Dating "Rules"

[CubaTBird]

No self-respecting woman will accept an invitation for tonight. Screams 'desperation'!

Oh, and see there women go again. How does it scream desperation. The dude just wants to take the lady out. What's the diff between on a Friday night or a Monday night. Is the man all of a sudden "less desperate" for waiting two days? Mind games ladies and gentlemen, mind games.

 

[redAPPLE]

No self-respecting woman will accept an invitation for tonight. Screams 'desperation'!

so? which question should be asked?

 

[Eraserhead]

You misunderstand. They're usually pretty attractive. It's what's on the inside that turns out to be not great. Like stabbing and fire bad. Or getting drunk and/or high and cheating. A lot. I'm lucky when they just turn out to be lesbians using me to get pregnant or married and trying to get revenge on their husbands. And no, I'm not kidding.

I think the rules go right out the window when you're dating hot psychos.

The important thing to remember is that not ALL hot women are like that, I certainly know some who aren't (as well as some who are) though the majority may well be, it hurts though, damn bad.

 

[CubaTBird]

The important thing to remember is that not ALL hot women are like that, I certainly know some who aren't (as well as some who are) though the majority may well be, it hurts though, damn bad.

A lot of "hot" women I know have a lot of the infamous "guy friend" syndrome. They like to flaunt how many "guy friends" they have and how they got their back at anything they do. And then when they do go out and date a guy they make him sound as if he is some lion on a pedastal waiting to be tamed. The irony of course is that at least in my experience they barely if have anything in common with one another.

 

[CubaTBird]

so? which question should be asked?

Think about it this way, if you start asking to many questions... It'll almost sound like your a doormat to this girl. If she doesn't want to go out with you that night for whatever reason, just let it go. If anything she'll be surprised why you stopped calling and just may want to give you a call back. Remember, your the prize.

 

[Skeeball236]

del

 

[Applespider]

Oh, and see there women go again. How does it scream desperation. The dude just wants to take the lady out. What's the diff between on a Friday night or a Monday night.

Not on the guy's part. On the girl's! There's no difference between Friday or Monday. It's the TONIGHT bit. It's the calling during the day and expecting her to be free tonight that's the problem. A few dates in where there's something to explore, fine. But on the first couple of dates... nope. Makes the girl sound like she's just sitting by the phone waiting for you to call... and that's desperate.

The question is 'Would like to see you (again)? How about later this week - when's good for you?"

What're you doin' tonight Applespider?

I'm busy... how about later in the week?

 

[CubaTBird]

I'm busy... how about later in the week?

Ouch! Rejection..

 

[®îçhå®?]

No rules with me and my girl. Be and dirty as you want when you want. She was thrown out of a lesson for smiling at reading the dirty texts from me!!

 

[CubaTBird]

No rules with me and my girl. Be and dirty as you want when you want. She was thrown out of a lesson for smiling at reading the dirty texts from me!!

Your 15, so she probably thinks your funny. In some weird sort of way.

 

[redAPPLE]

Think about it this way, if you start asking to many questions... It'll almost sound like your a doormat to this girl. If she doesn't want to go out with you that night for whatever reason, just let it go. If anything she'll be surprised why you stopped calling and just may want to give you a call back. Remember, your the prize.

I AM THE PRIZE. I AM THE PRIZE. I AM THE PRIZE. I AM THE PRIZE. I AM THE PRIZE.

saying that a few times even helps me believe it. woo-hoo.

 

[redAPPLE]

Not on the guy's part. On the girl's! There's no difference between Friday or Monday. It's the TONIGHT bit. It's the calling during the day and expecting her to be free tonight that's the problem. A few dates in where there's something to explore, fine. But on the first couple of dates... nope. Makes the girl sound like she's just sitting by the phone waiting for you to call... and that's desperate.

i heard women love spontaneity?

 

[CubaTBird]

i heard women love spontaneity?

They do, but in my experience it has to be in the proper context and at the right time. Say for example, after you left for a class you just got to know a girl in the class you could say "hey lets head to such and such a place to grab such and such a thing because i heard they have really good such and such blah blah lol" you know? To just randomely call a girl and say "hey baby, let me take you to the mall right now" comes off a bit awkward and tacky. You will know when the moment is their to bust out, you just have to take advantage of it.

If anything, if you can ask a girl out in person to do something with you... GREAT, so much the better. If not then obviously the phone is your second choice. E-mail/txting/im's/myspace (good luck with this one, some don't check it for daaaaaaaays) are really a last resort and more of a flirting tool than anything else.

 

[solvs]

you have no need to over-think it if you're with a girl who's a rational person with a sense of her self.

If I could find one of those, I wouldn't have to think, let alone overthink.

The important thing to remember is that not ALL hot women are like that

I'm sure they exist, but experience tells me different. Still not buying a book. Gotta just get out there, throw caution to the wind, and be ready to make a fool of yourself. Willing to fall flat on your face.

Rejection isn't even the scariest part, it's when they say yes that it becomes really terrifying.

 

[CubaTBird]

Rejection isn't even the scariest part, it's when they say yes that it becomes really terrifying.

I could see that, being with all the high expectations and all.

 

[solvs]

I could see that, being with all the high expectations and all.

Or low.

 

[FrankieTDouglas]

Rejection isn't even the scariest part, it's when they say yes that it becomes really terrifying.

I'm not afraid of rejection, I'm afraid of acceptance.

I wrote a whole speech on that concept! PM me if you want a copy.

 

[solvs]

I wrote a whole speech on that concept! PM me if you want a copy.

You should just post it. I'm sure there are people here more screwed up than I am who would appreciate it. Well, maybe almost as screwed up.

 

[mpw]

Ouch! Rejection..

Nah! Applespider just doesn't want to appear to be desparate. That's why she answers with a question "...how about later in the week? "

Give it a few days and she'll be calling me

Anyway I've got family visiting this week and stuff™ on next week so she's missed her window of oppourtunity.

Oh and you see how she licked her lips at the end of her post? Totally sub-concious, I'll bet she didn't even know she'd done that.

 

[FrankieTDouglas]

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[amateurmacfreak]

Where would one find some of those? .......j/k.......

No self-respecting woman will accept an invitation for tonight. Screams 'desperation'!

I don't that's necessarily true.

I think of it more as like, "What the heck, I have nothing else to do!"

 

[redAPPLE]

If anything, if you can ask a girl out in person to do something with you... GREAT, so much the better. If not then obviously the phone is your second choice. E-mail/txting/im's/myspace (good luck with this one, some don't check it for daaaaaaaays) are really a last resort and more of a flirting tool than anything else.

the one i am looking at, i don't meet often. just contacted her and asked what she doing on thursday.

well she said, she has to go to church for her grandma's death anniversary. i would think this is the truth.

then she said, how about next monday?

women love to be waited on, no?

 

[redAPPLE]

I wrote a whole speech on that concept! PM me if you want a copy.

now you are i am interested.

 

[CubaTBird]

On being afraid of acceptance...

The whole version can be found here. It's a short story I wrote, and have also used as part of a speech and as a monologue audition.

No but see I want a woman to like me and for her to like me back. So the "dating" situation has to be two-fold.

 

[Chacala_Nayarit]

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