Asking a girl to Prom

AliensAreFuzzy

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Hey guys.
I'm going to be asking this girl to Prom. But I want to do something different to ask her. I was just wondering if you guys had any suggestions for something cool to do.
 

Lacero

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Just ask her out. If you go to great lengths and she turns you down, well... :rolleyes:
 

AliensAreFuzzy

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Lacero said:
Just ask her out. If you go to great lengths and she turns you down, well... :rolleyes:
Good point. And I might end up doing that in the end, but it'd still be nice to do something a little different
 

ChrisBrightwell

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At the same time, you don't want to go to great lengths and have her say yes so she doesn't feel bad about saying no. You want an honest answer, at least, right?

You might try just a flower or something. Not necessarily a rose, as I think those tend to be over-rated, but something a bit more playful and innocent, so she doesn't feel like you're trying to guilt her into it. Daisies work well.
 

PlaceofDis

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all girls are different, some really like this stuff though, some dont

find some cute way of going about it, its usually the safest way to approch this thing, i dont really have much to offer in terms of suggestions, but keep the cuteness factor in mind
 

patrick0brien

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-AliensAreFuzzy

Be confident.

This may help: what shakes the confidence the most is the prospect of rejection. What's worse is the additonal fear that she'll tell everybody that she turned you down. Right?

Well, set yourself in this story:

You are walking toward her to ask her out, think: "Well, if she turns be down, so what?"

You imaging a friend asking later "Did you really ask her out?"

Your answer is "Yeah, so?" At least you had the cojones.

Thoughts complete, you come back to the present. Having put the prospect of rejection into perspective - that it is really a 'so what' event, it makes asking her out in a confident manner, much easier to pull off.

That help?
 

Lacero

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And top it with a cherry and some cream pie. Hope she gets the hint. ;)
 

ravenvii

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Ughhh, flowers, poems, love-notes... What are you guys thinking?!

Just go straight up to her and ask. Don't just go up and say "Come with me to the prom?", just start a small talk, and intentionally take the conversation to the prom, then basically TELL her to go with you. Like, don't do this: "Can you please go to the prom with me?", DO this: "hey, I'm going to the prom, why not join me." or something like that. You'll probably think up of a better line than that, but the point is, don't plead for her to come with you. Tell her to. If she says no, oh well. Move on. Simple as that.

And think about it... you're asking a Mac-related forum. We're those guys who DIDN'T go to the prom. I mean, we're all busy playing Murder House on BBS!

:D
 

eleveneastgate

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I would just bake her a cake, simple as that.

jon
C'mon... that didn't work for Pedro (Napoleon Dynamite), it's not gonna work now.

Dude... just ask her. :D

AND why go through all that trouble when you still gotta pay for pictures, tux, flowers, car rental, etc.

Good Luck!
 

Lacero

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Post a pic of this potential prom date.

We'll let you know if you should pursue your course of action or not.
 

jsw

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Ah, prom....

If I could go back a couple of decades and ask Mary Zetterberg to the prom (my biggest regret in high school was not asking her), I wouldn't do it in any of the myriad ways I imagined back then.

Dress decently, be clean, put your best foot forward without going outside your "image", and talk to her. Tell her that you'd be really honored to go to the prom with her, and ask her if she'd like to go with you. Simple. Direct.

Of course, be confident, smile, be personable - but no need to do anything "exotic".

What I've found is that the way you ask a girl out - if she already knows you, as presumably this one does - doesn't really matter, as long as you don't make an idiot of yourself. She either likes you enough to go with you or she doesn't. If she does, she'll appreciate it if you're confident and don't hide behind a gimmick - and she'll say yes. She would have said yes to a gimmicky question, too, as long as it wasn't too extraordinarily goofy, but she'd prefer that you ask normally.

She already knows if she wants to go with you. Really. Just ask and find out.
 

AliensAreFuzzy

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Wow, thanks for all the advice guys. I'm going to get some advice from some other girls that know her. Maybe get an idea from them. I'll let you guys know how this all pans out.
 

AliensAreFuzzy

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mlw1235 said:
I've been meaning to do this for a while.....I should get this whole prom thing going. ;) ;)



P.S. Thanks for the tips...I guess.
Yeah, all the girls in my gym class were like: "Oh my god. Prom is only a month away!" I was kinda like, uh, it's still a month, but then I realized I should probably get working on it.
 

AliensAreFuzzy

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Lacero said:
Post a pic of this potential prom date.

We'll let you know if you should pursue your course of action or not.
Well, I don't know if she'd appreciate that...
Edit: Sorry for the string of posts
 

jsw

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AliensAreFuzzy said:
Well, I don't know if she'd appreciate that...
Edit: Sorry for the string of posts
Don't post a pic. If you like her, ask her. Don't wait to see what we yahoos think of the way she looks in a picture.
 

Edot

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Dr. Dastardly said:
Give her some flowers in class or write a poem asking her and cut into puzzle pieces and put a piece in each of her classes. Worked for me and I'm still dating her after 5 years.
:eek: I did the same thing! Except each piece was a clue as to what was going to happen that day. I think it was for V-day. I also have been dating her for 4.5 years!! :eek: Crazy coincidence!