Again, well stated! And my wife does thank me for doing the household chores.
I also do open doors for other folks, and most of them do say Thank You. But yeah, seems like so many people in this world expect things without showing any appreciation.
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I also do open doors for other folks, and most of them do say Thank You. But yeah, seems like so many people in this world expect things without showing any appreciation.
I know your S.O. is a L.E.O (<— Hey that rhymes), so from me to him in the south, tell him I said thanks! And that’s coming from one in the deep north where it’s a brisk 14°.
Your user name is something! I live just south of Seattle, and we get plenty of rain up here! Also, our youngest son lives in Frisco, Texas, which is north of Dallas (I see you are in Texas), and it is definitely dryer and warmer there. (Sorry to veer somewhat off topic, but could not pass this up).
Equally off topic is that my user name was a combination of what was once my favorite song and the fact that I was born during a rainstorm.
I'm right outside of San Antonio. It has been raining lately but it's certainly not as rainy as Seattle.
I've also lived in Alaska and Florida. I think Texas is just home but I'd truly love it if someday I can live by the ocean once more. I do not miss snow one bit though. Not a fan!
Enjoyed the chat!
Yeah, agree with all this. There are plenty of people with whom I just don't want to interact offline - and I don't! Online is no different. I generally don't "ignore" people after one bad interaction because everyone can have an off day or maybe just be misunderstood, but if I've seen multiple negative posts from the same person, it's time for an ignore. Your experience will be way better for it.
Not that the "ignore" function makes it Ok when people are rude or condescending. But some people just are that way, and often they're the loudest people. Best just not to spend the time or emotional energy on them.
Well stated! But as I said above, when someone makes a rude, inappropriate post, it needs to be reported immediately, and the moderator needs to take stern action immediately.
Agreed.
As far as I am aware, the vast majority of members initially joined the forum to ask a question, - I certainly did - and it is also worth noting that the percentage of forum members who have made only one post is quite high.
Lots of people on the internet (MacRumors included...) are just really rude for literally no reason. I don't understand it either. I guess they're just miserable or they lack basic social skills or something. I make a conscious effort to be nice to even these people (not that I always succeed). It just feels better than retaliating.
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I believe that certain individuals, fail to realise that they are responding or communicating with another human being...
Reported immediately from the member, sure. But for the moderators to need to take action immediately? That’s generally not how it always works. They’re not ‘bots’, where they ‘immediately’ address something right away in every situation, sometimes it might hours, or even a day day or longer. If it’s a blatant rules violation, they probably can take action rather quickly (Assuming they have moderators online), but sometimes it requires back-ended discussion with the other moderators for an outcome if it’s not a clear-cut decision. MacRumors is a massive website, and not also to they deal with the tech side of things, but there’s also the PRSI forum, which is an entire hazard zone on its own.
I reported things that could take a week before the moderators before it was resolved and other times it’s rather quick, but they don’t always have the time to address something ‘immediately’, they all have livelihoods like the rest of us. But they do have moderators staggered across the world that are online at different time zones for those reasons.
Then unfortunately that will not make matters better. The "abusive" poster could continue to make more abusive posts. I guess a good solution could be for a whole bunch of users attach that abusive poster right away, and that could get the attention of the moderators quickly.
Bad idea... this can put you in jeopardy as well as the misbehaving member. Best thing to do is just report the miscreant and move on.
But if enough members do it all at the same time, one would hope that the moderators would be level headed and see that so many folks are objecting to such behavior.
But, I suspect you are right, as it will, most likely, not happen. And yes, I have reported abusive posts before, and hence am aware of that.
I take your point, but most of the time things are fairly clear cut either a rule violation or not. If nine people sprinkled throughout a long thread have replied to the post, it just makes that much more work for me to have to track down those replies and remove them.
I'll tell you what does get a mods attention, is if multiple people have reported the same post. If I check in and there are a dozen or so pending post reports, and one has been reported eight times and all the others one, I'm going to look at the one that was reported by eight different members first. So multiple people reporting is more helpful than multiple people replying in the thread.
Sounds like a sensible approach. If I come across a post that is clearly violating rules I report it.
I don't understand what "attach" means here.
Is it a typo for "attack"? Because as Weaselboy notes above, that would be a bad idea, and can easily get the attacker moderated. The rules state that each member is responsible for their own posts.
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Each member is responsible for only his or her own posts. If another member breaks rules, you may ignore them or report the problem to the moderators, but you may not use it as an excuse to break rules yourself.
If "attach" means "reply", that's also a bad idea, again as pointed out above.
Even if you don't break any rules, we'll still have to find and clean up any posts that replied to the post with an infraction.
If "attach" means "report", then that's a useful response.
If "attach" means something else, then a clarification from @honestone33 would be appreciated. I hate guessing what puppies glean from tippled bards.
Yes, attack! My fat fingers got on the way.I don't understand what "attach" means here.
Is it a typo for "attack"? Because as Weaselboy notes above, that would be a bad idea, and can easily get the attacker moderated. The rules state that each member is responsible for their own posts.
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Each member is responsible for only his or her own posts. If another member breaks rules, you may ignore them or report the problem to the moderators, but you may not use it as an excuse to break rules yourself.
If "attach" means "reply", that's also a bad idea, again as pointed out above.
Even if you don't break any rules, we'll still have to find and clean up any posts that replied to the post with an infraction.
If "attach" means "report", then that's a useful response.
If "attach" means something else, then a clarification from @honestone33 would be appreciated. I hate guessing what puppies glean from tippled bards.
Understand, but to me, it is beneficial to reveal to other users an abusive one. Just letting that person "slide" until a moderator like yourself takes the necessary action to suspend/ban that person still allows time for more abusive posts.
But I see your point about multiple people reporting. Not sure, though, how often that happens. Can you provide any stats for that?
Beneficial? Why would other posters need to rely on another member to show them an ‘abusive’ member? I don’t understand your mentality. What you’re suggesting is ‘bullying the bully’, which is completely counter-productive to the thread and would even create more disruption, Plus; all your efforts will have your posts deleted anyways and you’ll likely end up suspended along with that user. So what exactly would you be accomplishing by doing that? The majority of people on this forum, if they don’t like something they read from someone else, they just ignore them. That’s really how it should be.
Also, there are some users that the only thing they really want to accomplish, is draw a reaction. So by you engaging with them in a similar demeanor, you’re just doing exactly what they want you to.
To simplify things, use the report button, put that individual on your ‘ignore list’ and move along. I know sometimes it can be difficult to not engage, rest assured, Macrumors is a fairly strict site with rules and that individual that’s being rude, they probably won’t last very long.
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I don't have any stats, but just off the top of my head, it happens a few times a week or so where you see a post more than two people reported it.
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Here are some stats that might interest you.
I have a lot of peeps on my ignore list. its for my own good, i know my on-line limitations. Everyone is sooo different.
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-if macrumors dropped the politial section it would be ok. Would be nice to empahasise on the more tech aspect. I really enjoyed the thread; American avaliability of 10Gb internet. It forced me to re think what a single deciaml point move to the right could do to home networking.
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-if macrumors dropped the politial section it would be ok. Would be nice to empahasise on the more tech aspect. I really enjoyed the thread; American avaliability of 10Gb internet. It forced me to re think what a single deciaml point move to the right could do to home networking.
All non-political websites should drop their politics section and BAN politics from being discussed, as it is a malignancy that invariably spreads out and eventually corrupts the site. There are plenty of politics forums online; niche interest sites should be spared the sleaze and echo-chambers of political discussion.
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