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When did you lose your virginity?
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penter
macrumors 6502a
I think that your gender and age, and all the anxiousness associated with them are fitting justification for the nature of such post.
I shouldn't even be talking, though. I'm only 18. It's not like i don't have all that built up anxiousness or curiosity.
Also, to the really conservative ones out there: chill out. If you don't wanna answer, then don't.
I lost it shortly after my 14th B-day.
At the time the idea of having lost it at 14 was awesome (still is).
The experience itself was horrible, though...
What you are describing is inherent of the still-largely patriarchal society that we live in. Latin countries tend to be much worse in that aspect, though, consider yourself lucky.
I've always thought about that. In a way , however, girls are at fault for this, too, because they - for most part - chose to conform to the norms of this society in fear of being dubbed as sluts, or whatnot.
I shouldn't even be talking, though. I'm only 18. It's not like i don't have all that built up anxiousness or curiosity.
Also, to the really conservative ones out there: chill out. If you don't wanna answer, then don't.
I lost it shortly after my 14th B-day.
At the time the idea of having lost it at 14 was awesome (still is).
The experience itself was horrible, though...
What you are describing is inherent of the still-largely patriarchal society that we live in. Latin countries tend to be much worse in that aspect, though, consider yourself lucky.
I've always thought about that. In a way , however, girls are at fault for this, too, because they - for most part - chose to conform to the norms of this society in fear of being dubbed as sluts, or whatnot.
motulist
macrumors 601
Men get some advantages that women don't get, and women get some advantages that men don't get. It's a two way street. IMO, it all balances out.
Abstract
macrumors Penryn
True.
Besides, I don't fully agree with what was said regarding men and women, because when I hear of 22 year olds who have slept with 50+ people, I'm disgusted whether it's a man or woman. Maybe I'm just a prude. I don't know.
It really depends on what sort of people you deal with. There are girls who would give a girl lots of credit if she was able to hook up with a hot guy.
Besides, I don't fully agree with what was said regarding men and women, because when I hear of 22 year olds who have slept with 50+ people, I'm disgusted whether it's a man or woman. Maybe I'm just a prude. I don't know.
It really depends on what sort of people you deal with. There are girls who would give a girl lots of credit if she was able to hook up with a hot guy.
SpaceMagic
macrumors 68000
I think that's really unfair as well; believe me, as long as it's consensual, I see no reason with either men or women having sex with a lot of people. However, I don't like the idea of a man-whore anymore than I like the idea of a female slut; to me, both ideas are pretty despicable.
Funny thing, though; my girlfriend's previous ex lost his to a hooker. Since I really hate the guy (he's a total dick) I love to joke about it to people who know him (and also hate him) or just make fun of him to his face about it.
0098386
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Haha, first time I read this I interpreted it as 22 year olds sleeping with people over the age of 50. Yuck.
Surprised with the amount of 14 and 15s in the thread! I think that's too early. It seems like some people view virginity as a ticking timebomb and wander around thinking "gottaloseit gottaloseit gottaloseit gottaloseit". Take it easy!
I was 18 when I lost mine, took a few goes to get into the rhythm of things 😛 I think I've refound it...
I'm 16, so earlier this year.
Nice Scottish lass, still dating her, so it's all good. I don't like being a 'Wham-Bam-Thankyou-Mam' dude, hahaha.
Nice Scottish lass, still dating her, so it's all good. I don't like being a 'Wham-Bam-Thankyou-Mam' dude, hahaha.
Kardashian
macrumors 68020
Wow.
There's a lot of irritated responses here.
Anyway.
I'm male. Gay. 19. I lost my virginity at 18, and did the other stuff around 14.
There's a lot of irritated responses here.
- If you don't like the thread - don't post. Then you've not 'lowered' yourselves.
- You're on an internet chat room - there's nothing to really be embarrassed about. It's not being broadcast on the 10 o'clock news with your name and picture.
Anyway.
I'm male. Gay. 19. I lost my virginity at 18, and did the other stuff around 14.
leekohler
macrumors G5
Because really, it's kind of silly. It would be more fun to ask how many partners people have had. 😉 Does it really matter at what age one has lost his/her virginity? You'll get roughly the same answers from most people. If you want to know about the "mindset of sex", this is hardly the question to ask. It's boring, to tell the truth. Ask something more fun and you'll have my attention. Of course, I'm baiting you. 😉
So go be a "slut" then. Why do you worry about what others think of you? I'm serious. I'm a gay man who came out when AIDS happened in the early 80's. I don't need to tell you what people said about us during those days (and indeed still do). I protected myself and slept with tons of guys. I've done full frontal nudity in a few films as well. I'm now in my 40's and completely healthy. I like who I am and could give a f*** what people think of me.
You wanna get laid, go do it. But if you're going to sit around later and worry about what people are gonna think of you, please don't. You obviously aren't ready.
Markleshark
macrumors 603
tMac85
macrumors 65816
i read the entire thread. and i still dont think you understand that sex is a serious thing. The way your post read are all in a joking manner, a childish manner, a "awesome i can talk about this now"tone. Like i said i dont know you and i am not telling you to not, but be mature about it, there is no need to brag about it, ( not that you are) or tell everyone.( i understand you are not, but it comes across that way.) It should be a personal thing, private, and somewhat special. (not that it wasnt for you) Lets just not look back in 5 years and regret talking about it so casually. ( i know you are interested in the conversation about it, i just feel that you are so young, and mistakes happen. dont take it so personal, just look how you are coming across. (on a computer forum, of all things)
as for YOURE - YOUR'E. I dont put the apostrophe. just like i dont capitalize my "i"s That doesnt mean i spelled it worng. Atleast i put the "e" in the word and know the difference between YOUR and YOUR'E. half the kids on this forum dont.
sorry if i offended you, i was not making fun of you.
I would ask more personal and interesting questions, but I get the feeling people would start reporting me to the mods left and right if I started very personal sex-related threads every which way. Besides, I would just get more flack from the people who think that my questions are too personal and would consequentially reply to flame me, but not answer the question giving me and the thread an unwanted bad rep.
No, I understand sex is supposed to be fun and that's all I understand about it. Saying it's serious takes all the joy out of it. A lot of the times in bed, I'm joking half the time, which only serves to make it more fun for the both of us. So I think you maybe need to chill out and lighten up.
As to half the kids on this forum not knowing the difference between you're and your, there, they're, and their, and other assorted homophones, don't forget; half the adults don't know the difference either. Bad grammar is not restricted only to childern
You need to meet this person before you say I'm being immature. Really. Until then, you won't get it.
tMac85
macrumors 65816
you win.
congrats.
have FUN
and i didnt say you were being immature. there is a difference.
kretzy
macrumors 604
So what's the difference between "your'e" and "you're"?
As for the rest of your post, I don't think the OP has been immature about anything at all in this thread. I understand and respect that some people feel that it's a private thing and maybe shouldn't be a topic for casual conversation but no one's forcing you to post anything. He was curious and asked a question...no need for being judgmental.
As for me...I lost mine when I was 18. It felt right at the time and I have no regrets about it whatsoever.
tMac85
macrumors 65816
FUNNY! my mistake!
and i never said immature. i just feel the way he talks about it, he makes it sound so very casual. but hey i could be wrong. so i gave my 2 cents and he can take it or leave it.
I never said you called me immature. raggedjimmi called me immature. I think you may have misread my post.
Sometimes I can't tell, though; when you said have fun, were you being sarcastic?
EDIT:
Yes, I do sound casual about sex, but like I said earlier, it's because I don't think it should be too serious. If you put sex on a pedestal, don't let anyone talk about it, and make it incredibly taboo, then chances are people won't enjoy it when they finally have it. I believe that as long as you don't give unwanted details, they're nothing wrong with talking about sex like yesterday's ballgame. Okay, maybe be a little more discreet than that. Hopefully you get the picture; sometimes I'm terrible at explaining things.
pseudobrit
macrumors 68040
I don't buy into the slut thing. Nothing wrong with a girl who is interested and simply can't wait. My only concern is if she has been responsible about it and has a happy time with me.
First time? There I was in full adult disguise, sipping my sophisticated drink in the trendy bar. Through the smoke and ferns (this was long ago) I saw her, all languid eyes and pouty lips. She smiled at me! A drink appeared, and then another...
First time? There I was in full adult disguise, sipping my sophisticated drink in the trendy bar. Through the smoke and ferns (this was long ago) I saw her, all languid eyes and pouty lips. She smiled at me! A drink appeared, and then another...
Iscariot
macrumors 68030
I'm starting to get some blips on my righteousometer.
All y'all need to chill out. If you're comfortable answer the OP's question that's dandy, but if you're opining on the opinion or experiences of another poster then you're politicizing a thread that don't need to be politicized. If you want to dish it out on the pros and cons of virginity then feel free to make your own thread. Otherwise all you're doing is picking a fight on a personal issue that doesn't warrant it. And I assure you as it has been in the past, when it comes to a war of words you best get out of here before the Brits wake up, on account of them inventing most of 'em.
All y'all need to chill out. If you're comfortable answer the OP's question that's dandy, but if you're opining on the opinion or experiences of another poster then you're politicizing a thread that don't need to be politicized. If you want to dish it out on the pros and cons of virginity then feel free to make your own thread. Otherwise all you're doing is picking a fight on a personal issue that doesn't warrant it. And I assure you as it has been in the past, when it comes to a war of words you best get out of here before the Brits wake up, on account of them inventing most of 'em.
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