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You don't truly lose your virginity until you go at it "bareback". Totally different.
 
I started drinking at 14, smoking (I never really did, but yeh) at 15, and smoking weed at 16. Now I'm 17, and I have never had sex. So yeah, despite all efforts, I haven't lost my virginity completely. I don't have a problem with it, but I'm not gonna say I'm proud of it. I don't want to be one of those people who get all defensive about it, and act like it's their choice. I've never met someone who I was actually really in love with, and I'll wait until that happens. It's pretty simple, really.
 
I'm not saying how old -- that's personal.

However, I will say I couldn't wait to get it done and over with.

When I started driving it felt a lot like the first time I had sex; I was nervous and worried I would make a mistake.

But once I got that first time out of the way I couldn't wait to get behind the wheel and do it again. <-- and then do them at the same time :)

The age you should loose your virginity is the age you think you should loose your virginity.

the rest of my post is towards guys because I'm not going to pretend to empathize with the female condition <-- I would be interested in a female perspective for purely academic interest.

you're 30 and haven't had sex yet because you want to wait till your married? great! ... but don't expect any more respect from me on that merit alone.

you lost your virginity at 14? Cool, I hope it was fun, but I hope you used protection because being a dad at 15 won't be fun. <-- and you are certainly no more of a man in my eyes.

Sex is not mystical. It's a primitive biological function no more complicated then going to the bathroom.

You want to hold something of value? do something of value, research a cheap alternative fuel source. <-- as one of a million examples.

Any idiot with an erection can ****.

I'll say it a again, sex is not mystical, and it's not taboo. It is a fun way to burn some calories and a great activity for a day off. It's used for making babies. It can be a great way to get revenge. It can be a great way to get something you want (if you're good ;) ) <-- and to the romantics, it can really bring two people together.

But a man it makes you not.
 
18 and i still have it. I don't care about it at the moment. I would rather have an emotional relationship with someone before a physical one. I think sex is all about trusting the other person completely and i would rather get to know them than have a one night stand
I'm with ya!

I wanna wait for the right person b4 I do anything (too cliche?) As of right now, sex isn't that important to me.

Side Note: With all the complaints I've read saying this topic is "too personal", It sure has taken off. People love talking about sex, no matter the setting.
 
So go be a "slut" then. Why do you worry about what others think of you? I'm serious. I'm a gay man who came out when AIDS happened in the early 80's. I don't need to tell you what people said about us during those days (and indeed still do). I protected myself and slept with tons of guys. I've done full frontal nudity in a few films as well. I'm now in my 40's and completely healthy. I like who I am and could give a f*** what people think of me.

You wanna get laid, go do it. But if you're going to sit around later and worry about what people are gonna think of you, please don't. You obviously aren't ready.

I suppose I didn't really convey that fact that I couldn't care less about what people think about me, but I feel sorry for girls who get a "bad reputation" because they've chosen to have sex. I know a lot of guys at my school are more likely to date a certain girl just because she's willing to have sex with them, and I think thats messed up. And yeah, obviously I'm not ready, which is why I'm not having sex. Unlike a lot of other people my age, I'm in no rush to get it over with!
 
Last time it only has to do with gay sex and not straight sex. Unless terms have changed.:confused:

I've only heard it in terms of gay sex as well. However, upon consulting urban dictionary I read that it can include straight sex as well. But I think that it is more commonly used in terms of gay sex.
 
I suppose I didn't really convey that fact that I couldn't care less about what people think about me, but I feel sorry for girls who get a "bad reputation" because they've chosen to have sex. I know a lot of guys at my school are more likely to date a certain girl just because she's willing to have sex with them, and I think thats messed up. And yeah, obviously I'm not ready, which is why I'm not having sex. Unlike a lot of other people my age, I'm in no rush to get it over with!
Meh, this happens. And TBH the girl with the most respect (on my college course) was the one who never spoke about sex. For all we knew she could have had lads lining up outside her room, or she could be waiting till marriage. We just never knew.

I'll say it a again, sex is not mystical, and it's not taboo. It is a fun way to burn some calories and a great activity for a day off. It's used for making babies. It can be a great way to get revenge. It can be a great way to get something you want (if you're good ;) ) <-- and to the romantics, it can really bring two people together.

It's entirely what you make of it. Remove all standards and humility and such and nothing is taboo. With no external involvement I made the decision to value my virginity - or rather to wait until the perfect moment with the girl I will spend the rest of my life with (give or take possible accidental deaths, emprisonment etc). For a lot of people it is just street cred, it is just something they want to get over and done with as soon as.
I respect anyones choice on the matter because it really is what you make of it yourself. Just one of them things I suppose.
 
It's entirely what you make of it. Remove all standards and humility and such and nothing is taboo. With no external involvement I made the decision to value my virginity - or rather to wait until the perfect moment with the girl I will spend the rest of my life with (give or take possible accidental deaths, emprisonment etc). For a lot of people it is just street cred, it is just something they want to get over and done with as soon as.
I respect anyones choice on the matter because it really is what you make of it yourself. Just one of them things I suppose.

Taboos about sex have been imposed to keep use from going buck wild and having babies we can't support <-- we're not in the animal kingdom. ;) It's why birth control in the sixties created the sexual revolution.

your right, in regards to street cred -- a lot of people do it for that -- hense my "your not a man just cause you figured out the plumbing" speech.

I hold a lot of value in discretion ... As a guy my reputation has the majority of the time worked in my favour. -- However, I do think it's unfair that girls get a reputation and it's negative ... for that reason, I never talk about the girls I sleep with to anyone -- anytime anyone finds it is if SHE told them.

This has actually made for some funny situations in my life -- there has been several occasions where I sat surround by a group of girls, all friends, all of whom I've had some degree if liason with. BUT non of them knew about the other ones -- nothing gets me more excited then sitting in a mine field like that ;)
 
I suppose I didn't really convey that fact that I couldn't care less about what people think about me, but I feel sorry for girls who get a "bad reputation" because they've chosen to have sex. I know a lot of guys at my school are more likely to date a certain girl just because she's willing to have sex with them, and I think thats messed up. And yeah, obviously I'm not ready, which is why I'm not having sex. Unlike a lot of other people my age, I'm in no rush to get it over with!

Good for you.

I was referring to no condom and heterosexual sex.

You bareback, you better damn well be prepared to pay the consequences. Barebacking is the dumbest thing you can do. If you're ready to have a kid, or really wanting a nasty STD, go for it. Otherwise, keep it in your pants, please.
 
Good for you.



You bareback, you better damn well be prepared to pay the consequences. Barebacking is the dumbest thing you can do. If you're ready to have a kid, or really wanting a nasty STD, go for it. Otherwise, keep it in your pants, please.

It depends actually... If you have a long term relationship and both are confortable with it, your girlfirend takes the pill, it prevents 99.9% of the times... so theoretically you COULD have sex without condoms, although me and my girlfriend still do with condoms because we're to afraid of slipping that 0.1%, but sometimes (very often) you just don't care :p
 
It depends actually... If you have a long term relationship and both are confortable with it, your girlfirend takes the pill, it prevents 99.9% of the times... so theoretically you COULD have sex without condoms, although me and my girlfriend still do with condoms because we're to afraid of slipping that 0.1%, but sometimes (very often) you just don't care :p

That would also require that neither of you ever sleep around. And let's face it, do you think either you or your girlfriend would run home and tell the other if that happened? People cheat, it happens.
 
Good for you.



You bareback, you better damn well be prepared to pay the consequences. Barebacking is the dumbest thing you can do. If you're ready to have a kid, or really wanting a nasty STD, go for it. Otherwise, keep it in your pants, please.

Yeah, but what really boggles my mind is that some people think that pulling out is a successful form of birth control. Dumb@$$es.

It depends actually... If you have a long term relationship and both are confortable with it, your girlfirend takes the pill, it prevents 99.9% of the times... so theoretically you COULD have sex without condoms, although me and my girlfriend still do with condoms because we're to afraid of slipping that 0.1%, but sometimes (very often) you just don't care :p

Yeah, even if my girlfriend goes on the pill, I don't know if I would want to do it without condoms, or at least some other form of birth control. But then again, I just worry a lot.

That would also require that neither of you ever sleep around. And let's face it, do you think either you or your girlfriend would run home and tell the other if that happened? People cheat, it happens.

Personally, I would feel too terrible if I had cheated; after the act of cheating had "come to fruition" if you know what I mean, I would just feel really guilty and probably wouldn't be able to face my girlfriend. But that's just me. Plus, I think she too would tell me, or I'd be able to tell; then again, I'm very trusting and don't ever expect her to cheat.
 
I was 14 and a bit drunk at the time (When I say a bit I mean allot:rolleyes:), Ah it was great I thought at the time but looking back I wish I hadn't been drunk, Much better sober.
 
With all this talk of STD's in health class and on the news, it sounds like you're almost guaranteed to get an STD.:eek::eek::eek:
 
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