i can't seem to find where i can change this...
Me either.
It's in the main settings page I'm pretty sure. Under General. My phone is restoring so I can't check it now. But I saw it in my brief pass through settings in order to reset/restore my phone.
I went with 2 for now. I actually like the feel of it a lot. I was worried with the bad reports about "The whole bottom of the phone vibrates" reports. It feels great to me.
Am I alone?
It's the honeymoon period now and no one's going to admit anything. Buyer's are busy setting up the phone and bragging about their purchase.
That new Taptic Engine is going to do some very cool things in the near future.I actually like it and think it feels satisfying. Thats why I went with three, to get the maximum haptic experience.