You can choose to view it like this (and I'll mention that moderation escalation is already covered in the FAQ, but here we go):
- A newbie posts a first post and calls another user a name. We start out by assuming that this means that 1) the user didn't bother to read the rules, or 2) read the rules but doesn't realize that on this site, we actually take the rules seriously. It might also be that the user has been used to another site where the rules are lax. The goal of moderation is to keep things going with as little interference as possible. So we send a reminder for the name-calling. In many cases, that's all that's needed. The user gets a second chance. The mild moderation reaction (reminder) is a better choice in this case, because for users with good intentions, bringing the thunder isn't necessary or particularly welcoming.
- A user who's been around for a couple years has received a total of two or three reminders for name-calling within the last few months. The user once again posts content that includes name-calling. This time, moderation is escalated, and the user is given a two-day temporary suspension. This is 1) to show that yes, we mean business, and 2) to give the moderators a path to spending less time moderating serial rule-breakers. If the user continues along the same path, a permanent suspension is inevitable down the road.
- A user has been around for many years and had many, many violations and disputes with us about the rules for a period of about two years, including escalated moderation for name-calling. Maybe the user has been rude and insulting in his/her contact messages as well - this is unfortunately not unusual. The escalated moderation might have included a few reminders, then short temporary suspensions, then a few instances of successively longer suspensions. The user then continues to post with no violations for over a year, before again calling another user a name. We might, given the totality of the situation, choose to send a reminder this time. In that reminder, we might add some text mentioning that the user was on a very good streak for a long time, let the user know that we saw and appreciated the cooperation, and encourage the user not to fall back into a bad habit because in that case moderation will need to be escalated quickly. Or we might just send the reminder. The point here is that given the long period of posting within the rules, we might de-escalate moderation. We take the big picture into account, not just the specific rule that was broken.
Before you ask me if the specific numbers apply in all cases, I will say no - these are just examples for the purpose of illustrating my point. The examples are ficitious and simplified for the sake of discussion, but typical.
The same violation is treated differently in the three cases. Disciplinary actions are based on the rule involved, the nature of the violation, and any history of prior violations. For repeated rules violations, discipline may increase from reminders to short time-outs to longer time-outs to a permanent ban. In other words, a one-day suspension for a rules violation can become a multi-day suspension the next time, and a user's moderation history is part of the picture.
Are there exceptions? Sure. Some rules are more serious than others. If a newbie starts off right off the bat with multiple insults, or if the first post contains hate speech, we are more likely to put the account in a permanent suspension immediately. Why? So we can get the user's attention and have a conversation about the rules.
We feel that
this policy is the way in which we can be fair to each user, given their particular circumstances.
Remember that you can't see whether or not another user has gotten a warning or reminder. And to be frank, it's none of your business. Each user is responsible for his or her own posts, regardless of what anyone else posts. If users trust us to be as fair as humanly possible, worry less about how others are being moderated, and pay more attention to their own posts, discussions like this won't be necessary.
After all the explanations we've provided, either you trust that we moderate as fairly as possible or you don't. I think this trust is necessary to have a good experience here. If I don't trust how a site is run or trust the powers that be to treat me fairly, I go elsewhere.