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What do you do to keep your relationship strong?
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I thought you were widowed, had a dog and lusted after the paperboy?
Congrats on the marriage!
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Great point barkomatic. Letter writing is another common therapeutic technique because of exactly what you have mentioned here. It also can be beneficial because of the venting aspect and the reality that putting thoughts and feelings into words often brings with it. I think you are also on target in mentioning that healthy relationships give each partner space and aren't smothering.
First of all, find a person you actually like, not just one you want to do.
It's not very easy to find this.
Then it takes honesty and communication. If either of you doesn't like something that's going on, it should be resolved ASAP - though communication.
You have to evolve and mature together and individually. Admit when you are wrong.
Also, don't yell out a bunch of crap to each other while in an argument. One usually doesn't mean that stuff and you might regret it later, but you can't take it back.
I've been with my chick for 13 years. We keep getting closer as time passes. We met right as High School was ending. I'm a lucky mofo.
It's not very easy to find this.
Then it takes honesty and communication. If either of you doesn't like something that's going on, it should be resolved ASAP - though communication.
You have to evolve and mature together and individually. Admit when you are wrong.
Also, don't yell out a bunch of crap to each other while in an argument. One usually doesn't mean that stuff and you might regret it later, but you can't take it back.
I've been with my chick for 13 years. We keep getting closer as time passes.
We met right as High School was ending. I'm a lucky mofo.
The avatar more of reminder where I'm headed than where I am now... for the most part.
The avatar more of reminder where I'm headed than where I am now... for the most part.
I hope it's not the last part
1. respect her
2. i'm there to listen to her whenever she needs an ear
3. texting is huge actually. just little notes here and there make her day. it helps b/c we both run our businesses and i also look after the kids so we work hard and we form a team. we usually send each 'thank you' type messages telling each other how much we appreciate each other's efforts.
it's the little things that matter.
4. i usually have her supper ready. she doesn't expect it, but if i haven't timed it for supper to be ready right away, i usually have it on a plate to be microwaved.
plus, there's alot of sexting too that's good to fire up the woman lol
but that's a whole other topic lol
so many other little things too.
2. i'm there to listen to her whenever she needs an ear
3. texting is huge actually. just little notes here and there make her day. it helps b/c we both run our businesses and i also look after the kids so we work hard and we form a team. we usually send each 'thank you' type messages telling each other how much we appreciate each other's efforts.
it's the little things that matter.
4. i usually have her supper ready. she doesn't expect it, but if i haven't timed it for supper to be ready right away, i usually have it on a plate to be microwaved.
plus, there's alot of sexting too
that's good to fire up the woman lolbut that's a whole other topic lol
so many other little things too.
Chris and I have only been married for two months now, but we've been together for 7 years.
We are a lot like fire and ice, the whole opposites attract thing. He's passive and can remain calm in arguments while I am agressive and have a temper. He's quite, I'm outgoing and bubbly. So, one of the things that we do to avoid arguments and make things smooth is to stick to what we know. If we go to a car dealership (for example) I'm the hardass who deals with the salesman. If we are going somewhere to confront someone (for example a neighbor we are having a problem with) Chris takes the lead because he keeps his cool. It gives our relationship an interesting dynamic and I think makes us both feel like we contribute equally.
We also do the arguments over email thing. It works out great because I can form my thoughts much better in writing and gives us both simmer down time. It really started because of how our relationship started. While we both went to the same high school we got to know each other over IM and email, and it has really stuck with us.
Another thing we do is have specified date nights. Like I mentioned, we just got married very recently, specifically on New Year's Eve. It was a full moon this year, so we promised ourselves that every time there is a full moon we will have a date night. Whether it be staying in watching a movie or going out somewhere we set that time aside to just enjoy each other.
We are a lot like fire and ice, the whole opposites attract thing. He's passive and can remain calm in arguments while I am agressive and have a temper. He's quite, I'm outgoing and bubbly. So, one of the things that we do to avoid arguments and make things smooth is to stick to what we know. If we go to a car dealership (for example) I'm the hardass who deals with the salesman. If we are going somewhere to confront someone (for example a neighbor we are having a problem with) Chris takes the lead because he keeps his cool. It gives our relationship an interesting dynamic and I think makes us both feel like we contribute equally.
We also do the arguments over email thing. It works out great because I can form my thoughts much better in writing and gives us both simmer down time. It really started because of how our relationship started. While we both went to the same high school we got to know each other over IM and email, and it has really stuck with us.
Another thing we do is have specified date nights. Like I mentioned, we just got married very recently, specifically on New Year's Eve. It was a full moon this year, so we promised ourselves that every time there is a full moon we will have a date night. Whether it be staying in watching a movie or going out somewhere we set that time aside to just enjoy each other.