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17years old and all the hot girls fancy me. So why am I mad?

mpw said:
Had I hooked-up with one of them and not my wife I’d still as likely have been just as happy only a lot earlier.
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Ah, so you are having second thoughts.

Our experiences define who we are. The path that you take defines where you end up. If you go back and take a different fork in the road, then you would have ended up differently.

Don't second guess yourself. We all do it occasionally. But don't.
 
a. women are attracted to a challenge ... the only way you could be more of a challenge is MAYBE (maybe not) a priest

b. women just say things, and they get a reaction like the one you have now. rather then bitching about it, you need to tell them "you missed out, deal with it" <-- the most powerful thing you can say is NO
 
Sometimes I just get fed up with so many girls fancying me, sometimes it seriously annoys me. :eek:

Any advice?
 
revenuee said:
women are attracted to a challenge ...
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Everyone is attracted to a challenge.

link92 said:
Sometimes I just get fed up with so many girls fancying me, sometimes it seriously annoys me. :eek:

Any advice?
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Well, Prince William, it's just one of the burdens you bear as a future king. Best of luck with all that.
 
link92 said:
Sometimes I just get fed up with so many girls fancying me, sometimes it seriously annoys me. :eek:

Any advice?
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I had the same problem, so I decided to be gay. :rolleyes:

Maybe you should do the same.
 
aquajet said:
I had the same problem, so I decided to be gay. :rolleyes:

Maybe you should do the same.
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Is that why all the hot men are gay?? How nice to have that mystery revealed! :rolleyes:
 
mpw said:
Why didn’t they tell me/ask me out then? And even more annoying why did some of the ones I asked out then turn me down?

The point of this thread is to advise our younger members who are desperately trying to start relationships that, if you like someone TELL THEM. What’s the worst that could happen?
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Some thoughts:

1) They have selective memory about how much they really liked you at the time. It's an easy thing to say now, but if they showed no sign of it at the time then that's their fault.

2) A bizarre counter-logic takes over some people that convinces them that running away from someone (or ignoring them) will get them to chase you. Trust me when I say that -- in the long run -- your life is far better because you didn't.

3) This is their way of saying that you were smarter than they were and it took them years to realize that.

4) Hindsight isn't just 20/20. It's selective too. You probably don't dwell much on things that made you happy and how much worse they could have been.

5) Expecting a woman to ask you out is the strategy of a crazy man. Show me a guy who expects women to ask him out, and I'll show you a guy who hasn't been on many dates.
 
mpw said:
I wasn't a geek, my 'problem' was I didn't drink and was 'percieved' as boring for that.

I remember one incident when I was at a party and one girl got really drunk, being a gentleman and sober I walked her home. The walk did her good, she puked and she pissed herself but felt a lot better for it so showered and got dressed again and went back to the party (against my suggestion of going to bed, alone).

Now she says she spurned my romantic advances that night because she knew I was sober and didn’t want to appear a slut to a sober guy. I kind of get what she means when she says that.

But because she was drunk she didn’t have a problem with then going off with three of my drunk friends and [edited out of family forum]. Needless to say she had a hard time combing her hair the next morning.
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Sounds to me like your instincts were correct and you dodged a bullet. 17-year-olds don't know what the hell they want.
 
aloofman said:
5) Expecting a woman to ask you out is the strategy of a crazy man. Show me a guy who expects women to ask him out, and I'll show you a guy who hasn't been on many dates.
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Or a future king of England, or some insanely attractive guy, or a rich guy. Or some combination thereof. ;)
mpw said:
But because she was drunk she didn’t have a problem with then going off with three of my drunk friends and [edited out of family forum]. Needless to say she had a hard time combing her hair the next morning.
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You lost out on a real winner there. :rolleyes:
 
aloofman said:
5) Expecting a woman to ask you out is the strategy of a crazy man. Show me a guy who expects women to ask him out, and I'll show you a guy who hasn't been on many dates.
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I have *rarely* if *ever* asked anyone on a date.

I'm very interested in women, I have just never been the type to "chase" them.

The way I see it, is the harder you look to find something, the less satisfying it will be when you find it.

For example: You could spend every day scanning the sidewalks for dropped money. You're going to find nickels and dimes all the time.

But that wont be nearly as pleasant as finding that $20 bill completely unexpected, which happens very rarely.

Now it works both ways too - I won't date a girl who is obviously "searching." This is why I don't go to clubs and take part in that scene.

I've turned down a fair share of dates, and have been on more than I probably should have.

Just because a guy doesn't seek out and ask girls out on dates does not mean he doesn't or hasn't gone on a lot of them.
 
mad jew said:
Mac's what? Mac's sarcastic face?
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I second that!

And dude, your title makes less sense than your post. How I read it was that you like some 17 year old and you're 20 and married. Bottom line is you're married, keep it in your pants and go back to your family.
 
17-year-olds don't know what the hell they want.
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Thank you, finally someone making some sense around here.

Now that I think about it some more, for some chick to bring something like that up AFTER this many years is kind of ridiculous to me (unless of course it was a close friendship between you and the girl and she never wanted to mess that up so she kept all those feelings to herself) Other than that it sounds like someone is just trying to get attention from you NOW or flirting.

Now personally you should have regretted that fact that you did NOT ever drink socially in high school more than anything if I were you. Its a personal choice I realize but you should've still made friends and hung out even though you didn't drink. Some of the best times I had in high school involved drinking--not necessarily getting drunk and losing control all the time but LAUGHING at all the random things that would happen--you can never have those times again. :D
 
Really, it is pointless to worry about such things. You are married now and unless you are unhappy now, it shouldn't matter. Who knows how things would have turned out if you did date all these girls in high school, what if you got married to a different woman, instead? Would you be happy now? As long as you and your family are happy I don't see the point in dwelling on the past.
 
I do think people are continuing to miss the point - as I see it - of his post, which is that his younger days would have been happier had he acted more on his interests.

Maybe today isn't his happiest day ever, so he's thinking these thoughts, but I don't think he's out to sleep with all the women he could have over a decade ago. I think he's just trying to tell people to avoid the regret of never acting, that's all.

It doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife. It doesn't mean he doesn't love his family. It just means - as I see it - that he regrets being so shy or inactive or whatever when younger.

And, yes, we all have days we ponder what could have been. This is one of his. I don't see a problem with it - I don't see it as a sign he's about to destroy his family with an affair or whatever.

Of course, then again, what do I know? ;)
 
Josh said:
I have *rarely* if *ever* asked anyone on a date.

I'm very interested in women, I have just never been the type to "chase" them.

Just because a guy doesn't seek out and ask girls out on dates does not mean he doesn't or hasn't gone on a lot of them.
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I don't think asking a woman out constitutes chasing them, in and of itself. It's just what almost always has to be done for a date to happen.

I don't get the same analysis from your loose change analogy. Most people don't pick up the nickels and dimes because it's not worth the effort. And people who do pick up loose change can accumulate it and eventually buy something of value. Collecting dud dates does not equal a special someone, however. On the other hand, meeting someone you really dig is all about patience and keeping your eyes open, like finding the $20 bill but with a much bigger payoff.

A lot of people seem to think that dating is like applying for a job, but I say it's more like winning the lottery. It has nothing to do with earning or deserving someone special. If you play more, you win more and you lose more. How much you want to deal with the winning and losing is the choice we're really making.
 
I do think people are continuing to miss the point - as I see it - of his post, which is that his younger days would have been happier had he acted more on his interests.
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I am not missing the point...I could go on all day about this stuff though...the point is that it is all POINTLESS to think about. Oh I WISH my parents had got me into snowboarding when I was like 10---I would trade all the years I was a swimmer and going back and forth swimming laps to be on a board every day! BUT that is life--we all look back and wish we had known things! Geez!!
 
macartistkel said:
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Now personally you should have regretted that fact that you did NOT ever drink socially in high school more than anything if I were you. Its a personal choice I realize but you should've still made friends and hung out even though you didn't drink. Some of the best times I had in high school involved drinking--not necessarily getting drunk and losing control all the time but LAUGHING at all the random things that would happen--you can never have those times again. :D
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Because you can't have fun sober?? I say there's nothing wrong with not drinking in high school. You can still be pals, go to parties and hang out. Maybe you won't feel exactly the same way as everyone else, but you can still really enjoy yourself. I know this as a non-drinker. Drinking is not a must to have good times. It's all a matter of how you decide to interact with everyone else who is drinking when you're not.
 
floriflee said:
Because you can't have fun sober?? I say there's nothing wrong with not drinking in high school. You can still be pals, go to parties and hang out. Maybe you won't feel exactly the same way as everyone else, but you can still really enjoy yourself. I know this as a non-drinker. Drinking is not a must to have good times. It's all a matter of how you decide to interact with everyone else who is drinking when you're not.
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And that is exactly what I said Floriflee...I stated he should have not isolated himself away from everyone just because he chose not to drink! :) There were plenty of times I didn't drink--I was scared of my parents but I had a great time with everyone else! :)
 
I read your post dude and all it said to me was

"My wife is a lumbering gurner, I wish i'd married someone hotter!"

I'm sure she'd be really touched to read that.
 
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