Agreed. Maturity is the key to any relationship. Be honest and upfront. When you're not, THAT's when you pay the consequences. And that of course WILL mean your job. Pretty much gotta weigh what's more valuable and what you don't want to lose: your job or your relationship with her. If she's awesome, a relationship may be worth the risk. But yeah, it's a risk.
Got a tip for us?
Let us know
Become a MacRumors Supporter for $50/year with no ads, ability to filter front page stories, and private forums.
Would You Date Your Co-Worker?
- Thread starter HappyDude20
- Start date
- Sort by reaction score
Agreed. Maturity is the key to any relationship. Be honest and upfront. When you're not, THAT's when you pay the consequences. And that of course WILL mean your job. Pretty much gotta weigh what's more valuable and what you don't want to lose: your job or your relationship with her. If she's awesome, a relationship may be worth the risk. But yeah, it's a risk.
The worst thing could be, she could blackmail you.....and you could get fired.
The best thing could be, she's the love of your life....and she makes you happy for a very very long time
Swings and roundabouts really. All comes down to whether you want to take the risk.
I always tell friends not to but they do anyway.
I can't think of one that's been an out and out disaster actually. One couple is pretty unstable (I turned down a job at their workplace 'cause I wanted to avoid the awkwardness when they fight/break up) but when they're together they're fantastic, my favourite couple. When they're not it's very ugly both at work and outside. I think it's pretty rough on their coworkers as well, awkward at best.
I can't think of one that's been an out and out disaster actually. One couple is pretty unstable (I turned down a job at their workplace 'cause I wanted to avoid the awkwardness when they fight/break up) but when they're together they're fantastic, my favourite couple. When they're not it's very ugly both at work and outside. I think it's pretty rough on their coworkers as well, awkward at best.
no I would not.
I like to keep my personal life separate from my work like
not take work issues home with me
and take home issues to work.
I did have a relationship with a person i met at work how ever we did not start dating until both of us were no longer with that company, and that lasted a few years.
I like to keep my personal life separate from my work like
not take work issues home with me
and take home issues to work.
I did have a relationship with a person i met at work how ever we did not start dating until both of us were no longer with that company, and that lasted a few years.
I'd only do it if I knew of another place where I would be guaranteed to get hired, and so leaving the job was a non-issue. Speaking as someone currently on the job market, I'd do anything I could to keep what I had, even if it meant not starting a relationship.
If you're younger and/or prone to unstable relationships, bad breakups or asymmetric involvements, then maybe you shouldn't.
On the other hand, if both parties are older, more mature and/or are going into it with both eyes open, then there's no reason why a workplace thing can't work. Just be ready to pull the plug sooner rather than later.
Anyway, two of my best friends just had a kid not more than two weeks ago. Can't imagine a better pair of parents or a couple that "just works" better than them. Met at work.
actually, if she is your superior, SHE would get into trouble before you, as you are a "peon", so to speak.
If it is a well paying job, i don't know. If it is a regular job (ala Starbucks, retail), why not. It probably is NOT a good idea in hindsight, but you only live once. Just sayin.
If it is a well paying job, i don't know. If it is a regular job (ala Starbucks, retail), why not. It probably is NOT a good idea in hindsight, but you only live once. Just sayin.
Is anybody else picking up on the fact that she's flirting heavily with him in such a short time? They barely know each other. This doesn't sound like a person that makes wise and prudent choices... sounds more like someone with "issues".
If that doesn't bother you... and you don't mind messing with the chemistry of the workplace, then "do" her. What the heck? You can always get a new job if things go bad. But if you're looking for a relationship, do you really want a woman who flirts heavily with any man that walks past her office? I don't think that would leave me feeling too secure about our relationship.
Of course, I am overlooking that fact that you're sooo good looking that any woman would be compelled to act similarly. Yeah, I sure know what that's like.
If that doesn't bother you... and you don't mind messing with the chemistry of the workplace, then "do" her. What the heck? You can always get a new job if things go bad. But if you're looking for a relationship, do you really want a woman who flirts heavily with any man that walks past her office? I don't think that would leave me feeling too secure about our relationship.
Of course, I am overlooking that fact that you're sooo good looking that any woman would be compelled to act similarly. Yeah, I sure know what that's like.
Yet another ridiculous American idea that stinks of stupidity. I guess that Microsoft doesn't have such a stupid rule or it would have been impossible for Bill Gates to marry his employee Melinda.
Don't do it. You don't want to get fired over something stupid. Things like that have a way of coming back and haunting you down the road.
Too many girls in the world to put yourself in a potentially bad situation. Especially with a group that size, your better off remaining friends/flirt buddies .
Too many girls in the world to put yourself in a potentially bad situation. Especially with a group that size, your better off remaining friends/flirt buddies .
These policies are mainly because of lawsuit happy America where a big cash settlement can result from a sexual harassment lawsuit after the couple breaks up.
As for Bill and Melinda this was during the end of the era where male bosses were expected to date or have affairs with female underlings.
In most places I've worked the HR policies usually draw specific boundary lines regarding personal relationships in the workplace. Managers can't date people that directly report to them and coworkers can't date if they directly work together. In most cases the company doesn't care if you work in accounting and your partner works in marketing three floors up because the two of you will not be directly interacting on work related matters. However, when there is direct work interaction or supervision it does blur the lines and contributes to a potentially unfair work enviornment.
The policies are there not just to protect the company, but to protect the individual employee as well. Being a therapist and bound by professional ethical policies set by both my employer and my state license it all makes perfect sense to me. Not only can I not do it, but I would never consider dating a patient. There's an unethical balance of power in the relationship. Workplace romances share the same ethical types of risk.
Back in undergrad I had a 'fling' for lack of a better term with somebody at a place I did an internship at.
She was a higher rank than me, but in a different department. I was going to work there after graduation, but the company was bought out and all of the IT personnel were dumped.
So, the relationship ended and we went out separate ways.
It could have been a disaster though.
what if the office is paperless?
She was a higher rank than me, but in a different department. I was going to work there after graduation, but the company was bought out and all of the IT personnel were dumped.
So, the relationship ended and we went out separate ways.
It could have been a disaster though.
what if the office is paperless?
If she is hot, get in there
Never think of consequences.
aren't you the one who knocked up your girlfriend? https://forums.macrumors.com/threads/882966/
Sounds like you had not thought about the consequences and now perhaps you should
Dag gummit I had to be the genius that double posted...
anyway I agree with everyone that referenced the above post.
Some people find the sucking part fun.Anyway, dating a coworker is risky. Like any gamble, it can pay off big....but it can also send you to the poor house, if your not careful. She may be worth the risk, though. Only you can judge that. So, if there's no policy against it, feel free to go for it. But don't keep your relationship secret. Everyone should know that you two are involved. It protects each of you (somewhat) from potential "harassment claims."