There it is. This is why an analogy to Microsoft's old policies on Internet Explorer was inadequate. Microsoft's inclusion of IE didn't force people to use it, but it did prevent a large majority of people from realizing that there were other options. This goes beyond that; Apple is not only including their own apps but also completely preventing any competition for any of their homemade apps. (Safari, Phone, and Mail come to mind, although can you imagine what would happen if someone tried to come up with a competitor for the iPod app?) There is no analogue to this kind of control in the PC world (PC as in any computer, not something that runs Windows) because developers for major operating systems are working in a mostly free market. The app store is not a free market in any sense, which is why I think that they should start getting hit with anti-trust legislation. They are stifling other developers' innovations and creativity for the sake of their own product, and that is what anti-trust legislation is designed to fight.
Best post of this thread. If Apple rejects Spotify as well the EU will come knocking at their door. Apple right now is trying to fight the jailbreakers through legal means so they can continue the monopoly. Interestingly enough not even Microsoft is willing to go down this road of locking down their phones. When their App Store is released users can still download apps outside the store. Apple is setting an ugly precedent which no one else is willing to follow.
They piss off the EU enough and they will go after iTunes as well. Look at what they're doing with Microsoft.