My friend, there is a frontier out there that even after many years remains largely unconquered by the casual user. May I introduce you to Linux, which I think would be a great cult for you to join to regain the status you desire.
The only drawback is they won't give you free bottled water either. In fact you are going to have to figure out how to configure the equipment that manufacturers the bottles, and then secure your own source of potable water which will almost certainly not be in a convenient location.
That's a dead analogy.
Whether it's OpenSUSE, Debian 4.x.x, Ubuntu/Kubuntu, Fedora, CentOS, the configuring is done for the systems.
Package management is sound.
Like OS X, tools that include Apache 2, PHP, other development tools and what not aren't configured to be thee solution for you.
On all those systems, they give example configurations for you to choose from and to implement.
When they get to the level of "It Just Works" you'd better have a new analogy to draw upon.
The Just Works slogan is what we expect from OS X and when it doesn't "Just Work" ala OS X Leopard's bug ridden Installer Apple does what they should do: FIX IT.
I've used NeXTSTEP since '94, worked at NeXT and Apple, used OS X since before it was OS X, and have used Linux daily since 2000.
The beauty of OS X resides in it's Cocoa Frameworks and Development Vision.
Getting rid of the past Carbon kludge is what is helping Apple expand and be able to back up that It Just Works.
Until I start seeing Universities teaching Cocoa/ObjC classes in their Curriculum I don't expect to see OS X crack above 10% market share.