What do you do on a date?

[Melrose]

If she's an outdoor person (you either love the snow or hate it) then try something a bit physical outside (sledding, skiing, snow tag, snow angels, yellow snow, etc).

If she's an indoor girl, play a game (board game, card game, etc). Or spend the afternoon doing origami. Or give her a foot massage. There's nothing much to do, really, in a small town. If you plan on driving an hour you can check out something in a more metropolitan area (I grew up in a small town but an hour north we had museums, nice restaurants, coffee shops, etc).

Or Plan B: Laser Tag. Make sure you win. We may not have the technology yet, but one day in the far future, when you two have children, she'll want to know that you have the skills to hit a mofo in the head with a laser from 30 metres during an invasion of your galaxy.

They have strange customs where you are from...

 

[rdowns]

Take her bowling. Once she has become accustomed to handling balls for an hour with you, it won't be as intimidating on later dates.


Or Plan B: Laser Tag. Make sure you win. We may not have the technology yet, but one day in the far future, when you two have children, she'll want to know that you have the skills to hit a mofo in the head with a laser from 30 metres during an invasion of your galaxy.

Explains why you're still a virgin.

 

[mkrishnan]

They have strange customs where you are from...

No, only Abstract has strange customs where he's from.

I don't think movies are good for first dates either, but why are you averse to something like dinner or coffee, Acorn?

My personal take is that I used to spend a lot of money buying a fancy dinner on a first date, and I found that it didn't particularly get me anywhere with anyone. More of my first dates have been things like coffee or museums, although in the summer, yeah, there are outdoor options like fairs and things.

I think one determining factor is your conversational skills, and your perception of hers. Coffee is a demanding first date in that there isn't much to do except talk. If you're not talkers, something physical like sledding is much better, since it gives you something to do (or even a movie gives you something to watch, which communicates what you like and don't like, without having to say it, and gives you something to talk about if you go out for coffee or hot cocoa after). OTOH, if you are talkers, you're just spending time not getting to know each other.

 

[sushi]

I have a date on wed. and have no clue what the hell to do.

Here's an idea. Imagine you and a buddy are going out to have fun. What would you do? Maybe something along those lines.

They key is to find an interesting activity for both of you that can provide a catalyst to learn about each other. Casual activities are best.

 

[mscriv]

Here's an idea. Imagine you and a buddy are going out to have fun. What would you do? Maybe something along those lines.

"I hope you like this place. My buddies and I come here often. They have great food and the prices are really reasonable. For example, a 3 minute private dance is only $20 or the two for one special is $30."

Maybe doing something you'd do with your buddies isn't such a good idea.

 

[rhett7660]

"I hope you like this place. My buddies and I come here often. They have great food and the prices are really reasonable. For example, a 3 minute private dance is only $20 or the two for one special is $30."

Maybe doing something you'd do with your buddies isn't such a good idea.

Ha that made my day!!!!

 

[Gelfin]

Hmmm...I've never spent much time in a small town, but is there a museum or perhaps a performing arts center you could go to? Followed up by a nice dinner?

Ha! You really don't get this "small town" concept at all, do you?

ZA, if it's a "real date" I'm pretty sure the most important thing is just for you to have a plan. As long as it doesn't obviously suck, it doesn't really matter what it is. It's you making the effort that earns points. Your date knows the limitations of your stupid small town as well as you do.

Is there a nearby somewhat-larger town within an hour's drive? It might be worth the trip for something special, and the drive provides a lot of time for conversation. Might require a weekend day, but that's okay, and it's at least slightly warmer during the day.

Disclaimer: What the hell do I know? For me "dates" and "situations that end romantically" have always been completely non-overlapping sets. I think if you want more success dating you should listen to sushi's "hanging out with a buddy" advice in mindset if not in specific detail. If you're too obviously following a social script in your head labeled "How To Have a Date" it will come off awkwardly.

 

[anjinha]

Or Plan B: Laser Tag. Make sure you win. We may not have the technology yet, but one day in the far future, when you two have children, she'll want to know that you have the skills to hit a mofo in the head with a laser from 30 metres during an invasion of your galaxy.

Will you marry me?

 

[arkitect]

Will you marry me?

Shouldn't you "date" first?

OP.
If you have to ask what to do on a date… maybe you're not quite ready yet?


Personally going to see a movie was always bottom of the list of things to do for a first date.

 

[rdowns]

Here's an idea. Imagine you and a buddy are going out to have fun. What would you do? Maybe something along those lines.

He said a date, not a circle jerk.

If your town is that small, seems like taking her out for a meal is pretty much it. Are you close to a bigger town or a city?

 

[nomar383]

Take her bowling. Once she has become accustomed to handling balls for an hour with you, it won't be as intimidating on later dates.


Or Plan B: Laser Tag. Make sure you win. We may not have the technology yet, but one day in the far future, when you two have children, she'll want to know that you have the skills to hit a mofo in the head with a laser from 30 metres during an invasion of your galaxy.

lmao +1

Laser Tag actually is a fun date if you've got a place around. Even my tiny town does.

 

[spacemanps]

get 'er drunkkkk

 

[Grimace]

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-10-things-guys-should-do-on-a-first-date/?cnn=yes

This might be helpful.

 

[xlii]

I never kiss and tell.

 

[Rt&Dzine]

Could you make her dinner? Even if it's a disaster it is an appealing gesture to most girls. Or go bowling. Or Wii bowling.

 

[AngryApple]

Go cow racing on the Wii. Then out for a nice dinner.

 

[Ttownbeast]

get 'er drunkkkk

I agree then it's easier to talk her into anal sex, then on the second date use the strap on on her instead.

 

[Abstract]

Will you marry me?

How good is your aim from 20 metres?

 

[anjinha]

How good is your aim from 20 metres?

I don't know, we don't have laser tag here...

 

[Abstract]

Really!



Then your ball-handling skills better be outstanding.

 

[roadbloc]

Go and hit the clubs with her, followed with a night at your place and then you can get to know each other in the morning when you have brekkie.

 

[sushi]

"I hope you like this place. My buddies and I come here often. They have great food and the prices are really reasonable. For example, a 3 minute private dance is only $20 or the two for one special is $30."

Snort!

Maybe doing something you'd do with your buddies isn't such a good idea.

Well the above wasn't what I had in mind.

I was thinking about catching a movie, eating out, playing put put golf, going to a mall, going for a walk, or something like that.

 

[TheOnlyJon]

Go to the grocery store and buy stuff to make together. My girlfriend and I made pancakes the first time she came over. It was a lot of fun

 

[Zombie Acorn]

I don't think movies are good for first dates either, but why are you averse to something like dinner or coffee, Acorn?

Seems like something more that I would do with my artsy friends, I am not sure she is into this type of stuff so it would be a gamble. Im keeping it as a possibility though, we do have a nice coffee place that is usually pretty quiet.

"I hope you like this place. My buddies and I come here often. They have great food and the prices are really reasonable. For example, a 3 minute private dance is only $20 or the two for one special is $30."

Maybe doing something you'd do with your buddies isn't such a good idea.

ZA, if it's a "real date" I'm pretty sure the most important thing is just for you to have a plan. As long as it doesn't obviously suck, it doesn't really matter what it is. It's you making the effort that earns points. Your date knows the limitations of your stupid small town as well as you do.

I'll keep that in mind and make sure I have a plan, this is a "real date" just for the record though. We occasionally hang out on weekends so I don't think its going to be awkward or anything like it sometimes is normally.

Is there a nearby somewhat-larger town within an hour's drive? It might be worth the trip for something special, and the drive provides a lot of time for conversation. Might require a weekend day, but that's okay, and it's at least slightly warmer during the day.

Yeh, we have a little bigger city about 45-1 hour away, I am not entirely sure if thats too long of a drive for a first date though. I may just be over thinking this entirely.

 

[NeuralControl]

This is a real winner of a thread. More than a few of the posts gave me a good laugh.