What Was (is) Your Social Status In High School?

[Shotglass]

I went through so many phases in my 'school life'.

In elementary school, I was a weirdo, but got along fine with everybody.
Then we moved, and I got depressed and hated everybody, so everybody hated me.
Then I got into high school, was still a weirdo, but had become increasingly nerdy through being a social reject. From there, I started a gradual process towards being a very social, likable, and relatively popular average guy. If there are people that hate me, it's because they don't know me. Those who know me love me, so I guess I'm in the clear.

 

[dllavaneras]

I was the "do everything by the book" nerd type, but I was also pretty popular and sort of a jock. During Carnaval I would stay in the classroom studying, while everyone else was throwing water balloons outside. I finished 3rd out of 82, but I still managed to be in the starting lineup at volleyball and indoor soccer tournaments. I knew pretty much everyone and got along with pretty much everyone... Still, nerds got picked on a lot and I was no exception

Basically too shy to hit on girls. Didn't learn how easy it was until university....

I'm still too shy to hit on girls, even in college. I've never thought of it as easy!

Be yourself, don't ever change to be popular.

Best advice ever.

For the first half of the 1st semester I tried fitting in with the nerdiest kids i could find but I did not know them very well so i felt like i did not fit in.

I think that's where you went wrong. If you try too hard to fit in, you won't. I'm glad to see that your social status went up after you relaxed a bit!

73-78 school years of high school

That many, eh?

 

[RugoseCone]

I was considered one of the nerds/geeks/losers. I didn't wear the cool clothes or have the right hair style. I certainly wasn't athletic. I was smart and did well, but I didn't have any advanced classes (AP, honors, etc.) so I usually outperformed the people in my classes.

I got picked on constantly about everything listed above, but the odd thing about my school; all the people in my social clique were isolated. The other kids labeled like me all kept to themselves, we didn't socialize together.

Ultimately people began to leave me alone due to my violent outbursts towards the slightest insults. I even went so far as to shove my thumbs into another student's eyes for repeatedly throwing a volleyball at my head. This was all pre-Columbine and I was regarded as a "good boy" by the faculty, so I never got in any trouble, despite going after people in plan view of teachers. They knew I was picked on. I felt backed into a corner and the only way to respond was with violence. For many years after HS I would have just as soon stabbed to death someone I went to school with as say hello to them. All of this was compounded by my father being a total jerk and being emotional abusive. Luckily I had little contact with any of them for the next five years.

So although I don't condone what happened at Columbine, I completely understood it. My classmates' cruelty helped turn me into an isolated and violent teen/20 something. I fantasied about returning to a class reunion and gunning them down. Thankfully I only laugh now at how foolish I was to let so many other people dictate how I felt about myself. Dad is still a jerk, but at least I don't want to kill him anymore. Which I almost did once, but that's another story...

 

[themadchemist]

I was considered one of the nerds/geeks/losers. I didn't wear the cool clothes or have the right hair style. I certainly wasn't athletic. I was smart and did well, but I didn't have any advanced classes (AP, honors, etc.) so I usually outperformed the people in my classes.

I got picked on constantly about everything listed above, but the odd thing about my school; all the people in my social clique were isolated. The other kids labeled like me all kept to themselves, we didn't socialize together.

Ultimately people began to leave me alone due to my violent outbursts towards the slightest insults. I even went so far as to shove my thumbs into another student's eyes for repeatedly throwing a volleyball at my head. This was all pre-Columbine and I was regarded as a "good boy" by the faculty, so I never got in any trouble, despite going after people in plan view of teachers. They knew I was picked on. I felt backed into a corner and the only way to respond was with violence. For many years after HS I would have just as soon stabbed to death someone I went to school with as say hello to them. All of this was compounded by my father being a total jerk and being emotional abusive. Luckily I had little contact with any of them for the next five years.

So although I don't condone what happened at Columbine, I completely understood it. My classmates' cruelty helped turn me into an isolated and violent teen/20 something. I fantasied about returning to a class reunion and gunning them down. Thankfully I only laugh now at how foolish I was to let so many other people dictate how I felt about myself. Dad is still a jerk, but at least I don't want to kill him anymore. Which I almost did once, but that's another story...

I'm sorry to hear things were so rough for you. It sounds like you've been able to move past them, though, and I hope you've been able to find a healthy outlet for your anger and frustration.

 

[scotty96LSC]

Jock with Jock friends and the girls that hung around with Jocks.

 

[PlaceofDis]

i was the quiet, but shy introverted kid with little friends, many acquaintances. probably had more friends at other schools than at mine.

 

[RugoseCone]

I'm sorry to hear things were so rough for you. It sounds like you've been able to move past them, though, and I hope you've been able to find a healthy outlet for your anger and frustration.

Thank you, but it's ancient history. I was emotionally immature to an extreme (obviously). It's really sad though that I could have thrown my life away and potentially ended someone else's just because I was teased. I guess the lesson learned is be careful what you say, because you never know what sort of a troubled person is on the other end of the comment. I truly felt like I had nothing to lose, so prison or death were rapidly evaporating as deterrents for me.

Now I'm in my mid-30's, married for nine years, have a six month old son, and I start work on my Master of Fine Arts in six weeks time. I credit my turn-around to reading Og Mandino's "The Greatest Miracle in the World" at the age of 22. It made me cry when I realized what a fool I had been.

Sometimes I wish I could live the ages of 10 through 21 over, as they were the darkest times of my life, but then I wouldn't be who I am today.

 

[tsvb]

I played sports and was friends with almost everyone. Highschool was a good experience for me.

 

[bbbensen]

*Horrible story*

Im sorry that that happened to you. It seems like some bullies (is that the right word?) push people so hard that it drives them mad. They dont seem to get how much it can influence someone to do something crazy. Im glad that after a few years, you got over it and are living a good life.

We have quite a few "nerds" here. Not surprising considering what website we're on.

Oddly enough my 10 year reunion is next month, but I don't think I'll be going. The people I actually care about I still stay in contact with.

I thought there would be more nerds and less jocks!

But thats me stereotyping. For all I know, one of you coulda won an Olympic gold medal in the high jump!


You should go! It would be fun to see what happened to all of them.

 

[63dot]

What were (are) you?

Were (Are) you popular? Or maybe a nerd?

I cant say yet cause Im entering this year.

EDIT: I decided that Im going to included middle school as well. I dont wanna leave anyone out. Ill be responding my self soon.

nerd, but it got me out of the house immediately via university, and yes i was even more of a nerd in middle school

but i certainly did not have a lot of dating going on during high school as i only had a real gf toward the second semester of my senior year

 

[Eidorian]

Brilliant, unmotivated nerds.

My group still is friends today.

 

[0098386]

Zack Morris, in a way.

I had bleached hair, was a little nerdy, got on with teachers but was in trouble a lot, didn't do much work, hot girlfriend, artistic and musical etc.

Loved every minute of it.

 

[themadchemist]

Zack Morris, in a way.

I had bleached hair, was a little nerdy, got on with teachers but was in trouble a lot, didn't do much work, hot girlfriend etc.

Loved every minute of it.

And to top it off, ten years later, your nerdy side kick is making sex tapes, right?

 

[twistedlegato]

Extremely good looking nerd with style with all the women

Actually, mostly the nerd and women part, the majority of all my BEST friends are girls. But i'm still a "geek/nerd" because i am very techy, and i am apparently "smart".

I enjoy where i am. I am recognized by my peers as a cool person, but not OVERLY cool (aka, the "popular" kids), and i am well respected. I tend to hang out with ever kind of "clique", and do not limit myself to making friends in one group. I find it a lot more fun having friends with many different interests and such.

I am a very artistic (not drawing, more so musical) kid, and don't play sports. But i still have extremely good personal fitness records in PE and such. I am doing Cross Country this Fall, so we'll see how that goes.

Before all this, elementary and middle school, i was badly picked on. Nothing violent, just extremely tough verbal abuse. I realized i didn't want to live the rest of my school career like this. I couldn't stand such things. But i had no idea how i could get it to stop! I was the "odd" kid. I had red hair, black eyebrows, and rather dark skin (i'm still this way, and it's all natural). I was also rather short. I didn't want to change myself. I didn't want to be like the kids who picked on me with all the expensive clothing and being extremely athletic. I just chose to make some lifestyle changes. I really don't know specifically what i did, but i changed (and NO, it wasn't to become popular, i just couldn't stand the bullying). I basically realized that i was different (no i am not gay). My culture is incredible difficult to understand and i look and act differently than any other kid. I am extremely mature for my age (so says a bunch of older kids).

So since i was different, why not show how different is GOOD? I created my own style of clothing. I arranged outfits that most kids would never wear to school (my school at least). You know what happened that day i first wore this stuff? I got TONS of compliments and such. People recognized my different style. I expressed my difference not only through my clothes, but through my actions. I showed people my musical talent, i showed people my respect for them (even the ones that previously bullied me). I did everything i could to get people to respect me for my difference.

You know what happened? It worked!

I can't wait for the rest of school!

 

[63dot]

Extremely good looking nerd with style with all the women

i knew a guy like that and he was an anomaly, one of a kind type of person

very much one of the smarter students, but dressed trendy and was a jock, too

the good thing is he never let it get to his head in any way

everybody liked him in every social group and the odd thing is i never saw him with a girlfriend and i don't think he even chose to go to college even though he certainly had the grades

i think he became a fashion model

oddly, recently at the local university near me, there was this one really smart engeering or science major who got good grades and he entered "america's top model" (male version) and won, so he broke any zoolander stereotypes

 

[Prof.]

"The quiet one"

Also, ppl thought I was a genius so they would always ask me for help. I have no clue why'd they think I'm a genius.

 

[BillyBobBongo]

I went to school in England, and we don't pigeon-hole people here. We mix and integrate with all people from all walks of life.

Back in the day I had long hair, played in a band, competed in sports events and was one of the top science students in the school.

So my social status back then? Well I was well liked by my classmates and I liked them very much also, irrespective of everything that they did or achieved......I liked them for who the were.

 

[twistedlegato]

i knew a guy like that and he was an anomaly, one of a kind type of person

very much one of the smarter students, but dressed trendy and was a jock, too

the good thing is he never let it get to his head in any way

everybody liked him in every social group and the odd thing is i never saw him with a girlfriend and i don't think he even chose to go to college even though he certainly had the grades

i think he became a fashion model

oddly, recently at the local university near me, there was this one really smart engeering or science major who got good grades and he entered "america's top model" (male version) and won, so he broke any zoolander stereotypes

That's sort of creepy how much that sounds like me

I am not pompous in anyway, and i have no girlfriend! Go me

 

[Kardashian]

I'm not being a tw@. Just being honest.

But, I was one of the popular kids. But not in the American teenager high-school movie way.

Our school had lots of different groups. If you've watched Mean Girls, think that.

There was all sorts of people - and I loved it.

Except with one main difference - we all got on.

We were all popular in our own way, and everyone hated bullying. In the last 3 years of school, I don't remember seeing any bullying, and if we did, we'd all pretty much go crazy on the guy/girl/group doing it.

I was in 'that' group of people, who had the 'trendy' hip items of clothing and hair. We had it, but knew it didn't matter.

I dunno, its kinda hard to explain.

We were the Mean Girls Plastic-types, without the bitchyness.

I loved the diversity in my school, and that everyone got along. It was amazing.

(This is mainly about my 6th Form time, urrrm, for America and Canada thats... Senior??)

 

[ErikCLDR]

I am pretty much friends with almost everyone in my grade. I am nice to everyone except some of those who are not nice to me (which is very few), but some people that don't like me I am still nice to.

I am friends with the "in" crowd and I am class president. I go to parties and go places with people. I am pretty athletic. I still have 2 best friends (popular) that I spend much of my time with. That said I am still friends with the not so popular people and don't mind sitting at their lunch table if there are not enough seats at my usual place. Although I am a more popular person, I don't do the things most of them do- alcohol, drugs, etc. My town has nothing to do in it, literally, nothing, and being an upper class town with nothing but farms and woods- drugs seem to be a popular choice of recreation. I however don't believe in altering my consciousness.

I also don't believe in the whole dramatic clique things that seem to occur, I like to think I am more mature than that. My school I don't think has the clique problems like in mean girls, but there are a few different groups. So in summary I guess I go beyond the boundaries of a single social status and I am just laid back. If you're nice to me, I'm nice to you. Thats the way it works.

 

[grouper]

i was the guy that did ballet that was "probably gay"

i was also the smart guy that never showed up

i was generally well liked but not popular
i wasnt exactly social in high school

 

[Teh Don Ditty]

Nerd/Loser. Was rather quiet up until 10th/11th grade. Then I lost a lot of weight and the sarcasm kicked in. Needless to say nobody ever picked on me again after that. Didn't have many friends, I was a slacker and still pulled down a 90 avg.

 

[0098386]

My teachers, from nursery to university all said "bright kid, not reaching full potential". I never pushed myself in school. I think I did a few times in the early years and it didn't pay so I kinda stopped. I didn't study at all for my GCSE's and only failed 2/9 (might have been 11) classes. Walked into college and university from my portfolio alone and neither went off grades (got an unconditional offer from many uni's).

Me= never worked hard in school but did on my own time and projects. Taught myself everything from books, TV and internet.

I miss school now remember charming my way past prefects (or simply climbing over them). Never getting caught on dinner breaks in the village. Getting out of detention almost every time. Drawing so much on my maths coursework, my maths teacher handed the paper into my art teacher and we submitted it as art coursework instead

 

[themadchemist]

I went to school in England, and we don't pigeon-hole people here. We mix and integrate with all people from all walks of life.

Really, now?! Tell that to your dukes.

 

[indiochano]

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