What compliment do you like to hear the most?

[Scepticalscribe]

To those gentlemen who insist on the right to compliment a woman (on her appearance) in a professional setting (and become riled when she doesn't respond as you would like), a question occurs which may also serve to put this in context: Would you compliment a superior who is a woman, or a boss who is female? Or, are such compliments directed at subordinates, or those who report to you?

When someone holds a door open for me, regardless of their gender or their age, I always say "thank you," as it is a nice thing for someone to do -- and while I don't expect it, I appreciate it when someone thanks me for holding a door open for them, too.

In my teens and twenties, such a gesture would have smacked of sexism, and, to my mind, benevolent sexism is still sexism.

However, as it happens, I am no longer in my teens or twenties, and, these days, if someone holds a door open for me, especially if they have seen that my hands are busy with bags, I thank them as a matter of course.

And, until the advent of Covid-19, I usually held the door open for the person behind me (irrespective of gender) if I preceded them.

 

[Apple fanboy]

To those gentlemen who insist on the right to compliment a woman (on her appearance) in a professional setting (and become riled when she doesn't respond as you would like), a question occurs which may also serve to put this in context: Would you compliment a superior who is a womna, or a boss who is female? Or, are such compliments directed at subordinates, or those who report to you?



In my teens and twenties, such a gesture would have smacked of sexism, and, to my mind, benevolent sexism is still sexism.

However, as it happens, I am no longer in my teens or twenties, and, these days, if someone holds a door open for me, especially if they have seen that my hands are busy with bags, I thank them as a matter of course.

And, until the advent of Covid-19, I usually held the door open for the person behind me (irrespective of gender) if I preceded them.

Exactly. Door holding is not dependent on gender. I suppose I probably would hold the door open longer for an OAP than I would someone younger than me. Manors cost nothing. I would certainly thank anyone who held a door open for me.

 

[D.T.]

Manors cost nothing.

I don't know, I bet this one is super expensive ...

 

[honestone33]

There is a difference between complimenting your girlfriend (or in my case wife) on how beautiful they are, than a colleague. It would be strange not to compliment your significant other! But of course those compliments shouldn’t be restricted to just the superficial things like looks. But complimenting them on their achievements and other significant things going on in their lives is equally important.

Yes, one needs to both compliment and do gentlemanly "things" for one's girlfriend/wife. I always tell my wife, with every meal she makes, how good it is. As it is, she puts in the time and effort to make the excellent tasting meal, so it is easy for me to compliment her on that. And I also always open doors for my wife, whether it's one of our car doors, or the entrance to an establishment. I did the same when we were dating.

Again, it's just a matter of being mature, being a gentleman, showing the woman respect, and of course exercising good manners.