Girl lied to me and cheated
Well here's my story:
I met this woman from myspace around August 5 and everything seemed fine. She told me she was getting out of a relationship with this guy who totally disrespected her. They have been together for 4 ½ years and he was a cheater. She was once married prior to meeting him and committed adultery on her husband so he divorced her and met this other guy.
She told me she was tired of him and wanted to move on with her life and that liked me. The first time she lied to me about not having no contact with her ex of 4 and a half years. I was hurt because she looked right into my eyes so convincingly and said she had not contacted him via text but I had a strange feeling that she had but I wanted proof so I went through her mobile phone and saw that she had in fact talked to him because her phone had his number as an incoming call which was answered. The next day I asked her about it before I confronted her with the truth of what I had already knew and she said she did not talk to him. I asked here three times and told her that my feelings are telling me that she had done so. After 10 minutes of asking her to be honest she kept to her story so then when I provided my proof from the mobile phone call then she came clean. So she lied and would have continued to lie until I showed her my proof.
I broke up with her for three weeks. I changed my number and email. She sent my sister an email explaining to her what happened and wanted my sister to talk to me about giving her another chance so my sister came through along with my mother and told me that no one's perfect and I should give her another chance so I did. So then things seemed fine but again I had a gut feeling that something was still not right. She told me that she would never lie to me again so I believed her so about a couple of weeks of us being back together another strange feeling came over me about something was not right. She changed her number so that he would not call her again but I was like that doesn't mean nothing cuz you could still contact you or him contact you in other ways.
So one night she was at my place and I confronted her again about my gut feeling that she was holding something from me. I asked and she admitted that he called her at her moms house and they talked. I asked her why didn't she tell me about this and she stated that she was afraid to tell me in fear of how I might take it. Again I was upset and I then asked her if she saw him and she told me no and that that she would never lie to me again and proceeded to say that after our last break up she promised me never to lie to me again about her ex contacting her.
I was disappointed and told her that she concealed information from me but she stated that at least she didn't lie this time. I broke up with her again for bout two days and she came crying, calling my sister begging her to help her get me back so I took her back. Then finally another wave of feeling came over me informing me that something was not right so again I confronted her about my feeling and she denied every thing I was feeling but I told her about my spiritual guides never lie to me and that Karma would come back upon her of her deceit so after 20 minutes of telling her about my feeling, she then told me more.
She proceeded to tell me that she has never been challenged like that before so she admitted that first, while we were separated for three weeks that she had indeed sleep with him again which at first she told me she had not. Then about three weeks ago while we were actually together when I thought things were fine she then told me she slept with him again! I was crusted, hurt, felt betrayed, played....you name it...hell I even cried. I asked her why did she lie to me again and why did you sleep with this guy after we were back together again when things appeared to be fine between us. She replied that she was scared.
So all in all, she lied to me at least 4 times and cheated on me twice or once if you don't include when we were broken up for three weeks. (but based on her history she could be lying about that and had more encounters with this guy)....When we were broken up during that time I wanted to test her feelings for me because she stated that she had no desire to be with no one that soon after our separation but turns out she lied and was with him so in a way I may can look at it like we weren't together so okay you slept with him but if you loved me like you said you did then the thought of sleeping with the same dude that caused our break up in the first place shouldnt have even crossed your mind if you so much loved me as she claimed. As for me, since I laid eyes on this woman I have never cheated in any way
..I also wanted to see if I had matured on a spiritual level and not let sex dominate my life and I think I did passed the test.
Then when we were back together she slept with him again and never told me. My spirit told me something was wrong because I do meditate and am very close to my spiritual side and they never mislead me. I tried to forgive her. We did talk over the weekend and we did make love and went to the movies and I tried to forgive her because the bible teaches us about love and forgiveness. But I don't think God would want us to be with someone who lies to us and cheat especially when the other party was totally faithful.
Now she thinks she's pregnant and wants to have my child since we both don't have any. Thoughts crossed my mind that what if shes trying to get pregnant by me and tell the other guy its his since he cant have any more children in order to keep him because after all, it seems pretty clear that she still have feeling for this man plus he has 4 children. I think she loves to be played or be called the other woman perhaps due to self-esteem issues or less power or whatever.
When he say jump, she be like how high kind of thing plus if I had of known she has been still sleeping this dude then there is no way I would have agreed to conceive a child by her but the fact that she cheated and lied to me is too much to handle. So a few days later I told her that in order for me to feel better then I am going to have an encounter with another woman so that she could feel how much she hurt me then if she can forgive me as she wants me to forgive her then perhaps we could move on.
But after several hours of thinking I don't think revenge is the way to go. So my mind is made up to just leave her and wish her the best because it is not Gods will for me to be with someone that lies and cheat even though she swear on a stack of bibles that she would never do it again but her expressions on her face including tears were the same when she lied to me in the beginning so how do I know the difference?
This woman is a nice woman and I respect her but now all trust is totally gone and if that's the case I'm not going to be apart of her life any longer. My sister is very upset with her as well because my sister felt compassion for her and went out on a limb to convince me to give her another chance but when she cheated on me while we were together, my sister feel as I do...deceived and betrayed! My sister does braids and my sister hooked her up for free but I did give my sister $50 just for the kind gesture. But my sister told me that she has lost allot of respect for this woman for getting her involved and hurting her brother (me).
So that's the whole story. I'm a good man, honest and faithful because God has taught me about karma and what goes around comes around. I'm kind of hurt I admit because I did fall for this woman pretty fast but my spirit is strong and I shall get passed this. Didn't mean to write a book but just wanted to vent....So for any of you who are dealing with a cheating lover it is your choice to continue to put yourself through the mental imagery of wondering if he or she is up their old tricks again.
You all are welcome to email me if you so desire:
taos_one@yahoo.com
