GayWay - the gay and lesbian discussion (aka. Any Gays here?)

[jsalzer]

Happen to You

DJ'd a wedding reception tonight. The Best Man had no undershirt and kept his shirt unbuttoned all night long. Some good eye candy.

Then, out of nowhere, his girlfriend asks *me* to dance - to Freebird, nonetheless. Talk about 15 minutes of non-fun - dancing with a girl when her bare-chested boyfriend dances with her friend.

Would have asked to swap, but I figure most straight guys with several beers in them wouldn't take well to that.

Oh, well. Just have to stay hot and bothered.

Anywho - please don't include me in the "intruders" catagory. I've been in this thread since it began - just followed the conversation where it went rather than steering it where it belongs, as I should have.

Luby'all!

 

[looloopoopie]

Ah. Eye candy. There's plenty of it in nyc, but the trick is actually figuring out if they're queer or not (the girls at least (it could also just be my inept gaydar)). Hmmm....

Just for sh-ts and giggles... heehee

1. leekohler - one frightening, monstrous homo. Don't drop the soap.
2. Guitarius - Wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy to serve mimosas to and wear linen by the pool.
3. question fear-former BDOC (big dyke on campus-back in the day...)
4. vniow - MR's favourite gender****ing trans dyke
5. Chip NovaMac - A Big Ol' Bear with a heart the size of Texas (and it appears the brain the size of RI when it comes to cheating/lying spouses ) - who could get used to wearing linen
6. neildmitchell - College boy. ?So, you got something you want to teach me?
7. scem0 - newbie who is thinking about dropping the soap after reading #1 .
8. Paragonvictim - the dyke who couldn't commit.
9. looloopoopie - wouldn't mind being dom'ed... wait, did i just say that?

keep 'em coming

 

[Guitarius]

I find it humorous that the first thing I did after my internet got switched on (Been netless since wednesday, I moved to New Orleans ) was checked this thread to see what I missed.

 

[Hinsight4]

I'd just like to say that this was the best thread (and the only thread that I've ever read all of the replies too). Thanks for the entertainment and being so accepting, who knew mac users would be so great?! (I just bought my first mac, a new ibook a few weeks ago..and I've been gay for awhile

 

[iGary]

Ah. Eye candy. There's plenty of it in nyc, but the trick is actually figuring out if they're queer or not (the girls at least (it could also just be my inept gaydar)). Hmmm....

Just for sh-ts and giggles... heehee

1. leekohler - one frightening, monstrous homo. Don't drop the soap.
2. Guitarius - Wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy to serve mimosas to and wear linen by the pool.
3. question fear-former BDOC (big dyke on campus-back in the day...)
4. vniow - MR's favourite gender****ing trans dyke
5. Chip NovaMac - A Big Ol' Bear with a heart the size of Texas (and it appears the brain the size of RI when it comes to cheating/lying spouses ) - who could get used to wearing linen
6. neildmitchell - College boy. ?So, you got something you want to teach me?
7. scem0 - newbie who is thinking about dropping the soap after reading #1 .
8. Paragonvictim - the dyke who couldn't commit.
9. looloopoopie - wouldn't mind being dom'ed... wait, did i just say that?

keep 'em coming

You missed quite a few.

 

[iGary]

1. leekohler - one frightening, monstrous homo. Don't drop the soap.
2. Guitarius - Wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy to serve mimosas to and wear linen by the pool.
3. question fear-former BDOC (big dyke on campus-back in the day...)
4. vniow - MR's favourite gender****ing trans dyke
5. Chip NovaMac - A Big Ol' Bear with a heart the size of Texas (and it appears the brain the size of RI when it comes to cheating/lying spouses ) - who could get used to wearing linen
6. neildmitchell - College boy. ?So, you got something you want to teach me?
7. scem0 - newbie who is thinking about dropping the soap after reading #1 .
8. paleck - is entirely too trusting and has given up on dating for now because of it.
9. iGary - Married but not allowed to be.

 

[leekohler]

1. leekohler - one frightening, monstrous homo. Don't drop the soap.
2. Guitarius - Wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy to serve mimosas to and wear linen by the pool.
3. question fear-former BDOC (big dyke on campus-back in the day...)
4. vniow - MR's favourite gender****ing trans dyke
5. Chip NovaMac - A Big Ol' Bear with a heart the size of Texas (and it appears the brain the size of RI when it comes to cheating/lying spouses ) - who could get used to wearing linen
6. neildmitchell - College boy. ?So, you got something you want to teach me?
7. scem0 - newbie who is thinking about dropping the soap after reading #1 .
8. paleck - is entirely too trusting and has given up on dating for now because of it.
9. iGary - Married but not allowed to be.

You did too! What happened to looloo and paragon?

 

[jsalzer]

Hey

What happened to looloo and paragon?

Come on now - you know the rules. Don't ask - don't tell.

Give the kids some privacy.

 

[iGary]

Here all fixed:

1. leekohler - one frightening, monstrous homo. Don't drop the soap.
2. Guitarius - Wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy to serve mimosas to and wear linen by the pool.
3. question fear-former BDOC (big dyke on campus-back in the day...)
4. vniow - MR's favourite gender****ing trans dyke
5. Chip NovaMac - A Big Ol' Bear with a heart the size of Texas (and it appears the brain the size of RI when it comes to cheating/lying spouses ) - who could get used to wearing linen
6. neildmitchell - College boy. ?So, you got something you want to teach me?
7. scem0 - newbie who is thinking about dropping the soap after reading #1 .
8. Paragonvictim - the dyke who couldn't commit.
9. looloopoopie - wouldn't mind being dom'ed... wait, did i just say that?
10. iGary - Married, but not allowed to be.

 

[leekohler]

Here all fixed:

1. leekohler - one frightening, monstrous homo. Don't drop the soap.
2. Guitarius - Wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy to serve mimosas to and wear linen by the pool.
3. question fear-former BDOC (big dyke on campus-back in the day...)
4. vniow - MR's favourite gender****ing trans dyke
5. Chip NovaMac - A Big Ol' Bear with a heart the size of Texas (and it appears the brain the size of RI when it comes to cheating/lying spouses ) - who could get used to wearing linen
6. neildmitchell - College boy. ?So, you got something you want to teach me?
7. scem0 - newbie who is thinking about dropping the soap after reading #1 .
8. Paragonvictim - the dyke who couldn't commit.
9. looloopoopie - wouldn't mind being dom'ed... wait, did i just say that?
10. iGary - Married, but not allowed to be.

thanks!

 

[neildmitchell]

1. leekohler - one frightening, monstrous homo. Don't drop the soap.
2. Guitarius - Wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy to serve mimosas to and wear linen by the pool.
3. question fear-former BDOC (big dyke on campus-back in the day...)
4. vniow - MR's favourite gender****ing trans dyke
5. Chip NovaMac - A Big Ol' Bear with a heart the size of Texas (and it appears the brain the size of RI when it comes to cheating/lying spouses ) - who could get used to wearing linen
6. neildmitchell - College boy. ?So, you got something you want to teach me?
7. scem0 - newbie who is thinking about dropping the soap after reading #1 .
8. Paragonvictim - the dyke who couldn't commit.
9. looloopoopie - wouldn't mind being dom'ed... wait, did i just say that?
10. iGary - Married, but not allowed to be.

SO, thats it?

 

[topicolo]

Hey guys, as a straight guy, I find myself curious about certain aspects of the gay/lesiban/bisexual/transexual/questioning community.

First, how exactly do you find out if someone is queer or not? Do you just ask them, or is there some sort of finely tuned gaydar that can detect the borderliners/bisexuals ?

Second, how often do you find yourself attracted to people of the opposite sex? I imagine that going totally, 100% gay is fairly rare, right?

 

[vniow]

First, how exactly do you find out if someone is queer or not? Do you just ask them, or is there some sort of finely tuned gaydar that can detect the borderliners/bisexuals ?

It all depends, there's often visual and behavioural cues that some will pick up on, many are stereotypes but like most of them, they are rooted in fact somewhat. Especially if you're in a region where there's a lot of tolerance and acceptance for non-straight folk, we're more free to express ourselves how we would want instead of trying to "act straight" so to speak. Of course of you're going to like a gay/dyke bar, chances are there will be many a queer there.

Second, how often do you find yourself attracted to people of the opposite sex? I imagine that going totally, 100% gay is fairly rare, right?

About as rare as 100% straight. There's some people who like one or the other (whether they be gay or straight) and won't veer from that at all, perhaps they live in a conservative society or maybe they're too entrenched in the gay community that they're afraid of being looked down upon if they find themselves attracted to a member of the opposite gender. The reality is that while the majority of people are one way or the other, there's a considerable amount who aren't so set so much in what gender they're attracted to. People are more likely to be attracted to attributes of another person rather then just the fact that they're a certain gender. (of course gender could be an attribute in itself but I have found that people are more attracted to aspects of a person that are more likely to show up in one particular gender and not the other)

 

[gekko513]

1. leekohler - one frightening, monstrous homo. Don't drop the soap.
2. Guitarius - Wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy to serve mimosas to and wear linen by the pool.
3. question fear-former BDOC (big dyke on campus-back in the day...)
4. vniow - MR's favourite gender****ing trans dyke
5. Chip NovaMac - A Big Ol' Bear with a heart the size of Texas (and it appears the brain the size of RI when it comes to cheating/lying spouses ) - who could get used to wearing linen
6. neildmitchell - College boy. ?So, you got something you want to teach me?
7. scem0 - newbie who is thinking about dropping the soap after reading #1 .
8. Paragonvictim - the dyke who couldn't commit.
9. looloopoopie - wouldn't mind being dom'ed... wait, did i just say that?
10. iGary - Married, but not allowed to be.
11. gekko513 - neither sugar daddy, nor bitch boy

 

[gekko513]

First, how exactly do you find out if someone is queer or not? Do you just ask them, or is there some sort of finely tuned gaydar that can detect the borderliners/bisexuals ?

Some gays adopt aspects of what must be called a gay subculture which among other things include clothing style, body language and slang. Then, in some cases homosexuality goes along with a noticable amount of natural feminity/masculinity not usually associated with that gender. Often, however, it isn't really easy to tell because there are lots of so called straight acting gays. In those cases I don't know until they tell me. (Or ask me if I would like to "bob on their knob" )

 

[maddie]

Total Mac Newbie

Hi Cripes - I totally got hooked on this thread. Read every post. Only visited to get tips on installing OS X...

1. leekohler - one frightening, monstrous homo. Don't drop the soap.
2. Guitarius - Wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy to serve mimosas to and wear linen by the pool.
3. question fear-former BDOC (big dyke on campus-back in the day...)
4. vniow - MR's favourite gender****ing trans dyke
5. Chip NovaMac - A Big Ol' Bear with a heart the size of Texas (and it appears the brain the size of RI when it comes to cheating/lying spouses ) - who could get used to wearing linen
6. neildmitchell - College boy. ?So, you got something you want to teach me?
7. scem0 - newbie who is thinking about dropping the soap after reading #1 .
8. Paragonvictim - the dyke who couldn't commit.
9. looloopoopie - wouldn't mind being dom'ed... wait, did i just say that?
10. iGary - Married, but not allowed to be.
11. gekko513 - neither sugar daddy, nor bitch boy
12. maddie - Current BDOC & LGBT Society Comms Officer

 

[iGary]

I'm changing mine.

1. leekohler - one frightening, monstrous homo. Don't drop the soap.
2. Guitarius - Wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy to serve mimosas to and wear linen by the pool.
3. question fear-former BDOC (big dyke on campus-back in the day...)
4. vniow - MR's favourite gender****ing trans dyke
5. Chip NovaMac - A Big Ol' Bear with a heart the size of Texas (and it appears the brain the size of RI when it comes to cheating/lying spouses ) - who could get used to wearing linen
6. neildmitchell - College boy. ?So, you got something you want to teach me?
7. scem0 - newbie who is thinking about dropping the soap after reading #1 .
8. Paragonvictim - the dyke who couldn't commit.
9. looloopoopie - wouldn't mind being dom'ed... wait, did i just say that?
10. iGary - People are dumbfounded when he tells them he is gay.
11. gekko513 - neither sugar daddy, nor bitch boy
12. maddie - Current BDOC & LGBT Society Comms Officer

 

[neildmitchell]

Hey guys, as a straight guy, I find myself curious about certain aspects of the gay/lesiban/bisexual/transexual/questioning community.

First, how exactly do you find out if someone is queer or not? Do you just ask them, or is there some sort of finely tuned gaydar that can detect the borderliners/bisexuals ?

Second, how often do you find yourself attracted to people of the opposite sex? I imagine that going totally, 100% gay is fairly rare, right?

First, how exactly do you find out if someone is queer or not?
Gaydar, and yes the fine tuned gaydar can pick up bisexuals


Second, how often do you find yourself attracted to people of the opposite sex?
Im 100% full fledged U.S.D.Gay I do find black women beautiful, but I am not in the slightest bit aroused by them nor any woman.

 

[neildmitchell]

11. gekko513 - neither sugar daddy, nor bitch boy

LOL, love it

 

[jsalzer]

Great answers

Hey guys, as a straight guy, I find myself curious about certain aspects of the gay/lesiban/bisexual/transexual/questioning community.

First thing to note is that not all gays are a part of a gay community. I know there's a rumor that we all know each other, but we really don't.

Some people, like my ex, have *only* gay friends. To me, only 10% of my friends should be gay. There are an awful lot of nice straight people out there, and they should be represented in my friends. "Gay Community" means a lot of things to a lot of people. To some, it's a support structure. To some, it's an excuse for poor behavior. To some, they'd be happy just to know one other gay person (the one they're with.)

Second is to keep in mind that not all people in all the groups above consider their community to be in the same community as the others.

You've gotten some great answers on your other questions, so I'll try not to duplicate here:

First, how exactly do you find out if someone is queer or not?

In addition to the great answers others gave you, let me add - you start off by not using the Q word. I know I'm in the minority on this board, but there are still many of us in many parts of the country to whom this is an evil, hateful word. As a straight person, your use of it could *really* be taken the wrong way and lose you a potential friend.

Second, how often do you find yourself attracted to people of the opposite sex? I imagine that going totally, 100% gay is fairly rare, right?

Going? We usually start there.

Anywho - as someone said, it's all shades of g(r)ay. Noone's 100% either. A combination of emotional needs and physical attraction usually weigh it one way or the other, though.

Personally, if I had to define beauty, it would be Jeannie Francis (sp?) of General Hospital. In no way, shape, or form am I attracted to her, though. Richard Dean Anderson is all the beauty I need.

 

[leekohler]

Hey guys, as a straight guy, I find myself curious about certain aspects of the gay/lesiban/bisexual/transexual/questioning community.

First, how exactly do you find out if someone is queer or not? Do you just ask them, or is there some sort of finely tuned gaydar that can detect the borderliners/bisexuals ?

I just ask if I'm really interested. If a guy tells me he's straight and single I tell him "Well, we have to find you a girl then- because you're too cute to be single. If I can't have you, somebody should." Then I go hook him up with a girl I know who's cute and available. I've done this for a lot my straight guy friends. And I get this a lot too-"Dude, you're gay? That's crazy! I would have never known". And honestly- I've never had a problem with straight guys. Who's going to mess with a 6'3" 195 pound guy?

Second, how often do you find yourself attracted to people of the opposite sex? I imagine that going totally, 100% gay is fairly rare, right?

I'm 100% gay. Never had a girl, never will. They're great as friends, but I don't want to sleep with them. And actually, I'm quite the oddity- I prefer the company of men, straight or gay. I only have few close female friends.

 

[question fear]

I'm 100% gay. Never had a girl, never will. They're great as friends, but I don't want to sleep with them. And actually, I'm quite the oddity- I prefer the company of men, straight or gay. I only have few close female friends.

100% lesbian here. never liked boys, never did. I have to agree with leekohler, in reverse; most of my friends are women, straight and gay. I do have some straight boy friends, and a handful of gay boy friends from college, but most of my close friends are women.

I think the difference in responses to your questions, topicolo, answers your questions....we're all a little different.

 

[PlaceofDis]

I just ask if I'm really interested. If a guy tells me he's straight and single I tell him "Well, we have to find you a girl then- because you're too cute to be single. If I can't have you, somebody should." Then I go hook him up with a girl I know who's cute and available. I've done this for a lot my straight guy friends. And I get this a lot too-"Dude, you're gay? That's crazy! I would have never known". And honestly- I've never had a problem with straight guys. Who's going to mess with a 6'3" 195 pound guy?



I'm 100% gay. Never had a girl, never will. They're great as friends, but I don't want to sleep with them. And actually, I'm quite the oddity- I prefer the company of men, straight or gay. I only have few close female friends.

so lee.... know any cute single girls?? haha....

 

[leekohler]

so lee.... know any cute single girls?? haha....

I'm sure I could find you one. The Chicago Underground Film Festival just ended, and I made a few successful hook-ups for filmmakers. I thought you were dating someone though. BTW- came down to Navy Pier a few days ago- you weren't there. Are you working this weekend?

 

[PlaceofDis]

I'm sure I could find you one. The Chicago Underground Film Festival just ended, and I made a few successful hook-ups for filmmakers. I thought you were dating someone though. BTW- came down to Navy Pier a few days ago- you weren't there. Are you working this weekend?

i had a gf for the past seven months, had to end things. i've been on a few dates, but things aren't going anywhere it seems so i guess i will keep looking.

work tomorrow until 2 or 3ish, off saturday (first one in over two weeks) and then work sunday, 11-7