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A good rule of thumb is, don't get your honey were you make your money.
Of course there are exceptions to the rule. However in this case, waiting until the project is over might be the best course of action.
Then the time will never be right.
Either you ask her out, or you keep on nudging in the right direction, but persistently, until it just happens. A little aggressive confidence helps.
All these months spent dedicated to that one moment when you finally ask her that one question. Wasted time my friend!
Pass a stool, or get off the toilet.
(Look Ma, no filter!!) Or ask for your thread to be Wasteland'ed.
Why? What is there to be afraid of?
Confront your anxiety head on, or else it will always control you.
You're not meeting her at the altar, you're just going to ask her out on a date. Stop over thinking this.
You don't need to know someone's life story before you ask them out. Either she's also interested and you'll go out on a date, or she's not and you won't. No amount of handwringing and awkward water cooler chit chat is going to change that.
There's no bigger hint than actually asking someone out.
You've already been in the flirting stage for a long time. She is not going to wait forever; if you don't show interest soon, she's going to assume you aren't attracted to her.
If shes an attractive girl, she assumes every guy wants her. There's no need to hint anything, it
probably would creep her out. just ask her out after you've lost that weight( Lettuce beef cereal that's the real reason you're waiting 3 months to do it) and don't put too much stock on wether she accepts you or not cause there's plenty of fish in the sea.
If she does accept make sure you don't do the movies, that's a terrible first date, trust me.
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Than you have no excuse for putting it off longer. Please don't post here until after you've asked her out, you're wasting our time and, more importantly, hurting your chances by putting it off. The forum has given you lots of good advice, now go use it.
Is dating today really this complicated?
I could be wrong, but from what I understand "dating" is the process of getting to know someone to see if you want to take the relationship further.
friends ----> dating ----> exclusive relationship ----> marriage
It's cool that you really like this girl that much, but you really are setting yourself up for a major fall here if things don't work out. Asking her out doesn't mean that you are jumping all the way to exclusivity or to being her "boyfriend". What it means is that you want to get to know her better and see if after some time there is more there. Sometimes people know after one date, sometimes it takes a few dates.
Truly, like I posted before, if you hang around a long time and don't express dating interest then she will assume that you are not interested and you will get categorized as a friend.
You can also do "friend dates" or mini dates where you go out with a group of people to do something fun or just catch lunch together and small talk. This way you can get to know each other better without the pressure of being on an "official date".
Fun things to do that allow for talking and connecting:
That's all I can think of for now, but hopefully there are some good ideas there for you.
I could be wrong, but from what I understand "dating" is the process of getting to know someone to see if you want to take the relationship further.
friends ----> dating ----> exclusive relationship ----> marriage
It's cool that you really like this girl that much, but you really are setting yourself up for a major fall here if things don't work out. Asking her out doesn't mean that you are jumping all the way to exclusivity or to being her "boyfriend". What it means is that you want to get to know her better and see if after some time there is more there. Sometimes people know after one date, sometimes it takes a few dates.
Truly, like I posted before, if you hang around a long time and don't express dating interest then she will assume that you are not interested and you will get categorized as a friend.
You can also do "friend dates" or mini dates where you go out with a group of people to do something fun or just catch lunch together and small talk. This way you can get to know each other better without the pressure of being on an "official date".
Fun things to do that allow for talking and connecting:
Typical - bowling, dinner/movie, mini golf
Fun and active - sporting event (baseball games are good), exercise (go walking, running, hiking, biking, etc), rock climbing (indoor or outdoors), boating, water skiing, tubing, swimming (at the lake, river, or pool), local park or nature center, fishing, or even shooting (local gun range or archery facility).
Creative - art gallery, museum, symphony, or some other local attraction or event, take a one night class together (art, pottery, cooking, photography, etc.), catch a play or theatrical event whether professional or at a local university.
Interactive or progressive dinner - eat each different course at a different restaurant or place, (one place for appetizer, a different place for main course, another different place for desert, and then a final place for post coffee/drinks) or do a cooking dinner where you go to the local farmers market and together pick out all of the ingredients for a meal and then you go somewhere and cook it together.
Community support/Volunteer date - plan to go together to do something in the community that will give back by picking a place to do some volunteer work for a few hours. (food drives, animal shelters, etc, etc.) You could combine this with the cooking date where you prepare a meal together and then take it to a needy family or elderly shut in.
That's all I can think of for now, but hopefully there are some good ideas there for you.
Is dating today really this complicated?
I could be wrong, but from what I understand "dating" is the process of getting to know someone to see if you want to take the relationship further.
friends ----> dating ----> exclusive relationship ----> marriage
It's cool that you really like this girl that much, but you really are setting yourself up for a major fall here if things don't work out. Asking her out doesn't mean that you are jumping all the way to exclusivity or to being her "boyfriend". What it means is that you want to get to know her better and see if after some time there is more there. Sometimes people know after one date, sometimes it takes a few dates.
Truly, like I posted before, if you hang around a long time and don't express dating interest then she will assume that you are not interested and you will get categorized as a friend.
You can also do "friend dates" or mini dates where you go out with a group of people to do something fun or just catch lunch together and small talk. This way you can get to know each other better without the pressure of being on an "official date".
Fun things to do that allow for talking and connecting:
That's all I can think of for now, but hopefully there are some good ideas there for you.
Now THAT is the best advice I have seen! Getting a group together, in which she is included, would take some of the pressure off you; other people being present would make for a comfortable "buffer" against your nervousness. It would also give the two of you some social interaction, completely outside of the work place, where everyone, including yourself, is more relaxed.
Oh, and by the way, her little "hugs" could be sending you a subtle signal. If you read up on body language signals between members of the opposite sex, "touching", whether it is a touching of the arm during conversation, hugs over "little things", etc -all these send out indications of "interest". I remember them well from my single days.
You'll creep her out if you start out with "I've liked you for a long time." Asking her out is enough to let her know you enjoy being around her. If she declines, you move on and treat her as normal.
Life's too short to look back on missed opportunities. Yes there is a right time to ask somebody out (i.e. don't do it in front of a whole crowd of her friends), but just something like "I'm thinking of heading to the farmer's market/coffee shop/etc on Saturday, do you want to come along?" keeps it light and it's not a big deal for either of you if she says no.
Oh, that's hardly sleazy at all.
Then, if things "progress", he could always rely on the "Constanza" excuse.
Then, if things "progress", he could always rely on the "Constanza" excuse.
If it progresses to the point that she sees the real one-eyed jack, it won't matter. That one is in the bag and there is no going back. Score.
Why are you so mean? I'm being nice over here and you're being rude. Make fun of me more if you want to but this technique does work.
Because I'm not getting any.
Seriously, that stick must be getting uncomfortable by now.
I was joking.
(talk about coffee for a bit - maybe through a coffee machine) (as if remembering something) Do you know of ___ down the road - it has the nicest ___.
a) Oh, you've never tried it; Do you want to do after ____?
b) Yeah, apparently it's really good (she might continue, if not then you continue).
There really isn't a "right" time. Sounds like a reason to stall. Do it, get it over with, don't wait 3 months.