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Asking a girl to Prom

First, you really shouldn't be asking on an online community on how to ask a prom date. Stereotypes are not made just because someone was bored. Second, don't ever take anything on TV at face value especially when it's from MTV (better than Fox News though.) It's called entertainment for a reason and the mundane things in life don't really entertain us. Besides, if her friends are bitchy enough to lie to you that much, it says a lot about the girl.

If you really insist on taking advice from us, I would really recommend that you give us an idea of what this girl is like. Girls with different personalities appreciate different things. You have to read them like how girls always read guys.

First impressions matter. A lot. I can't really emphasize this enough especially in high school. Humans are a very judgmental species; regardless of how accepting or 'nice' you may think a girl is, they will judge you on first sight, first contact, and the first time you express your feelings. As humans, we can't really help but to make a judgment about a person; it's human nature and it helps us live life without having to think about every little detail. Now, using this logic, it would be logical to infer that you should not 'just ask her.' Make sure you impress her; be sweet, intelligent, and, most of all, real. It's also human nature to be more perfect around girls you like or girls in general but don't try to be someone you're not. Girls are usually good bs detectors and if you get caught, you might as well as give up. Sure, a girl may say yes if you just ask her, but since when should we be content with just being mediocre. Ensure that she says yes and ensure that she wants you just a little bit more.

Now comes the question of just what you can do. I can't give you specific ideas because you have to be you when you ask her but I can give a few pointers. First, flowers are always nice. Cards with a sweet message from you are better. Cards with original poetry can't really be beat if she's deep. Make sure she knows you care and you're not in it to just get some 'fun' after prom night. Put effort into stuff and don't be shallow, horny, or stupid. But that should be common sense. Work the magic until you feel that you're ready.

And then just talk to her about stuff and lead into prom before asking her. Don't seem nervous and be as confident as possible. If you're not the perfect guy for her, act like it always. I don't get why but girls seem to really like confidence. Maybe it reassures them that they've made the right decision when they pick you. Either way, don't get worked up and just chill while being confident. Good luck.
 
y is it when questions like this come up 30+ posts come up in like half and hour lol... seems like most of the posters don't hab girlfriends so they try to give light on what they think should be done? eh.. who knows? lol :p ;)
 
CubaTBird said:
y is it when questions like this come up 30+ posts come up in like half and hour lol... seems like most of the posters don't hab girlfriends so they try to give light on what they think should be done? eh.. who knows? lol :p ;)
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Don't ever assume. Maybe someone's trying to divert attention from himself. ;) :p Seriously though, this is why you should really ask some people offline.

I'd rather think about other people's problems rather than think about the drama I have to deal with regarding my girlfriend. :confused:
 
CubaTBird said:
y is it when questions like this come up 30+ posts come up in like half and hour lol... seems like most of the posters don't hab girlfriends so they try to give light on what they think should be done? eh.. who knows? lol :p ;)
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We want to make their lives as miserable as possible. We want to make them become a hollow shadow of their former selves.

We are Evil.

We feel pretty damn good about it, too. :D
 
Crap! Prom is creeping up on me, too! I'm glad someone else asked what to do about prom before me :D Lucky for me I've still got 'till May ;)

I'm liking some of the tips I'm seeing. The simpler ones anyway. Though, cake might be a sure fire way to get a prom date... ;) I've seen and heard cornier things done. The simple with a flower or even just asking a simple question seems to work wonders.

Hey, talking to your potential prom date's friends might make things easier. They can spread rumors or make some buzz about your interest and that can ease things. Maybe you should ask them how she feels about you. Hopefully that'll build up some confidence, if they've got some nice things to say.

Also, you really shouldn't worry too much. I may lack experience in this department, but let's think about this realistically: You like her. She probably likes you because you talk and hang out. If you ask her out, she really doesn't have a reason in not accepting it, right? Take a chance. How often do you hear about rejections when the situation is truly plausible? Leave the rejections for T.V. (Actually, that leads me to wonder... Any of you actually get rejected?)

And if all else fails, just listen to Adam Corolla's advertisement for Axe Deodorant Body Spray: "Just spray on the confidence. Yeah-ha-HA!!!"

Okay... Don't... Seriously. I have yet to find a girl or even a guy for that matter that actually likes the smell of Axe.

Let me throw out another prom-related questions. Let's say all goes well. You got your date. How do you plan the night out with her? Should you promptly get her phone number or other means of contact? And if you do, when's a good time to talk? The same night or somewhere down the road?

I think I'm more worried about the things that have to happen after asking. :(

You see, in my situation, my potential date is a potential date for a few others... So, I need to time it right.

I did ask her to dance with me at Homecoming a couple of years ago, and that went quite well. Can lighting strike twice for me?

One last question: Where/when's a good place/time to ask? Months, weeks, or days before? In a quiet hallway? I'd like to get the setting right.
 
Can't go wrong with a Video

Okay I'm out here in Utah and that means Mormon Territory,... (No Offense to Anyone) and there are many people who go to great lengths to just ask a girl out on a date... (Kinda weird but kinda fun... sometimes...) here are a few I've experienced...

1. Made a "Mr. Rodgers" Parody Video that asked the girl in question to Prom,... and played it all over the building at school, (Mr. Rodgers, told a story about a frog that asked a princess to Prom...) and after I gave a very embarressed girl roses and a small frog... (she said yes, and it was edited in final cut pro!)

2. My room was completly trashed,... and there was a toilet seat (New) on my bed that said "When ya' gotta go you gotta go... and it only makes sense to go with me..."

3. Scavenger Hunt with rolls of toilet paper (Check my profile I'm a Janitor to get me through school and maybe start a video business...) anyway the T.P. rolls led through the salt lake valley and ended on Ensign Peak, a peak that looks out over the entire salt lake valley and gave her a plunger that said something but I really can't remember ... ... ... but when it comes to me I'll edit it in...

In any case put some effort into it especially if you like the girl and might possibly begin a relationship... Don't worry about being let down, or shot down; you'll never know unless you ask,... (and rule of thumb is first come first serve... most girls will be very flattered that you asked and will probably say yes,... just make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend or hasn't already been asked... that can make for an awkward situation not that I've ever been there... oh wait yes I have once and it sucked butts and I haven't talked to her since... any way I hope this helps... any questions feel free to ask or e-mail --- andydudeman@netzero.net
 
Well, I did it today. I gound out that she was going to get asked by this guy after school that she didn't really want to go with. So, with some help from the girls in my gym class, went down to the office and had the nice volunteer ladies send a note for her to report the the principals office after school. So, I had to go the entire gym class worrying about it.
After school, I waited in the principals office. He actually played along with it. He started to say that she was in trouble or something like that, and guided her into her office where I was waiting...



Highlight for the rest of the story. (Suspensful eh?)
When she walked in, I just came out and asked her, and she said yes!
 
AliensAreFuzzy said:
Well, I did it today. I gound out that she was going to get asked by this guy after school that she didn't really want to go with. So, with some help from the girls in my gym class, went down to the office and had the nice volunteer ladies send a note for her to report the the principals office after school. So, I had to go the entire gym class worrying about it.
After school, I waited in the principals office. He actually played along with it. He started to say that she was in trouble or something like that, and guided her into her office where I was waiting...
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Not very romantic, but it'll do. Congrats.
 
Just ask her flat out, because if you build up Prom too much your going to be very disapointed. Prom is not what matters, it's the After Prom Party you need to concern yourself with. Because here's how prom works:
1. Get a really sweet Tux, or Dress depending on the situation ( This is probabily the best part of the actual prom)
2. Meet your date ( Could also be a good part except for parents wanting to embarass you both by taking hundreds of pictures from all sorts of angels)
3. Go to Prom
4. Get your picture taken. I really have no comment on this one as my date for my senior prom didn't want a picture, not a problem as the money was better spent on alcohol later that night.
5. Eat. Even if your at a nice place, the food will probabily be bad and take forever to get to you, unless it's a buffet, then your in luck and the only thing you'll have to worry about is everyone else getting to it first and taking all the choice things.
6. Dance with your date. Unless you have a really really good DJ, or a live band chances are you'll hear about 10 good songs and 100 crappy ones.
7. Have your Prom King and Queen elected. Yeah yeah yeah, unless it's you who really cares all you want to do is get to the after party.

So there's the Prom, but now that it's over comes the real fun, the After Party. Each of these is different depending on who hosts it so make sure to pick a good one.
Personally, my senior prom was ok. It wansen't bad, but it wasen't the most memorable and important thing.
Now the After Prom Party is a different story, some of the best memories of High School........but that's a different story ;)
 
AliensAreFuzzy said:
Well, I did it today. I gound out that she was going to get asked by this guy after school that she didn't really want to go with. So, with some help from the girls in my gym class, went down to the office and had the nice volunteer ladies send a note for her to report the the principals office after school. So, I had to go the entire gym class worrying about it.
After school, I waited in the principals office. He actually played along with it. He started to say that she was in trouble or something like that, and guided her into her office where I was waiting...



Highlight for the rest of the story. (Suspensful eh?)
When she walked in, I just came out and asked her, and she said yes!
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Well girls love confidence, good to know you have it :rolleyes:

jon
 
Norouzi said:
Just ask her flat out, because if you build up Prom too much your going to be very disapointed. Prom is not what matters, it's the After Prom Party you need to concern yourself with. Because here's how prom works:
1. Get a really sweet Tux, or Dress depending on the situation ( This is probabily the best part of the actual prom)
2. Meet your date ( Could also be a good part except for parents wanting to embarass you both by taking hundreds of pictures from all sorts of angels)
3. Go to Prom
4. Get your picture taken. I really have no comment on this one as my date for my senior prom didn't want a picture, not a problem as the money was better spent on alcohol later that night.
5. Eat. Even if your at a nice place, the food will probabily be bad and take forever to get to you, unless it's a buffet, then your in luck and the only thing you'll have to worry about is everyone else getting to it first and taking all the choice things.
6. Dance with your date. Unless you have a really really good DJ, or a live band chances are you'll hear about 10 good songs and 100 crappy ones.
7. Have your Prom King and Queen elected. Yeah yeah yeah, unless it's you who really cares all you want to do is get to the after party.

So there's the Prom, but now that it's over comes the real fun, the After Party. Each of these is different depending on who hosts it so make sure to pick a good one.
Personally, my senior prom was ok. It wansen't bad, but it wasen't the most memorable and important thing.
Now the After Prom Party is a different story, some of the best memories of High School........but that's a different story ;)
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Our prom works a little differently. We have both the dinner and dance at the same place. Then we have a really cool school-sponsored post-prom either at a bowling alley or the YMCA. It's actually REALLY good for something the school puts on.
 
Must be a wonderful, exciting feeling to have her say yes. It carries over to steady courtship, then marriage, and then one day you wake up, look over at her sleeping and wonder, who the hell is this person I married? :eek:
 
That afterparty doesn't sound very good for prom. This is what our plane is:

rent a house somewhere local, get somebody 18+ to do it. Bring all the "drinks", and girls that you need. Have a party.

Wake up the next day, still hammered, and reminiss the party that was held the night before. bring a video recorder, girls like to be on tape.
 
AliensAreFuzzy said:
Well, I did it today...
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Good work! I'll give you points for uniqueness. Definitely never heard anything like this one before. Hope you have a good prom night. :cool:
 
MacAztec said:
That afterparty doesn't sound very good for prom. This is what our plane is:

rent a house somewhere local, get somebody 18+ to do it. Bring all the "drinks", and girls that you need. Have a party.

Wake up the next day, still hammered, and reminiss the party that was held the night before. bring a video recorder, girls like to be on tape.
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No kidding, prom should be an awesome time, bowling alley sounds like it would be boring, unless you were drunk.

jon
 
Lacero said:
Must be a wonderful, exciting feeling to have her say yes. It carries over to steady courtship, then marriage, and then one day you wake up, look over at her sleeping and wonder, who the hell is this person I married? :eek:
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Personal Experience? LOL :D
 
AliensAreFuzzy said:
Well, I did it today. I found out that she was going to get asked by this guy after school that she didn't really want to go with. So, with some help from the girls in my gym class, went down to the office and had the nice volunteer ladies send a note for her to report the the principals office after school. So, I had to go the entire gym class worrying about it.
After school, I waited in the principals office. He actually played along with it. He started to say that she was in trouble or something like that, and guided her into her office where I was waiting...

Highlight for the rest of the story. (Suspenseful eh?)
When she walked in, I just came out and asked her, and she said yes!
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That is a very heartwarming story. Congratulations, now on to making the plans for the prom date. Reminds me of my Junior year. My English teacher requested that I take a particular class mate to our prom. Chances are I might not have gone otherwise, the same with my date. She was very shy. Her parents took us to the prom. My parents picked us up afterwards and took us to the post prom an then home. We had a good time. Although didn't date again. Hope that this will be a memorable time in your life. Please keep us posted as it progresses.
 
Last time I was in a principle's office, I got in trouble for pounding on a girl's back in grade 2.
 
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