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Leareth

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This is a spin off thread from my " can you ever forgive someone after they cheated on you" thread.

What constitutes cheating by your definition?
Does it change with lenght of relationship? Marriage? Children?
 
At this point I consider physical contact. Flirting in person or on the phone chatting...all that is ok by me. Physical contact and falling in love...yeah that's cheating.
If you love the person you're flirting with (I don't see how you can) but if you do, I'd say your flirting just took a spin towards cheating.
 
Cheating IMO is doing something (be it emotional or physical) with someone else which you know your partner would disapprove of, sometimes strongly. Its all in the eye of the beholder really, if your partner considers it cheating, then its cheating.

Where it gets complicated is when you two aren't exclusive but the same rules apply. If I'm in a serious poly relationship of sorts with someone, that involves doing things that would normally be considered cheating my most couples standards. A good solid base of communication really is key here as in any relationship. Still, if my partner is doing something that I would disapprove of or without my consent I would certainly consider that cheating. Boundaries are important in any sort of relationship.

Sorry, last paragraph went off on a bit of a tangent but its something I've been thinking about a lot lately...
 
Cheating IMO is doing something (be it emotional or physical) with someone else which you know your partner would disapprove of, sometimes strongly. Its all in the eye of the beholder really, if your partner considers it cheating, then its cheating.

exactly. very well put. :apple:
 

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Actually there was a time when I would've done the one in the red sweater, but I was young, overflowing with testosterone and attracted to the mommy types. :p
 
Actually there was a time when I would've done the one in the red sweater, but I was young, overflowing with testosterone and attracted to the mommy types. :p

C'mon why try hide it - you know you want the one one the left... :p ;)
 
when you glue the egg too the spoon in an egg and spoon race, thats cheating.


oh, you meant the other kind, well, talking to somone is NOT, flirting is a BIG maybe, and any physical contact is definetly cheating.
 
This thread took a left turn somewhere!

Cheating is when you take your OS developers and put them to work on a phone. I'll never date another man in a black turtleneck again!

LMAO!

To the OP, if your sitting here analyzing your relationship, don't...

There someone in this world for everyone. If you haven't found that person yet, you will eventually. If there's cheating involved, the current relationship isn't working and its time to move on. Marriage and/or Baby does NOT make things better.
 
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