First of all, I would like to iterate that I do indeed know that posting something like this on the internet may not be the best way to handle this. And it's not the only route I'm taking for advice. Just to make things clear. I need some relationship advice from the MR community. I am posting this here because it's the only internet forum that I know of that would a) care and b) be mature enough to give any advice worth taking. I've read threads with similar themes before and almost all of the responses were well thought out and mature. Here's my situation. I've been in college for two years now. I'll be a junior in the fall officially. I a pretty "sensitive" type of guy. I liked a girl alot in high school, extremely strong feelings and were well mature into development and it wasn't just "puppy love" as some people call stuff like that. But I missed asking her out to the prom by a few hours and my last year and a half of high school (and still today) I regret not acting sooner. It's a mistake I don't ever want to make again and that's what I'm writing this post. So I've been in college for two years. And it while there are ALOT of very very attractive women of all shapes and sizes at my school, I haven't felt "attracted" to any of them. Sure, physically i've been atrracted to many many of them. But not anything beyond strong lust. But I'm taking a summer class and there's this freshman girl that I sit in front of. She is unbelievably perfect in every way. I've been trying to rationalize my feelings with every way I know how and I can't. I havent' felt this way about a girl since the one in high school. Here's the bad part: She's taken. (as you probably guess from my thread title). To make things worse, he lives in missouri... What do I do? I think I pretty much only have a few options as far as I can tell. 1) Don't do anything. She has a boyfriend and that's just all there is to it. 2) Be a arrogant a**hole and make your move(s) anyway. 3) Be "Friends" and wait for the opporutinity to strike. And here's why I dont' feel I can do any of the three. 1) Well that sucks. I respect their relationship 100%, but do I disregard my own feelings? 2) Well obviously I can't choose this one now can I? 3) this is the option I guess I *want* to take but.... with all the girls I've ever known very well, it's ALWAYS the option I take and you end up going nowhere fast. To make matters worse, I am the Software Eng Department for my classes almost all the time, and I seriously don't know how we would spend any time together if it wasnt' a relationship type thing. One plus is that she IS living in the dorms which may work to my advantage. I guess I'm asking for advice here. She missed the day in class where we went to the library's lab and talked about researching. We got a large amount of handouts and we're meeting tomorrow at the library so I can give her the papers. But I've just found out it closed until 12:30 so if she doesn't find out, we may have an excuse to do something different. I know that the vast majority of long distance relationships dont' work out. But that doesn't give me any right to insert myself between them. And this girl is so awesome, I can't imagine the pain I personally would feel if someone broke us up. I have strong moral issues about doing anything of the sort, but I feel so strongly about this girl it's making me reconsider them a little. Thanks for reading whatever you did on this 'wall of text'. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated.