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If you really like her, ask her out for coffee/lunch/dinner. Don't wait for the fear of rejection.
yeh, agree with the above. don't look to be friends with her, not if you want to date her, play it cool. you don't have to go on heavy, when you're talking tell her you want to hear more about, whatever, and ask if she wants to get coffee after work sometime, or invite her with a group of friends for a drink and talk to her but show you're interested. then see what happens
I can see it now... He walks up and asks her out.
Him... "Do you think we can have dinner together sometime"?
Her... "Uh No..."
Getting ready for work the next day would SUCK! Still sticking with my no date company girls policy.
Also, what you have my friend is infatuation. That will eventually wear off and what you are left with will define your relationship.
Him... "Do you think we can have dinner together sometime"?
Her... "Uh No..."
Getting ready for work the next day would SUCK! Still sticking with my no date company girls policy.
Also, what you have my friend is infatuation. That will eventually wear off and what you are left with will define your relationship.
Just a warning... the longer you stay in the friend zone the more you run the risk of staying there forever. Women tend to classify and categorize their relationships early on. She might be interested in you now, but your lack of initiative or response to her could lead to her choosing the friendship path instead of the potential boyfriend path. It's hard to reverse things once you're on the friendship path. With what you have shared, the last thing you want to hear is "oh wow, I wish I had known you felt this way earlier, now that we're such good friends... blah, blah, blah, ... NO".
Just sayin'...
Just sayin'...
In your OP you described her flirting with you. I would say that is a definite sign of interest, unless you are completely overstating how she is towards you and completely understating how she is towards others.
My vote is to go for it now. If you only have a couple months to work together on a project before you move on, you will still be in "honeymoon" phase anyway so the awkwardness will be minimal.
Just don't wait too long. If you do, you can forget ever being romantically involved with her again.
Big +1.
There should be posters in hygiene class about the Friend Zone epidemic.
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Agree with everyone here....just ask her out. The worst thing that could happen is she says "no."
Agree with everyone here....just ask her out. The worst thing that could happen is she says "no."
What does this mean?
I'm not trying to pry into your personal life. But after reading that, this sounds like a temporary situation for at least one of you. If so, how does this factor into your intentions?
op, couldnt you make a fb and request her. if shes dating him chances are it will say on fb unless you can already see her info bc its not blocked. after you get your answer you can ask her out and then delete it.
It's been 10 months and you don't seem to consider her to be a friend, yet you really really like her??? Have you hung out outside of work? That has to be the first step - to get her out as a friend. It doesn't have to start off being romantic right away. If I knew a guy for 10 months and liked him even a little at any point, I would have probably given up and moved on by now. Waiting a few more months is a really bad idea.
Like I said, ask her to hang out, don't pressure her and see where it goes.
Like I said, ask her to hang out, don't pressure her and see where it goes.
1. do not go to a bar after work, thats just creepy right off the bat, especially if she has a boyfriend
2. act quickly to avoid the dreaded 'friend zone'
*edit 10 MONTHS*
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3. ASK HER IF SHE IS SEEING ANYONE? if she is too bad, if she's not take the next step.
2. act quickly to avoid the dreaded 'friend zone'
*edit 10 MONTHS*
EEeEEEEEEEKKKKkk
3. ASK HER IF SHE IS SEEING ANYONE? if she is too bad, if she's not take the next step.
Aah yes, the repressed unrequited lover.
The sight of her makes you freeze. You feel uncomfortable around here. You cannot speak to her without stammering. A simple conversation with her makes you feel ecstatic for the whole day. Everything she does is good and makes her even more perfect than you thought she was.
Yeah been there.
You have to get more confident and stop putting her on a pedestal. If you put her on a pedestal, the relationship will never work. Start by flirting. You have to get her to your level. Right now you probably think she is so much better than you. She is not. She is just like anyone else. You have to realize that and treat her that way. If you can do this, you will have no trouble asking her out confidently.
The sight of her makes you freeze. You feel uncomfortable around here. You cannot speak to her without stammering. A simple conversation with her makes you feel ecstatic for the whole day. Everything she does is good and makes her even more perfect than you thought she was.
Yeah been there.
You have to get more confident and stop putting her on a pedestal. If you put her on a pedestal, the relationship will never work. Start by flirting. You have to get her to your level. Right now you probably think she is so much better than you. She is not. She is just like anyone else. You have to realize that and treat her that way. If you can do this, you will have no trouble asking her out confidently.
You don't need to be overt in your flirting with her (ie. directly asking her if she has a boyfriend). Just drop hints in a playful manner; jokingly tease her about something, and casually touch her on the shoulder while doing so.
You can find out everything you need to know judging by how she responds. Does she look at ease and comfortable when you touch her? Does she laugh at your jokes? Does she respond positively if you "up the ante"? etc. etc.
You can find out everything you need to know judging by how she responds. Does she look at ease and comfortable when you touch her? Does she laugh at your jokes? Does she respond positively if you "up the ante"? etc. etc.
+1! Just like avoiding the whole friend zone is important, this too is crucial! If your relationship starts off really unbalanced, you'll definitely have problems in the long run.
They have a relationship already. It's called "he's the harmless guy that I've been working with for the past 10 months"
Regret can be a terrible thing, and can last a lifetime. There is nothing worse than the unresolved, torturous thoughts of "If only......and what if I had.......?"
This Girl has obviously had a profound effect on you, don't let her slip away without even trying. You mention waiting, BUT, what if she has NO boyfriend now, but does have one by the time you feel you are ready to approach her?? Can you imagine the regret you will feel then?? I think you will torture yourself about her until you know something, anything, about where a relationship with her could go.
Seriously, you have nothing to lose, but your own peace of mind if you continue to wait......for what??
Edit: imagine how you would feel in the next few months if you watched her enter into a relationship with another man that worked closely with the both of you? What an absolute pity that would be..........
Of course, if you do this and get rejected you might as well collect your belongings and turn in notice as your job would be nothing but crap moving forward.
You're right. It's better to prolong a 10 month crush and mentally masturbate about a girl you're never gonna get