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Turning in a family member
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That's your worldview, not mine. I think dealing with my own problems is always an option.
As to how I would do it, that's something I can't know until I have to do it.
But, I am not a rat to friends or family.
Snitches get stitches.
I wouldn't turn anyone in for anything. Never will I make a statement to police under any circumstance.
Ask a law professor, they'll tell you to do the same thing. Talking to the police can only hurt you even if you think you're trying to help someone.
Call me greedy but I'm watching my own ass. There's merit behind the general lack of trust between citizens and the police state. I've seen cops in Chicago do really messed up stuff to innocent people, myself included, and would never trust one as far as I can throw him.
And don't start with the "they serve and protect us" BS- you can serve me better by not harassing me over nothing. I've been abused by authorities enough to know better than to trust them. And I'm not a criminal of any sort, no record or anything. Not even a petty misdemeanor.
I wouldn't turn anyone in for anything. Never will I make a statement to police under any circumstance.
Ask a law professor, they'll tell you to do the same thing. Talking to the police can only hurt you even if you think you're trying to help someone.
Call me greedy but I'm watching my own ass. There's merit behind the general lack of trust between citizens and the police state. I've seen cops in Chicago do really messed up stuff to innocent people, myself included, and would never trust one as far as I can throw him.
And don't start with the "they serve and protect us" BS- you can serve me better by not harassing me over nothing. I've been abused by authorities enough to know better than to trust them. And I'm not a criminal of any sort, no record or anything. Not even a petty misdemeanor.
Well, sure, spoil the kid!
But more seriously, did you discipline him in some way?
Well, he was one, so he didn't know better. I returned the toy (a hideous $3 no name wooden train) the next time I visited the store and the sales clerk was understanding.
He's now three and he understands the concept of money and theft. Of course, he now wants me to buy everything and tells me to go to work in the morning to bring more money.
LOL
He's learning fast! You have a smart little guy.
Next time he says it, tell him it will soon be time for him to get a job!
I knew of a similar case... have you tried finding a contact person she could confide in and help her with it (i am talking of an adult) could be a school consellor.... or something who you know is trustable.
Thanks you for the advice
However I have tried to get her to tell someone about it, but she is in denial, she acts like the problem isn't there. She won't admit that her Dad hits her, although it is obvious that he does... I can understand why she is scared of him. He's a real nasty piece of work that guy is 
Thanks you for the advice
Wow thats really sad to hear, you really should tell someone without telling her about it because if he hits her now who knows what else he is capable of?
Mmm, I'm going to... Does anyone know what the government would do with an underage person if they were taken away from an abusive parent and no one else would take them (as far as I know she had no where else to go
)?Thanks you
Mmm, I'm going to... Does anyone know what the government would do with an underage person if they were taken away from an abusive parent and no one else would take them (as far as I know she had no where else to go
Thanks you
I am sure they would be taken to a foster home i guess?
The child(ren) will end up foster care.Mmm, I'm going to... Does anyone know what the government would do with an underage person if they were taken away from an abusive parent and no one else would take them (as far as I know she had no where else to go
Thanks you
I've actually done it.
Twice.
Dangerous people are dangerous. The social contract — and more importantly basic morality — doesn't just dissolve when it's convenient to protect blood. Every rapist, murderer, drug trafficker is someone's son or daughter, grew up in someone's home, and whatever they've done doesn't change those blood ties, even if it means they're not going to be in the family Christmas card anymore.
Maybe I saved a couple lives, maybe I got to see some justice done, maybe I just delayed the inevitable and maybe I didn't accomplish anything except guaranteeing I'll wake up some day to find a knife in my back. But I can sleep at night; I can live with who I am and what I've done.
…I'm too young to be this ****ing old.
Twice.
Dangerous people are dangerous. The social contract — and more importantly basic morality — doesn't just dissolve when it's convenient to protect blood. Every rapist, murderer, drug trafficker is someone's son or daughter, grew up in someone's home, and whatever they've done doesn't change those blood ties, even if it means they're not going to be in the family Christmas card anymore.
Maybe I saved a couple lives, maybe I got to see some justice done, maybe I just delayed the inevitable and maybe I didn't accomplish anything except guaranteeing I'll wake up some day to find a knife in my back. But I can sleep at night; I can live with who I am and what I've done.
…I'm too young to be this ****ing old.
Cuz aiding and abetting is such a tough guy thing to do.
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Mmm, I wonder how that'd work out
I have to tell the police though, even though she might hate me for it...
Sometimes someones safety is more important she might you now but when you grow up she will love you for itMmm, I wonder how that'd work out
I can only guarantee I'd turn them in for a very serious crime like rape or murder, as long as there was no doubt that they did it.
For everything else it just depends on what they did. Stole money from some poor elderly couples and now they can no longer afford to survive? They're getting turned in. Stole a dog from the local pet store? Just don't hide it in my house.
For everything else it just depends on what they did. Stole money from some poor elderly couples and now they can no longer afford to survive? They're getting turned in. Stole a dog from the local pet store? Just don't hide it in my house.
Sometimes someones safety is more important she might you now but when you grow up she will love you for it
Yeah, I guess she will come round eventually... I just hope she doesn't freak too much when the cops come knocking on the door.
Its alright you can go over to her house and keep her company and explain
she should know this isn't fair getting hit so just do it soon.Yes I would turn in a family member if they committed a crime. I would be proud to do it. My family members would do the same to me in a heartbeat. My family is just a bunch of takers and are NOT nice people at all. I want ABSOLUTELY no contact with ANY blood relitive family I have. BOTH Mom's side AND Dad's side!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yeah, that sounds the real Kiwi thing to do. Dob them in, here I'll give you the
Crimestoppers 0800 555 111,
number for you. It's freephone so you won't be losing coin or sleep in turning in your kith and kin.
KGB
Crimestoppers 0800 555 111,
number for you. It's freephone so you won't be losing coin or sleep in turning in your kith and kin.
KGB
Yes.
Though it was easy - they were stealing my identity, which resulted in credit fraud. Glad the bastard (older brother) got put (back) in jail.
Most credit card companies want a police report anyways when dealing with credit fraud claims to get the charges wiped from your account.
Its alright you can go over to her house and keep her company and explain
Yeah, that sounds the real Kiwi thing to do. Dob them in, here I'll give you the
Crimestoppers 0800 555 111,
number for you. It's freephone so you won't be losing coin or sleep in turning in your kith and kin.
KGB
Ok, I've done it. I called the police and told them. Thanks you guys, thanks... very much
Ok, I've done it. I called the police and told them. Thanks you guys, thanks... very much
well let me know how it goes in my messages not stalker lol but just want to see if she gets justice
well let me know how it goes in my messages not stalker lol but just want to see if she gets justice
Yeah, I'll PM you
(When something happens)
Many years ago, my Brother broke the law here in the UK. We were just kids at the time, but that's no excuse. His actions which I won't detail here, even though he is now decesased resulted in serious injury to several other people.
At first, he was not at all contrite, and refused to even consider turning himself in but after about a week with me nagging him, he did.
He was charged, but the people he caused harm to we're his buddies, and they persuaded Thier parents to drop charges against him.
He wet home to the States shortly thereafter, and joined the USN, as far as I know my statement to him informing him that I WOULD turn him in influenced his decision, and he didn't cross the line again.
At first, he was not at all contrite, and refused to even consider turning himself in but after about a week with me nagging him, he did.
He was charged, but the people he caused harm to we're his buddies, and they persuaded Thier parents to drop charges against him.
He wet home to the States shortly thereafter, and joined the USN, as far as I know my statement to him informing him that I WOULD turn him in influenced his decision, and he didn't cross the line again.
Yeah, I'll PM you
Big Kudos to you. That cannot have been easy at all. I have real respect for what you've done here, risking your friendship for the safety of your friend. I really hope she understands. Well done mrsir