My father.
He was a funny, warm, kind and generous man, a handsome one, too, and, in his later years, a wise and supportive mentor, friend and partner to many, above all, to my mother, to whom he was happily married for just under 45 years. She never got over his death 15 years ago.
Today would have been his birthday, and he would have been all of 91.
He loved to celebrate his birthday, his wedding anniversary, Christmas, and his wife's birthday.
Actually, he never, ever, forgot anyone's birthday, my mother's, ours - his children, - his sister, who adored him, his mother while she lived, - and always selected, with much careful and caring thought, appropriate cards and gifts for everyone on the day of their respective birthdays and for Christmas.
And he loved to receive gifts, and was a thrilled recipient of CDs of the sort of obscure 40s & 50s music (Charles Trenet, anyone?) that he loved, when I had managed to find them for him; and he loved American jazz (Ella, Louis Armstrong, Glenn Miller, the Dorsey brothers etc) and classical music.
He had wanted a gold chain, and my mother, for his birthday one year, laughing, drew a picture of links in a gold chain on the card she gave him, and wrote that the sketched links were a pictorial representation of a gold chain he could expect to receive in the future, as a belated birthday gift, possibly when they went to Turkey later in the year, on holidays.
While we laughed at the time, (and he looked at her as if to say "hm, yeah, right"), a gold chain did indeed materialise that year, on holidays, in Turkey, selected by him, paid for by her.
He wore it until two days before his death, when he was admitted to hospital, and gave it to her for safekeeping, and to wear. She, in turn, wore it and then gave it to me, around two years after his death.
So, today, I am wearing it, in honour of, and in memory of, the pair of them.