efoto said:
The 10-15 dates prior to 'dating' is agreed, but are we talking about those one-night connections or are we referring to finding a girlfriend? I think a few of your points need to be restated depending what you are looking for.
"femanazis", great.
the 10 - 15 in regards to finding a girlfriend
sex is a totally separate thing
takao said:
hm what does "carry yourself" and slouch mean ?
i'm more of a verbal person myself i'm not sensible to body language
about eyecontact: it depends.. when i'm listening i often turn my head away (i guess i hear better on my right ear than on my left ) and fix my eyes on a point/object to concentrate on the speaker and when i speak for my self i turn the head back (at least most of the time)... but it depends on the situation and alcohol level
by carry yourself i mean when you walk in do you communicate power? and slouching means hunched forward, drooping -- basically how is your posture? you can communicate a lot more through better posture.
as far as being sensible to body language ... there is no set formula but pay attention to interactions between people one day, see how the girl communicates with at guy she's interested in, see how she communicates when she's not interested in him.
eye contact is important --- it communicates "i'm not afraid of you" you have to accept evolution in order to understand what i'm saying, i mention this only because i know some people don't and i respect that, but for this conversation, you have to.
basically if we evolved from animals -- in the animal kingdom the goal is the survival and propagation of the species --- in order for the species to survive the the strongest genes must be passed on. NOW ... all males want to pass on their genes, and are designed to do so ... females on the other hand are the ones that need to bare children there fore they only want to to produce the strongest off spring --- this is why we get the ALPHA MALE. we have this same idea with humans ... there are ALPHA MALES and there are BETA males --- the alpha will naturally attract more women -- simply because women see him as genetically strong
were being human comes into play as that we can learn and adopt alpha male qualities. -- you can learn to be more attractive to women.
how?
simple -- note what i'm saying applies to a majority, there are some exceptions but they are not rules, and believe me, this is one place you where the exception IS NOT where you want to be
ACCEPT THAT MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME
women are wired differently then men -- what seems logical to a man makes no sense to a women and vice versa -- they have a lot more going on in their bodies then men do. and they have to deal with a lot more **** then men do.
CONFIDENCE
women are much less superficial then men, men will look to the most attractive female FIRST and will put up with all her ****, because she's beautiful. Women may find a guy "HOT" but that won't be enough to make her attracted to him. and she won't stay with a dumbass
THIS IS ALSO COMMUNICATED THROUGH EYE CONTACT -- always keep eye contact when taking to them, never look away first, and most importantly IF YOU HAVE TO LOOK AWAY NEVER LOOK DOWN
DON'T CARE WHAT SHE THINGS OF YOU
I believe that someone else's opinion of me is NONE of my business -- say it 10 times to yourself everyday ... eventually YOU WILL BELIEVE IT and then when you really don't care what someone thinks of you, you'll enjoy your life a lot more.
how many times have you gone out with someone and been completely nervous cause you were worried if she would like you? DON'T think about it, just enjoy the moment and go with it. to many people get nervous -- it's sex not surgery, it took them a lot longer to learn how to fix heart problems surgically then it did how to stick a penis inside a vagina or how to court a women ... it's in you, don't be afraid of it.
takao said:
well i can't .. even if the girls start talking to me
if she approached you, there is something interesting she found about you, half the work is done ... don't worry about it to much
but understanding body language is key -- words can mean nothing
takao said:
since i'm not sure of that myself it's kinda problematic
And here lies the problem ... you are not just going to find it ... define who you are,
no one will love you if you don't love yourself, and no one can know you if you don't know yourself -- no one is just going to give you the answers ... SMARTEN UP