Did your car come with the 30-pin cable, or did you purchase it separately? Do you not have any of the devices that you used to use with that 30-pin cable anymore? Does your car also lack analog line-in, USB-in and Bluetooth / A2DP? Did you think about the possibility of this being an issue before you ran out and bought a $649-$849 phone with a brand new charge/sync interface on the day it was released?
So lets, see:
It's my fault because...
1. My car isn't new or expensive enough to have all those wireless features built in, and only has an iPod cable that interfaces directly with the head unit for full control.
2. I don't want a mickey mouse solution that doesn't work as well as the last iphone and ipod. I don't want to pay for an extra USB cable that I don't need as a temporary solution with limited functionality, and then pay for the adapter later.
3. I trusted Apple when they said that the adapters would be available in early October. They might be "available" but they certainly aren't AVAILABLE in that I can't buy one, even from a high volume, high profile Apple store. Online they claim "5-7 days" but that's not reassuring compared to what my past experiences have been with that guesstimate, and then I have to pay shipping on top of it.
And yes, I have an old iHome radio, and I can't use that with the iPhone, but waiting on that wasn't bugging me. Waiting on car charging and use IS bugging me, because I'm running out of battery late in the day. If only the battery were 1 mm thicker (and the phone), who knows how my perception would have changed, but right now, we have a phone that's thin for no reason, with limited battery life, and without adapters to allow me to charge it, despite claims by Apple that the battery life is better, the cables would already be ubiquitous, etc.
The new connector was NOT ready for the market. Again, there was no reason for Apple to hide the specs of the connector other than that it wasn't ready in time (including for their own factories), and that is really unforgivable for the world's most valuable company. They screwed over their most loyal customers, and so far haven't fixed ANYTHING.
Maps? Not fixed. I live in LA, and the mapping itself is okay, but the traffic info is a joke (and difficult to read), dropped pin function is broken (won't forget the first dropped pin when getting directions no matter how many others I try to place), satellite/hybrid view is broken (only half the streets overlay).
WiFi? Slow and stalls out so often, can't use it. Have to constantly turn WiFi off and on again to get it to work for more than 5 minutes at best. Staying on LTE is simpler (and FASTER), and so far I've not gone over my monthly limit, but can't take advantage of home networking this way. And App updates stall constantly when I go onto WiFi for them, but don't want to waste quota on apps. Must be my router... oh wait, it's a Time Capsule.
Purple Haze? I stacked my wife's iPhone 4S on top of my phone and moved it around. Hers has no haze, mine does in many situations where there is no flare, not even CLOSE to a flare, just the wrong angle of attack from ambient light. If I put my hand out to shade it like a lens hood, there's a about an inch between not being effective or having my hand in the picture.