Like Apple, you omit the most important part of the email with your ellipsis, much to the point of the first bullet. The full sentence reads "
Apple would need to provide a side letter or alter its contracts and standards documents to remove such restrictions to allow Epic to provide a competing app store and competing payment processing options to iOS customers."
Epic then goes on to advocate for a change in policy so that all developers (like me 😄) can benefit from their request. That is to say, Epic was not seeking a side letter per se, but rather an amendment to the contract - an amendment to be equally applied. The side letter is only mentioned as it is the sole mechanism the Apple Developer Agreement provides for making changes to the contract, including those beyond your normal releases/exclusions an individual would seek (I agree, it's silly). If you actually
read the email, you will see that it is clear as day. It also affirmed in later emails. For ease of reference, you can find all three emails here:
So no, not everything Apple said was true. No, Epic did not demand a side deal. Epic demanded a change in App Store policy, a change that would benefit all developers.
Both Apple and Epic are beholden to their shareholders and to think they are concerned about the well being of others is misguided. Neither one is concerned about other developers -- what we developers must do instead is think for ourselves and determine which outcome is best for our own well being. For developers, that would be Epic's, as it provides more freedoms and more choice.
I encourage everyone to read the rest of the post, it makes for a fun read and it is good to see/understand other people's perspectives.