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Asking a girl to Prom

About my friend

I asked 2 of my friends (who are girls) what they think about me asking her and they said i have a good chance. and then i told them about my friend that wants to ask her too and they said that he doesnt have a good chance because he just like wnats to go out with her and go with her or something.
 
HenryTheGood said:
So this is what i've come up with to ask her tomorrow:

"__HERNAME__, i dont know if anyone has asked you to prom yet, but I was wondering if you would like to go with me? I think we will have a really good time together."

How is that everyone?:apple:
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How about this as an alternative.

In the middle of talking to her about something else, in an appropriate pause in the conversation, look at her, smile, and say "You know, I'd really like to take you to the Prom". It'll take her by surprise, and while it may be stereotypical to say this, ladies like appropriate surprises.

Plus you're talking to her about what you want, instead of how you feel. Us guys are usually better at that.
 
This one is, and always was ;)
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I think we're talking about different things here... or you are being difficult.

I'm obviously the expert on women here!! ;)

heh heh...

Yeah, I know that women love sweetness. The point that I was trying to make is that most of the women I've known didn't like it when sweetness was used to overshadow a lack of a spine.

I actually think it's harder to be sweet and confident than cocky/cool and confident. It's a much more refined sense of masculinity...

And I bet you have high standards Hello.there... and that's why we're both on a Mac forum... :)
 
HenryTheGood said:
I asked 2 of my friends (who are girls) what they think about me asking her and they said i have a good chance. and then i told them about my friend that wants to ask her too and they said that he doesnt have a good chance because he just like wnats to go out with her and go with her or something.
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Are these two friends also friends of hers? Then she already knows you're going to ask, trust me. The longer you put it off, the more annoyed she'll get wondering when you'll man up and get on with it.
 
i will let all of you know. haha!

i'm going to try and ask her tomorrow morning when she gets to school.

i'll just take her to the back of the band hall (lol) and just say

"hey __HERNAME__, i dont know if anyone has asked you to the prom yet, but I really want to go with you and was wondering if you wanted to go with me. I think that we will have a great time together because we are such great friends."

hows that sound?
 
I'm so surprised that this isn't a Ghall thread. :confused:


Anyway, that sounds good. Also, if you're nervous, don't worry. It may actually be good to sound nervous when you ask her. In certain situations such as this, to sound nervous is better than sounding really confident that you'll get a "Yes". ;) She'll think it's cute.
 
HenryTheGood said:
"hey __HERNAME__, i dont know if anyone has asked you to the prom yet, but I really want to go with you and was wondering if you wanted to go with me. I think that we will have a great time together because we are such great friends."
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Getting too wordy. Keep it simple. You might get into reasons later if she asks you something specific, but to begin with, just flat out ask. If you're nervous (or sweet) it'll come across regardless of what you actually say. You won't be able to sound cool or arrogant if that's not what you are.

The more you run on at the mouth, the more likely you are to come across sounding unattractively insecure, which isn't sweet.

GirthP said:
ahhh.... high school, always better in retrospect....
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Hmm... No, I wouldn't say so, really. Just me, perhaps. :)
 
HenryTheGood said:
who is Ghall?
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Ghall is a young male who received lots of lady/relationship advice on this forum (and still managed to get a girlfriend). His threads are fairly similar to this one (about how to ask her out, what to wear to a dance, etc). They are always highly amusing and usually end up having lots of excellent sexual innuendo and jokes (many straight from Abstract).

Ask her tomorrow. Just do it, keep it simple too. You'll be bummed if you wussy out, I did the same thing back in high school and ended up regretting being a wimp a few weeks later (when the girl I wanted to go with didn't end up going to the dance and I found out she would have liked to have gone with me). So just go for it, deal with your friend later (if he's pissed he'll get over it, there's lots of girls in a high school, if not he'll be off to college soon and you won't have to worry about it anyway).
 
Gelfin said:
The more you run on at the mouth, the more likely you are to come across sounding unattractively insecure, which isn't sweet.
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Plus the more words you use the easier it is to trip over one and screw it up. Keep it simple and be direct. But sweet.:D

HenryTheGood said:
who is Ghall?
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I recognize the name from here on the forums, but I'm not that familiar with them so I'm not sure what Abstract was referencing.

EDIT: rhsgolfer33 beat me to it with better info.
 
If I may jump in....just ask her. You may be nervous but you have to understand that she wants to hear you ask her. And if it helps, use that to help you feel less nervous and calm yourself down.
 
If you really like the girl, then you ask her right away. Otherwise, you could just wait until she maybe shoots him down, and then ask her. That's the wuss way out though.
 
Just keep it short simple and to the point. Say too much and you'll shoot yourself in the foot. Don't worry about being nervous either, girls like it when guys are vulnerable, just don't turn vulnerability into insecurity by saying too much. Ask her out in your own words and then let her talk. You'll do fine.

Oh, and about your friend, i've been in a similar boat a few times. Just go for the girl. After you do, then tell your friend that you asked her out before he finds out from someone else. If he asks you why you told him what you did, just tell him the truth. You were nervous and said the wrong thing. Apologize for it and then you're set. Even if he is upset it won't last long. Shake hands, hit each other on the shoulder, and go on enjoying life.

Good luck buddy!
 
dude, although I am on the 2nd page, I hope you read this...

I lost a girl just like that... I was nervous, it took me too much time, and by the time I was ready to tell her, someone already did it... and I am talking here question of one or 2 days... if I had the courage to tell her 3 days before, I would(maybe) be with her...

if you know there is competition, although its tough, you NEED to tell her and ASAP. I know exactly what you are feeling, but you have no idea how much it kills me to think that if I had the courage, I would (maybe) be with her, and not that retard she is going out with...


seriously, my advise, close your eyes, step up and do it! it is hard for some people, and I know it since I am part of "some people" and I have learned, the best thing is to say it first, than worry about the consequences.
 
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