The "This is EVE2" video looks like it was made with the old graphics. Unless the producer turned it down because of weak computer or something.
But yeah, unless you've played a little the interface is a little complicated. Too many tables and windows and crosshairs. But once you get used to it, it's not as cluttered as some WoW add-on interfaces I've seen where your character is surrounding by like 100 boxes and bars. 🙂
Much of the "difficulty" ppl talk about in EVE is actually in the initial setup of your ships. It takes a lot of knowledge and memory to really understand the mechanics. And you add on top of that the fact that depending on the age of your character, you have "trained" certain time-based "trees", and then you can perform different roles...thus you have to learn that. Like Healer, Tank, DPS, Buff, etc. Which is really needed in end-game. But then you have different approaches like where each ship can heal sort of, while doing moderate DPS. And when grouped together, they all heal the aggroed and adjust DPS accordingly....which works on certain fights.
As for getting butt kicked, in reality, the vast majority of ppl hang out in the "safe part" of the universe. That's where most of the action happens, like commerce and "quests" and grinding. It's my guess that over 50% at least are not at War with another faction and 75% just hang out in the safe areas. Unfortunately, the "contested areas" (the biggest) are not really that crowded and in some areas, you can litterally stay there for hours and no one passes through. But the trick is, whatever loot you get needs to be brought back to the safe area where it's easiest to sell unless you joined a Faction and can use it in their territory. So since many ppl do this, some players try to intercept you at choke points to blow you up and take what doesn't get destroyed...disable your ship and randsom you...disable your ship and tell you to dump your cargo...or just blow you up because they think it's funny without carring about money. 😉