What do you consider to be cheating?

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  1. Leareth macrumors 68000

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    This is a spin off thread from my " can you ever forgive someone after they cheated on you" thread.

    What constitutes cheating by your definition?
    Does it change with lenght of relationship? Marriage? Children?
     
  2. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    At this point I consider physical contact. Flirting in person or on the phone chatting...all that is ok by me. Physical contact and falling in love...yeah that's cheating.
    If you love the person you're flirting with (I don't see how you can) but if you do, I'd say your flirting just took a spin towards cheating.
     
  3. pilotError macrumors 68020

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    I try and follow Bill Clinton's definition :rolleyes:

    J/K...
     
  4. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    I'm totally down for that then!
     
  5. risc macrumors 68030

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    Anything from under the top but over the bra and above...
     
  6. TheAnswer macrumors 68030

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    Cheating is when you take your OS developers and put them to work on a phone. I'll never date another man in a black turtleneck again! :p
     
  7. obeygiant macrumors 68040

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    I'd say physical contact. But there are things as emotional infidelity.
     
  8. Keebler macrumors 68030

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    LMAO.

    that is bar none, the funniest quote of the day :D
     
  9. mcarnes macrumors 68000

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    I don't consider BJs to be cheating, but actual penetration is a definite grey area.
     
  10. vniow macrumors G4

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    Cheating IMO is doing something (be it emotional or physical) with someone else which you know your partner would disapprove of, sometimes strongly. Its all in the eye of the beholder really, if your partner considers it cheating, then its cheating.

    Where it gets complicated is when you two aren't exclusive but the same rules apply. If I'm in a serious poly relationship of sorts with someone, that involves doing things that would normally be considered cheating my most couples standards. A good solid base of communication really is key here as in any relationship. Still, if my partner is doing something that I would disapprove of or without my consent I would certainly consider that cheating. Boundaries are important in any sort of relationship.

    Sorry, last paragraph went off on a bit of a tangent but its something I've been thinking about a lot lately...
     
  11. gwuMACaddict macrumors 68040

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    exactly. very well put. :apple:
     
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  13. MACDRIVE macrumors 68000

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    What's really bad is when you ask her why she cheated and she replies:

    "Because he's bigger and more satisfying than you are." :cool:
     
  14. TheAnswer macrumors 68030

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    Or she says "He puts in six quarts...":p
     
  15. TheAnswer macrumors 68030

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    the grey area would be here:
     

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  16. bartelby macrumors Core

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    :eek:
    The Horror...the horror!
     
  17. AlBDamned macrumors 68030

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    That is disgusting! LOL!
     
  18. biturbomunkie macrumors 6502a

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    i'll make sure that i'll nowhere be close to teh grey area... ...
     
  19. MACDRIVE macrumors 68000

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    Actually there was a time when I would've done the one in the red sweater, but I was young, overflowing with testosterone and attracted to the mommy types. :p
     
  20. AlBDamned macrumors 68030

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    C'mon why try hide it - you know you want the one one the left... :p ;)
     
  21. millar876 macrumors 6502a

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    when you glue the egg too the spoon in an egg and spoon race, thats cheating.


    oh, you meant the other kind, well, talking to somone is NOT, flirting is a BIG maybe, and any physical contact is definetly cheating.
     
  22. pilotError macrumors 68020

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    This thread took a left turn somewhere!

    LMAO!

    To the OP, if your sitting here analyzing your relationship, don't...

    There someone in this world for everyone. If you haven't found that person yet, you will eventually. If there's cheating involved, the current relationship isn't working and its time to move on. Marriage and/or Baby does NOT make things better.
     
  23. MongoTheGeek macrumors 68040

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    Oddly enough the youngest of the four. She was made up to look old.
     
  24. Abstract macrumors Penryn

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    Oh, I'd definitely hit that. She's small, wrinkly, and sort of reminds me of my grandma.


    "Shake that ass......but please, grandma.....watch yourself."
     

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