Mine is running Monterey and often consume 20GB or even more. But, I have this funny way of using a browser where I have 150-200+ tabs loaded. They all take memory. I too have 64GB though so plenty free for other tasks.
When I use the phrase "at idle" to describe the situation during an Activity Monitor exam, I mean with nothing else running except startup items, after startup (i.e., so nothing is lurking in caches) following a shutdown with the restore box unchecked. I have that utility's icon on the dock, where I can launch it immediately after boot, and watch it for a minute. E.g., my tweaked MacOS "Mojo" (Mojave) settles in at about 1.95gb out of 8gb ram after a minute, and Sonoma with MDS_stores disabled uses about 2.75 of 8.
20gb out of 64 is way too much unless, as noted, a browser with hundreds of tabs is open. But yeah: kill MDS_stores, always, early, often, and everywhere.
Fun note: I sold a R2D2/dome-type iMac the other day, which had MacOS Tiger running in 235mb of 1gb total ram. There were only eleven items running in Activity Monitor (three of which were Dock, Finder, and Activity Monitor itself). The GUI visual aspect of the desktop environment was what I'd call better-looking than most 2026 linux distros, or Monterey onward Mac, or any version of Windows after 7. --Just goes to show that probably 90% of the OS by this point is hidden telemetry, artificial slowdown* routines, and brain-drain slop code.
(* These slowdown lurches come with regularity every other OS or so: System 6 > 7, 8.1 > 8.5, Tiger > Leopard, Slow Leopard > Lion, El Capitan > Sierra, etc., all without improving visual appearance in any noticeable sense after the debut of cat names.)