IT'S ALIVE!!!
Just finished my processor install and everything seems to be going well. I just ran Geekbench 3 64bit and it got:
Single Core: 2430 (from 1838)
Multi-Core: 26214 (from 14094)
Also I reset my ram and it's running at 1333!
In about a months time my 2009 mac went from this:
2.26 8 core ---> 2.8 12 core
16gb 1064 ram ---> 32gb 1333 ram
stock Radeon GPU ---> Sapphire 7950 Mac Edition
HDD Boot ---> 480bg SSD Boot
no USB3 ---> USB3.0 PCIe
OS10.6 ---> OS10.9
FCP 7 ---> FCP X
So I basically feel like I have a new computer that will last me several more years for video editing and hopefully will be adequate to start my foray into 4K in the next year or so before I eventually get a second or third gen nMP.
THANK YOU to everyone who contributed to the thread and helped with this install. I'm very happy to have done this to my computer. Also this website mentioned early in this thread was a great resource:
http://pindelski.org/Photography/mac-pro/
I used the washers for my install as an insurance policy. I found counting the turns to be difficult. I just tightened until I felt the same amount of resistance that I felt when I loosened the bolts.