Friends with everyone, enemies with no one. Unfortunately, all my 'friends' forget about me after 3:00 on Friday. Far above the 'nerds', but just under the 'in-crowd'. It's a nice position because I can, and do, associate with everyone, but it's also rather awkward.
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What Was (is) Your Social Status In High School?
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I found that in high school, I too hung out with people far less in the evenings and weekends than I would have liked. It all changes in college because you *live* with these people. I think you tend to make way closer friends in college because you go through everything with those folks. That's not to say I don't have some great friends from high school, but man, the folks from college, we've been through thick and thin together. Just went to the wedding of one of my buddies from college; boy, couldn't have been prouder.
Well to be honest, looking back (although I am still in high school) it probably doesn't really matter where you are on the spectrum of popularity. As long as you have a friend or group of friends it really doesn't matter and doesn't define where you will be in the future.
If I look back to middle school there are some once popular kids that now are friendless and there were kids that weren't so popular that now are. College I am sure is completely different because you basically live with people and you also have a fresh start.
If I look back to middle school there are some once popular kids that now are friendless and there were kids that weren't so popular that now are. College I am sure is completely different because you basically live with people and you also have a fresh start.
When I say that 'people forget about me after 3:00', I really mean 'forget'. I texted two of my so-called friends today to see how their summers are going, and one of them had no clue who I was even after I told her my name. The other one just never responded.
I'm trying to make the best of it. That's not a problem when I'm actually in school, but it's hard right now because I have a wide open summer, but nobody to hang out with. I pretty much just stay at the pool all day drinking coke because I have nothing better to do.
thats unfortunate. they key is just getting out there and just talking to people! remember, people love talking about themselves so be a good listener and you will have a lot of good friends
I made a complete metamorphosis this year. I was the textbook example of an introvert at the beginning of the year (like I had been my entire life), to being able to befriend and talk to anyone. Yet, for some reason, at the end of the day, all of my friends are pretty much gone.
I see what you mean. I have a couple (3 or 4) friends that I meet with after school and such, but most of my class I know in school, and thats it. They never really want to see me out of school, even if I talk to them on a regular basis at school.
Hard to explain but there really aren't any big divides in the school I go to. We just had a Retreat (soul searching, spiritual camp) and I felt the best I've ever felt ever in highschool. EVERYONE went on an emotional roller coaster over those three days. We all cried the first night when we received letters from our parents, and we all made peace with each other on the second night.
http://neonblue2.blogspot.com/2008/07/year-12-retreat.html
http://neonblue2.blogspot.com/2008/07/pictures.html
http://neonblue2.blogspot.com/2008/07/year-12-retreat.html
http://neonblue2.blogspot.com/2008/07/pictures.html
I went to one of 4 HSs in my district and still had a graduating class of 1000 (they are building a 5th HS now after adding freshman centers (out buildings for freshman because of over crowding))
I was the artist/techy/math geek/friendly and outgoing/honors ... person
I got along with most people mainly because I had lived there since i was 4 (most people moved in and out in 3 years on average) and happened to just know atleast 1 or 2 people from each "group" popular/arty/band/etc. growing up and had been friends with them as kids (grade school even if maybe honors classes and such split us up) so everyone just got along with me for the most part I guess. I had my problem people whom i disliked, but I was lucky, knowing pretty much everyone.
I spent so much time in the tech/arch department too that I even knew a bunch of the non-academic oriented people I guess? That's not supposed to sound bad, but more the technical career oriented people who weren't planning on college (going to college/uni whatnot was definitely the norm for my hometown) but going to be mechanics and such - that I wouldn't have known (being in all AP classes) otherwise for the most part, which was cool too.
I hung out with a few people after shcool and am friends with about 10-15 people still and talk to about 3 or 4 on a regular basis and am dating one of my best friends from back in the day for the last 3 years
(just graduated college this last year)
It was nice.
Our middleschool was much more clicky then HS ever was. MIddleschool drove me nuts - with clicks and the "populars" but not so much in HS.
I was the artist/techy/math geek/friendly and outgoing/honors ... person
I got along with most people mainly because I had lived there since i was 4 (most people moved in and out in 3 years on average) and happened to just know atleast 1 or 2 people from each "group" popular/arty/band/etc. growing up and had been friends with them as kids (grade school even if maybe honors classes and such split us up) so everyone just got along with me for the most part I guess. I had my problem people whom i disliked, but I was lucky, knowing pretty much everyone.
I spent so much time in the tech/arch department too that I even knew a bunch of the non-academic oriented people I guess? That's not supposed to sound bad, but more the technical career oriented people who weren't planning on college (going to college/uni whatnot was definitely the norm for my hometown) but going to be mechanics and such - that I wouldn't have known (being in all AP classes) otherwise for the most part, which was cool too.
I hung out with a few people after shcool and am friends with about 10-15 people still and talk to about 3 or 4 on a regular basis and am dating one of my best friends from back in the day for the last 3 years
(just graduated college this last year)It was nice.
Our middleschool was much more clicky then HS ever was. MIddleschool drove me nuts - with clicks and the "populars" but not so much in HS.
"Neek" which is a mix between a nerd and a geek... No idea what the difference is but whatever... Dont care much for school names what whatnot.
Sorry to hear that! Time to get some new friends. But I think what I said still holds--you'll definitely make closer friends in college, and not only will they remember your name, but you'll go through various highly entertaining scrapes with them at all hours of the day and night.
i didn't fit into any mold...i was just me. crazy, crazy me.
i was that "weird" girl who was dressed for a potential unexpected rave. i was in the marching band and chorus group...and the art classes. i got really good grades, but i was a smart-arse and got into fights (only when provoked). i always had a boyfriend. i had a group of 3 very close friends, and i was friends with the older kids *and* the younger kids (we were in a 7-12 building), as well as some of the "jocks", "nerds", and stoners.
i am the same free-spirited sarcastic little twit i was then...now i'm just older and wiser.
i was that "weird" girl who was dressed for a potential unexpected rave.
i was in the marching band and chorus group...and the art classes. i got really good grades, but i was a smart-arse and got into fights (only when provoked). i always had a boyfriend. i had a group of 3 very close friends, and i was friends with the older kids *and* the younger kids (we were in a 7-12 building), as well as some of the "jocks", "nerds", and stoners.i am the same free-spirited sarcastic little twit i was then...now i'm just older and wiser.
starting my junior year this year
i guess you could say that i was/am the cool/smart/don't get on his bad side kinda guy
i know basically everyone...yet i keep my grades up...am in the school band (Drumline/Bass 5)
but i am in no means of a nerd...just worry about my grades yet still have fun with my friends
my sophmore year i dated a senior... so i guess i'm a typical kinda of guy at my high school
i guess you could say that i was/am the cool/smart/don't get on his bad side kinda guy
i know basically everyone...yet i keep my grades up...am in the school band (Drumline/Bass 5
)but i am in no means of a nerd...just worry about my grades yet still have fun with my friends
my sophmore year i dated a senior...
so i guess i'm a typical kinda of guy at my high school
i think if you live in a small town and you went to school with them for 12 years, you will be more bonded with your graduating high school class than with your college mates...just my 2 cents
i have kept in some contact with both and it's hard to say*who i am closest with
though some people call it a taboo, i think many people bond best with co-workers as they usually have something in common, like disliking bosses or the job
i used to work in a civil service job, and we got together weekly and joked about how inefficient the public sector was...great laughs
we would rent movies and when we saw something depicting a government agency, and then compared it against our real jobs, we would bust up and have a great time
I guess so. One of my sophomore (now junior) friends told me a few weeks before school got out that the summer before sophomore year is the summer when you realise who your real friends are.
I think he's right.
I think, as you say, it's a toss up. I actually did grow up in a small town (!6000 people), though I didn't go to school for the full 12 years there. I showed up after first grade and skipped two grades along the way, and so was only with the same class from 6th through 12th. I made some very close friends, though my most enduring friendships from that period were with a couple of people in classes above me.
My situation might be different from others' because my family moved away from that town almost immediately after I graduated from high school. For that reason, I haven't been back to the town where I grew up in six years or so.
That said, here's what I think the difference is between high school and college. In high school, especially in a small town, you make friends with who's around. The population is often a bit more homogeneous as far as interests go than a larger town or, say, college. My university, for instance, had more undergraduates than my hometown had people. I was exposed to a lot more people who shared my interests, and a lot more really interesting, bright folks, just from the fact that people were coming from all across the country. What's more, people are actually starting to figure what it is they care about when they get to college, at least more so than in high school. I think that opportunity to find people who strongly share your interests (instead of just your zip code) adds a lot to the college experience.
I see where you're coming from, though. Twelve or more years with the same group of people forges strong bonds--time will do that. But I think that for a lot of people, myself included, the four short years of college involve interactions that are so intense and concentrated that they are worth much more than the many years of grade school. Like I said before, you live with these people, and that forces you to work out your differences and get to know each other in a pretty intensely personal way.
But in the end, I'll waffle: What's true for me isn't true for everyone, but the main thing is to find people on whom you can depend and in whom you trust somewhere along the way.
i was just under popular i would say. i didnt really hang out with all the popular kids, mainly because i thought they were all di**s, but i wasnt unpopular by any means
Unpopular
I'm not going to go into details because it's a very long story, but yeah, I had a small group of friends, which I think is better than having a huge group of friends.
I couldn't wait to leave. (This May)
I'm not going to go into details because it's a very long story, but yeah, I had a small group of friends, which I think is better than having a huge group of friends.
I couldn't wait to leave. (This May)
I got through school pretty easily with no real effort. I don't think people liked that very much.
i forgot to mention that i moved halfway across the country about 2 months before starting high school, which was actually a good thing, as i had like 2 'meh' friends in jr. high and had the loser rep in the eyes of my peers, despite being very smart. so i pretty much had a fresh start for me in high school with no past rep to bog me down. if i went to high school back in texas (where i moved from), i probably would have been loser material in high school due to my previous rep in jr. high instead of being a boundary spanner (there was going to be at least one peer from jr. high at every school in the district, so there would be no escaping my previous rep. thankfully, i was the only one to move out of the district from my jr. high class). so at least for me, having no history with my high school peers helped me avoid being bullied as much (but i was still bullied to a point in high school) and actually had a couple of okay friends in school.