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Would You Date Your Co-Worker?

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HappyDude20

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I just hired at a new place, kinda a small place (reason why i'm hesistant) with no more than 8 employees. Small office but have noticed heavy flirting with one co-worker. Downside here, at least through my eyes is that she is higher up than I am as a lead there.

I've never dated a co-worker before but know of friends that have and personally what i've seen is that the moment you date a co-worker the countdown clock starts ticking till something happens such as one of you leaving, quitting, fired, etc.

My buddy dated his lead last year as they both worked at Starbucks for about 6 months, this same buddy even had sex with another co-worker there but eventually he got fired for making sexual advances to these girls he already had relations with.

Perhaps the question is ultimately answered with my response as to If I would be willing to risk my job...
...But I really like my job! Its so chill and the pay is good...

But am here wondering if you would or wouldn't do it and why/why not?

Thanks guys!
 
Depends if you want to be like your buddy and just screw around with the girls, or if you actually want a relationship with her.
 
Lots of companies have HR policies that prevent office relationships. Generally, it's just not a good idea. Of course there are stories where it has worked out and stories of where employers have made provision or adjustment to accomomdate employee's who want to date, but in my experience there are more failed stories than successful ones.

You said it best yourself, it's a risk that could cost you your job. That being said, life involves risk and the decision is yours to make.
 
Do it, come here and start a new thread about a crazy bitch at work who is stalking your ass and you want Mac girl advice.
 
lukenn said:
Depends if you want to be like your buddy and just screw around with the girls, or if you actually want a relationship with her.
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This ^^^. I've done it twice...once it lasted almost 2 years, the second time she became my wife 😀

-J.-
 
I think if it's a big enough company and there is enough separation between your job roles and how much you interact with each other at work it's not all that bad. I wouldn't want to date/marry somebody I worked very closely with as the thought of seeing the same person 8 hours a day at work and 8 hours a day at home... well... I need my personal time... but with a small place like you're at I would probably avoid it.
 
Tbh op we need a picture (full body) because there is a time when a definatly not has to become a hell yes!
 
Workplace romance with an "equal" co-worker is an iffy prospect at the very least, not to mention somewhat unprofessional. With someone you consider a supervisor or leader, it's a disaster waiting to happen.

Keep your conversations with this person friendly but cordial.

jessica. said:
Do it, come here and start a new thread about a crazy bitch at work who is stalking your ass and you want Mac girl advice.
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ROFL! And a +1 to this, as well.
 
I think its a bad idea. If I went out on a date and my wife caught wind of it, I'd be a dead man 😱
 
I'm going against the grain. I've had workplace romances work out fine and split amicably. You've just got to be more upfront and honest than usual.
 
I had a f*** buddy aka friends with benefits while at one of my jobs.

Never was a problem.

It ultimate depends on how mature the 2 people are about it.
 
It is the breakup that is the problem .... if it gets vindictive it can get ugly for everyone and drag the business into the middle of it -- quite a few extortion attempts happen if one of the parties is married or operating shady operations at work.
 
mscriv said:
Lots of companies have HR policies that prevent office relationships. Generally, it's just not a good idea. Of course there are stories where it has worked out and stories of where employers have made provision or adjustment to accomomdate employee's who want to date, but in my experience there are more failed stories than successful ones.

You said it best yourself, it's a risk that could cost you your job. That being said, life involves risk and the decision is yours to make.
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That is wierd. My last job, a government lab was FILLED with office relationships. It WAS the dating pool for the employees there it seemed. Very strange as every place I had worked previously does not encourage office relationships but that place was so full of them it was crazy
 
We went and met up with a couple of old friends of mine (and their partners) last weekend. Both of them met their gentlemen friends at work, one literally sits across a desk from her husband.

Just saying, like.
 
That's a tough one. On one hand things could work out fine, even if you do break up at some point. On the other it could be a complete nightmare.

The only logical solution is to flip a coin. 🙂
 
I've done this quite a few times. It's fun for a while, but then it sucks.

Eventually you'll stop seeing her, but you still have to see her.
Not cool.

So, if you don't mind being miserable at work, go for it.
 
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