I have played with a XR the 3 times that I have been in Apple Stores since it launched. In my option after having an X for 13 months, I do not consider the XR an upgrade due to the OLED screen on the X, dual lens camera, more premium feeling for me, 3D Touch and smaller bezels. I’m not worried about the battery life on the XR, since my X can go 1.5 days on a single charge with moderate use. Also putting my X side by side with the XR, the XR is not much bigger than my X like the XS Max. Even though the XR display more on the screen than the X it don’t matter to me.
Once again in my opinion, Haptic Touch, aluminum casing, slightly bigger LCD screen, bigger battery and non-premium feeling is a non-factor to me. Case in point, if a XR was given to me, in no way would I use it over my X. Even a year later I love my X and despite the $1249 that I paid for it I don’t regret it one bit.
Yout post says it all, doesn't it? It all comes down to a matter of personal preference.
The differences between them are very clear-cut and documented.
I didn't think the X was a sufficient upgrade over my 7 Plus due to the (for me) insufficient battery life and much smaller screen.