lead, don't follow
when she asks what you want to do ... DON'T say ... i don't know, what do you want to do.
even if all you can think of ... lets just walk down the promenade or lets get some ice cream
forget your are on a date --- i know that sounds weird ... but basically don't TRY hard to impress her, and don't think to much about acting in a way that will make her like you ... go out with the mind set of enjoying YOURSELF ... if you are having a good time and teasing her, and being playful ... she will enjoy herself and be play full
don't worry about screwing up ... you won't -- she already on a date with you
someone said ACT interested .... WORSE ADVICE ever ... be interested ... don't act it ... don't be eager ... play with her ... girls love it when you are a mystery ... they love to chase ... if you are to easy then it's no fun for her ...
sit back ... don't lean in ... it communicates wussiness
DON'T mention valentines day --- save that the possible second date (sorry dr.q BAD advice)
OH ... and bring a condom ... i've made a lot of girls mad because i forgot one on the first date and they were all ready to go ... learn from my mistakes
coffee and ice cream are great first date places ... there is no pressure, it's neutral ground,
i'm a firm believer of paying ... BUT if you spend to much money on a girl right away it communicates the wrong things ... also ... coffee TO GO, and ice Cream to go and going to a beach, or somewhere really gorgious is really great. lots of lights are a huge hit.
my last g/f asked me on our first date how i understood women so well an i responded.
"women are like cats. If i make you do something you don't want to do, you'll scratch me. If i ignore you, you'll find me and want my attention. And if i wave something shiney infront of you, i'll have your attention for hours"
she looked at me, started laughing and responded ... "thats the most horrible, AND INCITEFUL description i have ever heard a man make about women"
i've said this since then to a lot of girls and they love it ... just remember it, and you'll be fine
(remember shiny DOES NOT MEAN expensive jewlery. just something pretty that she can see and you can talk about)
ON COMPLIMENTS
since this is your first date, AVOID them complimenting can work against you ... make one, early in the night and THAT'S it ... and BE specific ... pay attention to what she is wearing ... accessories ... women LOVE when you notice these things ... THAT'S why they are wearing them .... don't make say anything about her eyes or smile ... she's heard this a million times ... BE different (you're a mac user for crying outloud)
CONVERSATION
, talk about gossip in the media, her last vacation, if she got a long with her siblings --- and tease her ... don't be mean ... just bust her balls a little. There is nothing wrong with talking about work ... but ask questions about her challenges, her dreams, not what she does.
The truth is ... you can say ANYTHING to a woman, and as long as you are real with her ... she'll respect you for it ... if she calls you a jerk -- smile and say .. "YOU LOOOVE IT" if she gets pissed ... so what ... do you really want to be with someone that you can't have fun with. if there is something you do that she doesn't like ... say tough, don't change -- NEVER change
if you do screw up like spill a drink --- just play it off like no big deal ... make a joke "i didn't like that drink" or "this place needed a cleaning anyway" (don't use them at her house though, if you don't know why then nevermind my entire advice)
THE GOODNIGHT KISS
first of all ... if you want to kiss a girl ... you do it when you want to do it ... THAT'S it ... but since you're going to be unsure ... here are a few things to do
1. make sure you feel like the date is going well (was she laughing, was she teasing you, was she playfull) <--- YES --- THEN YES
2. break the touch barrier without being crude -- make a comment about liking her hair, using two fingers take a lock of her hair and gently run it through your fingers and say, "you must spend a fortune on conditioner, it's so smooth" (or something along those lines) --- if she smiles doesn't pull away, just smiles and makes a joke ... you're closer continue to play with it in such a manner
3. as you run your fingers down her shoulder and move in just a little bit, and pay attention to whether she is moving away or not, go back to the hair, and then up and down her arm ... move in closer --- by this point if she IS interested she'll be moving in closer too..
4. the next step can be tricky because you're moving out of the innocent and into more intimate
5. the thing to do not to bring to much attention to this, so a light conversation is always good to maintain, about her hair, about the night so far, just keep it easy
6. go in as if you were going for a kiss and then when you are just close enough, miss, gently smell her, and say "mmm, it was you the whole night, what is it, and continue to act intoxicated by it, while smelling it (DON'T snort it) --- this step is actually pretty easy because chances are that she is wearing a REALLY nice perfume and you will be intoxicate.
7. lean back and play with her hair a little more, run your fingers down her shoulders, ect ... if by this point the two of you almost touching, then you will be like a 3 feet apart and then you know the kiss is a bad idea.
8. go in for the kiss, slowly, but don't pukker, and just do it --- good chance by this point she'll probably kiss you.
this first one is good AT ANY POINT IN THE DATE
ANOTHER ONE IS
at the end of the date stick out your hand to shake hers and say "i had a lot of fun tonight"
when you pulls out hers, start shaking it, and then lightly pull her into you, if she doesn't resist, then you're fine. (if you had a good time she won't)
she might hug you, i'll get into what to do then in a sec
so you are pulling her in, she's not resisting, pull her in close to your body hold her hand down next two the two of you, with your other, mover her hair aside from her face, or pull it behind her ear, if she doesn't pull back, go in for the kiss.
IF she does hug you, hold her just tight enough to communicate physical strength and makes her feel safe and secure with you. then lighting smell her hair, say she smells great, smell it again, pull your neck back, look at her ... and trust me ... you'll both know what do them.
HAVE fun on this date ... don't try to commit everything i said to memory, that's impossible and will just make it look rehurst ... instead ... read what i said and look at the main points.
BE STRONG, BE A LEADER, BE CONFIDENT, BE PLAYFULL
stick you're tounge out at her, if you are somewhere were there is snow, throw a snow ball at her
she doesn't want a tight ass ... be there FOR YOU, that's the most important thing ... she'll appreciate that
