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Asking a girl to Prom
- Thread starter HenryTheGood
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Second that!
Maybe he's off crying in his beer after getting shot down in flames.( It hurts, but it happens. What doesn't kill us ends up really pissing us off! )
Or he wussed and is scared to show his face around the forum.
Or she was so thrilled with him she took him in a passionate embrace and he can't break free to type!
I'm so surprised that this isn't a Ghall thread.
Hehe, I always read them instead of making my own.
sorry everyone, i was at a friends house. i did ask her today after school. i told her that she didnt have to give me an answer today and if she needed to time to think about it then she can. so i'm just waiting on that answer.
what if she forgets to answer. what do i do then?
what if she forgets to answer. what do i do then?
#1- Your friend is going to be mad because he will think you are co*ckblocking him. It's inevitable not matter how much she may not like him he is still going to be mad. You could bring up you intentions to him so this fight may not happen.
#2 Manning up to ask her is going to be the hardest part.
#3 Show confidence when asking her, otherwise she may think you are not the best choice of guys.
Don't say "[Name], umm I don't have a date to prom yet but I think we would have a good time together, so would you like to go with me".
-- This will make her think you're desperate and what will her friends think if they see her with you. No confidence.
Instead say "[Name], I was thinking about how much fun it would be to have you as my date at prom, are you interested in going".
- This compliments her and shows confidence.
I don't care if you are the ugliest guy in your school, it's people like you who get the hot girls while us other guys stand in the corner with our hands in the pocket wishing we had your girl as our date but we don't because we didn't have the balls to ask her.
GO ASK HER NOW. [No AIM, NO Text, No having her friends ask her for you] You need to do this either in person (preferably) or over the phone (if you see her on a limited basis).
Signed- Robbi LuvRboy
#2 Manning up to ask her is going to be the hardest part.
#3 Show confidence when asking her, otherwise she may think you are not the best choice of guys.
Don't say "[Name], umm I don't have a date to prom yet but I think we would have a good time together, so would you like to go with me".
-- This will make her think you're desperate and what will her friends think if they see her with you. No confidence.
Instead say "[Name], I was thinking about how much fun it would be to have you as my date at prom, are you interested in going".
- This compliments her and shows confidence.
I don't care if you are the ugliest guy in your school, it's people like you who get the hot girls while us other guys stand in the corner with our hands in the pocket wishing we had your girl as our date but we don't because we didn't have the balls to ask her.
GO ASK HER NOW. [No AIM, NO Text, No having her friends ask her for you] You need to do this either in person (preferably) or over the phone (if you see her on a limited basis).
Signed- Robbi LuvRboy
You're getting ahead of yourself. She won't forget to answer. If she doesn't answer, that's a no and she didn't want to hurt your feelings or get you mad at her by saying it directly. Being direct is usually as hard for them as it is for us, and it would be even harder if she's already your friend.
Ask again if she hasn't answered in a week or so.
okay! thanks for all the advice.
one more thing:
-my friend is mad now even though he knew i was gonna ask her to prom. is there any advice i can get to help stop this fight with my friend. plz? i just want things back to normal.
one more thing:
-my friend is mad now even though he knew i was gonna ask her to prom. is there any advice i can get to help stop this fight with my friend. plz? i just want things back to normal.
well i dont like drama when its with one of my best friends.
usually drama involves friends-- sorry
I'm in high school, but I'm only a sophomore and so is my girlfriend so I can't really help you. I do know of someone named ghall on this forum that has had many problems like this before so maybe he could help you in some way. I'm kinda surprised that he hasn't replied to this thread yet!
I'm kinda surprised that he hasn't replied to this thread yet! 
sorry everyone, i was at a friends house. i did ask her today after school. i told her that she didnt have to give me an answer today and if she needed to time to think about it then she can. so i'm just waiting on that answer.
what if she forgets to answer. what do i do then?
sigh indeed.
May I ask why on earth this girl didn't give you an answer right away? Was she in the middle of something?
I hate to say it, but that raises a red flag.
Now, I advise you not to read the rest of this post. Because frankly, I'm a cynical bastard. And I certainly don't know all the details of the when, where, and how of you asking her, but...
(this is where you should probably stop reading)
If she "needs time to think about it," then she's probably either too chickensh** to come out and say no and is just trying to spare your feelings...or she's waiting on a "better offer" to come along. Either way, it kind of leads me to believe she's not worth your time.
Now, I hope I'm wrong. I really do. Because rejection just plain flat right up out and sucks. But you will find a date. And you will have an incredible time. Just have a little faith that things will turn out better than you expect.
The absolute hardest thing to do is to separate your view of what you want this girl to be from what she actually is. If this girl isn't willing to show you the basic simple respect of giving you an answer, then she doesn't deserve you.
And if I'm wrong, I totally give you permission to kick my a**.
Let me guess... in 1 or 2 years we will see this thread....
Why don't girls like the nice guys....
I think you are probably a great guy Henry, but without really knowing you, I'd say you are making it really easy to reject you.
Examine and study gender dynamics with the same open-mindedness you approach computer knowledge, and getting girls to want your company becomes a non-issue.
I am absolutely on your side, and not trying to put you down.
Why don't girls like the nice guys....
I think you are probably a great guy Henry, but without really knowing you, I'd say you are making it really easy to reject you.
Examine and study gender dynamics with the same open-mindedness you approach computer knowledge, and getting girls to want your company becomes a non-issue.
I am absolutely on your side, and not trying to put you down.
It's a Yes or No Answer.
It seems like this girl is just trying to shop "guys" around.
Any girl who needs to think about something such as this is not worth your time.
She is either go to say "No"
OR
You are just going to be her date to the dance and then see her grinding on other guys while she enjoyed the free dinner on you.
It's HS Drama and a learning lesson on young girls.
It seems like this girl is just trying to shop "guys" around.
Any girl who needs to think about something such as this is not worth your time.
She is either go to say "No"
OR
You are just going to be her date to the dance and then see her grinding on other guys while she enjoyed the free dinner on you.
It's HS Drama and a learning lesson on young girls.
Jesus! He's trying to get a date with a girl he likes, he's not looking for advice on buying a MacBook Pro.
You've been watching too many repeats of American Gigolo.
What is this American Gigolo?
Why are you acting like you have the male-female interaction advice game sewn up? Lighten up. You might find out you don't know everything.
This from the guy who's approaching the young OP's question like he's going to war?Good Lord.
He's young, spare him your cynicism. You were young once....I assume?
Good Lord.
He's young, spare him your cynicism. You were young once....I assume?
I really think you have me all wrong, but I know that this is the internet and miscommunications are rampant.
Your opinion of how I'm approaching this is more indicative of your mind then mine. I think that dealing with a woman is very very intense for men. Especially for young men. Especially, especially for young, sensitive men.
If you think that it's just "no big deal" and he's "just trying to get a date", that's fine. I think his posts paint a picture of a person who is pretty deeply invested in how this goes down, and might be open to some more detailed explanation from people who have experienced similar things.
For all I know, I could be the biggest ass here. I do know that I have learned a lot about interacting with women since high school. In high school I made a lot of decisions I see mirrored in the OP's posts.
Point blank, they didn't work. The reason being that I was not aware of things that were happening in the interaction. Most of which were my futile attempts to get the woman to like me. So I endeavored to understand what it was that generated attraction in women. I found that certain things tended to be more effective than others.
This wasn't to scam them, or trick them, but to more accurately relate to them as a possible romantic interest. If you only see people that are interested in learning about dating and gender interactions as "American Gigolos", then you won't understand any of this.
I guess it's good that he can see the two opposing sides being displayed.
I would say in closing that, I am trying to present information that in the long term prevents a lot of struggle and confusion. Maybe this isn't the place.
I hope we can still be friends Hello.there. I was pretty bummed to see you gunning for me.
Apologies for being 'aggressive', I just took offence at the tone you took with me, and from there it deteriorated. Truce
We just have very different views on this subject, that's all. Maybe we've just had very different experiences. As I suggested in my very post I'm probably the last person on earth to attempt to offer advice to the fella, so I'm not sure why you picked up the notion that I'm claiming to be an expert.
This whole experience can be as nerve-wracking and potentially heartbreaking for girls as it can be for guys, I'm not sure you accept that, they're all vulnerable and delicate at this age, so I just don't see the point in making the guy feel this is a 'mission' to be accomplished, rather than something as simple as checking out if this girl feels about him like he does about her.
In my humble opinion it should be as natural a 'process' as possible, I just think you can analyse it all too much to the point where it becomes like a military exercise!
But we'll agree to differ!! No more arguments, promise!
Not if they were really close friends.
She could really be thinking about it.
She could also be shocked he asked.
I just think that telling her, "You don't need to give me an answer today" was a bit of a mistake, because she could drag this out. It gives her a lot of time to make herself more confused.
She really is thinking about it, consulting friends, checking out other guys, seeing what her female friends are doing for prom (in case all her girl friends are going unattached), etc.
yeah-- if they are close friends, this would change the dynamic of their friendship-- i was i a similar situation...long story short, i lost the guy as both a friend and a potential boyfriend because i waited to respond to him-- hope it works out for you!
Seriously?
What?
Is that honestly what you think?
GirthP isn't wrong, though. There's nothing wrong with trying harder to understand women.
gmecca2 is a perfect example of someone who really needs to change the way he thinks.
The female species is a very confusing thing. I'm still trying to grasp ANY understanding of women, but it doesn't seem to happen. I remember the good old days of high school. I asked 3 girls to my junior prom, and got 3 no answers. The first girl was going out of town, the second said she was busy, but I later found out she stayed home and did nothing, and the third was already going with someone.
You want to talk about confusing? I dated this girl about a year ago. We had a class together in college about a year and a half prior to our dating, and just randomly out of the blue we started talking. I hadn't heard from her in a few months. Anyway, I asked her on a date and from there things started going great. About a month and a half later she told me she didn't want to see me again. Pretty heart breaking to say the least. A few weeks after that we started talking again and then she left for the summer.
I didn't talk to her for about 2-3 months and then about a week before fall semester started she called me up. Since then we have become good friends. I don't talk to her very often, but she stopped by a few days ago because she needed time away from her room mates. While we were talking she said she considers me her best friend. Everyone is confused as to why we aren't a couple, including me. She did tell me that I was way too needy and that's why she couldn't date me. After we broke up I realized that I was, and I've since changed my views there. I have been working on it.
I would have to also say, as many others have, that things might not be in your favor in this situation. I wish you the best, but you have to remember, there are other "fish in the sea." Sometimes it's hard to remember that, but it's true.
You want to talk about confusing? I dated this girl about a year ago. We had a class together in college about a year and a half prior to our dating, and just randomly out of the blue we started talking. I hadn't heard from her in a few months. Anyway, I asked her on a date and from there things started going great. About a month and a half later she told me she didn't want to see me again. Pretty heart breaking to say the least. A few weeks after that we started talking again and then she left for the summer.
I didn't talk to her for about 2-3 months and then about a week before fall semester started she called me up. Since then we have become good friends. I don't talk to her very often, but she stopped by a few days ago because she needed time away from her room mates. While we were talking she said she considers me her best friend. Everyone is confused as to why we aren't a couple, including me. She did tell me that I was way too needy and that's why she couldn't date me. After we broke up I realized that I was, and I've since changed my views there. I have been working on it.
I would have to also say, as many others have, that things might not be in your favor in this situation. I wish you the best, but you have to remember, there are other "fish in the sea." Sometimes it's hard to remember that, but it's true.
Whew! I thought I had blown it! I'm glad we're still on the level...
And I am thinking all the time about the girl!
I am a delicate flower too!