’t need a Zimmer frame or walking stick to do it just yet!

 

[ChrisChaval]

A good thread , very personal

Those of us in our 40s and 50s are still young by today’s standards

Health is another thing ... not to be taken for granted

Job worries unfortunately are justified indeed, but not because of our age but because there is something seriuosly wrong in our society ... other cultures worship their elders , we on the other hand are just too materialistic and darwinistic ... thankless and heartless ... hope that does change , it really needs to

My grandmother turns 100 this December and I have always been looking up to her, just how she lived and still lives her life

Only recently her health started to decline

Up until then she was younger at heart and stronger in mind than many of the younger generations I have met

I am so looking forward to seeing her

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Working in tech can tend to burn people out even if we really like what we do. I was looking for the exits after 55 and surprised I didn't bail until I was nearly 60. My avocation (making quilts and wall hangings) was burning a hole in my mind sometimes when I was still working --mostly telecommuting at that point-- and especially when I would be up here in the boondocks but on the phone listening to someone in the city cursing me out at 3am because I wouldn't let him or her slide a one-line "fix" into a production system without any testing, etc.

I'd be half-listening to a rant like that, or once in awhile saying "yes sir, no problem sir right away sir" when some senior VP phoned to say "I don't care, just let him do it, we're running a business here, I'm supposed to worry about securing a database I can't transact into without this fix?" while pressing some fabrics I was going to cut later that morning... and one morning when I got up around 5 after being awakened three times since 10pm night before, I decided to put in my papers, also by telephone! Well I gave them a heads-up by phone and then drove down to the city later that week to finalize the arrangements for a wrap.

No regrets. I had been fortunate enough to have bought a really inexpensive house up here not even 40 miles from where I was born, and had been fixing it up for 15 years or so by time I quit working. On an emotional basis, it was really hard to give up my city place but I knew that if I did that, I could afford not to work for money any more.

I admit that it's vastly easier for people with no immediate dependents to make that sort of decision. I kicked in for education of enough nextgen in my family to figure ok been there done that, they're on their own now... but I realize it's not the same when it's your son or daughter who is short the money for graduate school or money to tide over while job-hunting. Still, I noticed that some of my friends around here who worked in tech and do have kids also put in their papers early and wandered off to do something with less 24/7 pressure, often focused on avocations they'd cultivated in their little bits of spare time and over vacations taken as three-day weekends for years.

Great post, somehow I had missed it earlier.

A good thread , very personal

Those of us in our 40s and 50s are still young by today’s standards

Health is another thing ... not to be taken for granted

Job worries unfortunately are justified indeed, but not because of our age but because there is something seriuosly wrong in our society ... other cultures worship their elders , we on the other hand are just too materialistic and darwinistic ... thankless and heartless ... hope that does change , it really needs to

My grandmother turns 100 this December and I have always been looking up to her, just how she lived and still lives her life

Only recently her health started to decline

Up until then she was younger at heart and stronger in mind than many of the younger generations I have met

I am so looking forward to seeing her

And another excellent and interesting post.

 

[ChrisChaval]

I'm in my mid 50s, and I have to say the things that were becoming difficult in my 40s are getting harder in my mid 50s. You're body is a machine, no question, and after years and years of usage, the parts are showing wear and tear and some are breaking down. I'm in pretty good shape, I run almost daily, I go to cardio classes a number of times a week, and I take karate 4 days a week. yet with that said, parts of my body hurt plain and simple, my ankles, knees, shoulders and back.


Yup, that thought crosses my mind more and more as the calendar months click by and I progress closer to 60.

wow

you are working out harder than many 20 somethings

I certainly would not want to get in some fistfight with you, sir!

Growing older I learned to be more forgiving with my body and my mind

I still am in great shape, lifting weights, cycling .. it is just .. I have to acknowledge and admit I cannot sustain my workout schedule from 20 years ago

but this is ok, this is life, I'll adapt

What I like about be me approaching 50 is that panta rhei attitude

as my body gets weaker, my mind is getting stronger

 

[maflynn]

I have to acknowledge and admit I cannot sustain my workout schedule from 20 years ago

No question, I've changed my outlook and how hard I workout. My lower back prevents a number of things, but I adjust and go with the flow.

 

[eyoungren]

Some men keep their hair until death. Not all go bald.

My dad is 83 and still has a head full of thick hair. It's all gray, but as I mentioned earlier the men in my family go gray early.

Between the two, gray or bald, I'm happy to accept going gray early.

Nevertheless, because I hate managing my hair, about once every month and a half I buzz cut my hair. It's just easier to deal with, especially in the summer months.

 

[jbarley]

It also helps if you change your routines as you grow older, like for instance...
Now when I'm stooped over tying my shoe laces I stop and think, "is there anything else I can do while I'm down here".

 

[DJ_Smith]

And, let me get this right, you're, what is it again, did you say, - or write - 82?

Thanks for deciphering my post son. My eyesight is not what it used to be. I need time machine.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Thanks for deciphering my post son. My eyesight is not what it used to be. I need time machine.

Given what you wrote, and the affiliations you mentioned, I assumed that it was unlikely that you were all of 28.

 

[AlliFlowers]

My mother says "getting old is all it's cracked up to be."

I'm only 60, but I'm enjoying the journey.

 

[DJ_Smith]

Given what you wrote, and the affiliations you mentioned, I assumed that it was unlikely that you were all of 28.

Oh boy, I’m definitely old. People tend to call me “grandpa” theses days.

 

[Huntn]

Some years ago I asked myself, would I relive those past years, decades. Knowing what I went through in my life, the answer is a definite no.

Me neither, because, I know after the good ole young days, which were ok, but awkward at times, comes the old new days.

I’ve said this before, but knowing what I know about the life span of human beings, in say 80 years average you’ve got the potential for about 30 good years, and besides childhood which could be good or bad (possibly add 10 years) the rest is slow deterioration and dealing with everything you physically have being slowly (or rapidly) taken away from you. I’ve hit my 60s spending a bit of time considering what the point was, and if there was even a point.

If I am in a circumstance where I get to volunteer for another trip to the Earth Simulator, that would depend on several things, existence and self awareness beat oblivion obviously, but I’d have to see, or remember, what the other side looks like before I could make an informed decision, if I get to make that decision.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Me neither, because, I know after the good ole young days, which were ok, but awkward at times, comes the old new days.

I’ve said this before, but knowing what I know about the life span of human beings, in say 80 years average you’ve got the potential for about 30 good years, and besides childhood which could be good or bad (possibly add 10 years) the rest is slow deterioration and dealing with everything you physically have being slowly (or rapidly) taken away from you. I’ve hit my 60s spending a bit of time considering what the point was, and if there was even a point.

If I am in a circumstance where I get to volunteer for another trip to the Earth Simulator, that would depend on several things, existence and self awareness beets oblivion obviously, but I’d have to see, or remember, what the other side looks like before I could make an informed decision, if I get to make that decision.

@Huntn: You were an airline pilot (and a Navy officer) - a career you had dreamed of, growing up in one of the richest societies in history at a time when social mobility, educational opportunities, political choice, and the chance to live interesting, fulfilling and rewarding lives - along with reasonable health - were possible, things that were not possible, or available or imaginable for enormous numbers of the world's population, even now.

Someone from your background got to marry and raise a family with someone of your choosing - again, something that is not the norm in vast parts of the planet, particularly for women but also for men.

Candidly, I think you doth protest too much.

And whatever about deteriorating response times, and creaking or aching joints, the acquisition of judgment, expense and some degree of wisdom (and emotional balance) does offer some compensation.