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Girlfriend cheated on me
- Thread starter TheDance511
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That's a very ignorant statement. My dad was 19 and my mom was 17 when they got married and 26 years later they're still married with 4 kids. I couldn't think of a more perfect marriage then they have. Just as Bearbo said, just because you didn't experience was love was at 18 doesn't mean other people haven't. You don't know the OP's relationship at all so don't try to tell him what he's experiencing or feeling.
To the OP, like a few others have said, talk to her about it first. If it ends up she was cheating on you, as it appears, then go you're seperate ways. Don't bad mouth or her treat her bad, there was obviously a reason you were dating in the first place.
Wow, this just happened to my brother, and he's a guitar player, too. Only she did it secretly, and throughout their entire three year relationship and pretended nothing happened.
She's not worth it. Why continue a relationship with someone who you know won't be fully committed?
She's not worth it. Why continue a relationship with someone who you know won't be fully committed?
Wow, usually the guitar players are the ones causing the break up!? Anyway if she'd make out with some guy in front of you that's pretty messed up. Usually in situations like this everyone says their sorry, and says all the right things, but they don't mean it, or it probably wouldn't have happened in the first place. I think you should let her go man if you wouldn't do that to her and you don't there's no reason to accept anything less in return. People don't change, they just take longer to go back to the way they were before.
Move on.
Anyone who disrespects you like that doesn't deserve you.
I don't care if she was tripping or giving him the heimlich, say peace out and move on.
Anyone who disrespects you like that doesn't deserve you.
I don't care if she was tripping or giving him the heimlich, say peace out and move on.
I know this will probably sound stupid , but are you sure it was her?
At concerts the lighting and atmosphere is not exactly the best for looking in a crowd, maybe you saw someone who looked somewhat like her...
OK yeah it a farshot but it has happened to me , I was 100% the person was who I though it was, then I got to 2 feet off them and whoa, sorry wrong person...
It just seems kind off dumb that she would go to a place she knows you are and kiss another person unless she was trying to get your attention.
At concerts the lighting and atmosphere is not exactly the best for looking in a crowd, maybe you saw someone who looked somewhat like her...
OK yeah it a farshot but it has happened to me , I was 100% the person was who I though it was, then I got to 2 feet off them and whoa, sorry wrong person...
It just seems kind off dumb that she would go to a place she knows you are and kiss another person unless she was trying to get your attention.
Don't be a fool. I have no time for people who make meagre attempts to tell people they are not in love. How the hell do you know? Just because the OP is confused has nothing to do with him not being in love.
Get over yourself.
David
I "might" disagree. What's his definition of "making out"? Did a guy kiss her on the mouth for a split second, or did she kiss this guy for 5, 10, 20 seconds at a time?
If she was actually making out with him, and I mean they kissed for more than 5+ seconds, then I think it's a safe bet that you don't even need to talk to her about it. It's crystal clear. She was at your gig, standing in front of you, and she still did that? What has she been doing when out of your sight. Did you see her leave with this guy? Did she spend the night at someone elses house that night?
If it looked like he was kissing her, and it only lasted for a split second, then talk to her about it --- clear things up.
Don't jump, man!!
I'll make it simpler, if her lips touched another guys then she cheated and for me it would be over. Never mind the, 'Oh, but it was just the excitement at the concert' crap.
If the OP saw what he said he did, that is, the slightest kiss from another guy who is not part of the immediate family, then it is cheating.
It's up to the OP how he deals with it though.
David
Have sex with her mum too.
Then any other female relative of hers.
Once you've worked your way through those.
Then try the dad.
Then any other male relative of hers.
Those too. Well remembered. You've not done this type of thing before have you?
And ... the thread is derailed.
To the OP - we all feel for you. As some of the other slightly more sensitive posters have pointed out, better that you saw her true colours now than wasted any more of your life with her. Be grateful you are only 18. Life (and women) as you know it is just beginning.
To the OP - we all feel for you. As some of the other slightly more sensitive posters have pointed out, better that you saw her true colours now than wasted any more of your life with her. Be grateful you are only 18. Life (and women) as you know it is just beginning.
You're right, so to bring it right back OT, to the OP, if the kissing was anything other than of the continental greeting type, I suggest not even dignifying her with your time. Let alone willingly listen to her lies.
That is the most rediculous statement I have heard for a time. IMO, love has nothing to do with experience, whereas knowing what to do in this situation has alot to do with experience which comes with age.
Love is a feeling you are very familiar with from being a baby, and feeling that same love to someone other than family happens depending completely on the individual/the person they meet, it has nothing to do with your age or how many people you have been with prior.
It is extremely ignorant to just blast at the OP saying that you find his statement amusing when you have absolutely no idea what his relationship is like or what he is like as a person.
Out of curiosity to the OP, how long have you and your girlfriend been seeing eachother? My thoughts go out to you, take the serious advice of the more mature forum members and talk to her abou it, and if what you thought you saw did actually happen, then turn around and walk away.
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Heyy guys, firsti would jsut like to thank you all for your advice and some of you guys made me laugh...anyway...i called her at i donno...4 in the morning because i woke up from i guess a nap.. anyway... so she lives maybe ten minutes from me so i asked her to come over and she was liek why.. i go because... i wanna talk to you so she said okay.. and i could jsut hear it in her voice like oh Shi* im getting canned u know...so she gets to my house and i try to "suggest" the idea of what she did would hurt me "if" she did it...she goes ohh yeah.... about that... Thats the guy i have been seeing for the last year.. ( ihave been with this girl for 6 years) yaeh..young ..anyway she goes i have been with this guy for a year..andi could not beleive this was happening...so she says Johnathan...(thats me) Johnatahn....I really care about you alot blah blah blah..and you know how when someone talks to you and they wont stop and you jsut want interupt and say what you want to say..yeah it was like that...but you just...are to wild for me? i'm like to wild for you? What the fu** is this? sshe goes yeah i always worry abotu you cheating on me because of the band thing and you never answer your cell phone and then she turns this aroundo n me for like an hour saying how i never can just be her boyfriend and how i am always somewhere else..well whatever ithink iwas good.. wias caring..so later she goes onto say that this guy is better for her because he has a job and he knows where he is goingi n life and all that ******** and she weas gonna tell me but she didnt wanna break my heart...and in all this craziness she finds a way to turn thsi around on me....at this point i was like dieing soi jsut said anytghing to keep her...but it didnt work.... so yeah we talked for like 10 more mintues after that i was just like okay well fine be a whore i DONT CARE because i jsut couldnt take my feelings.. and i know it was wrong and i feel bad now about it...so my iPod was sitting on the table next to the couch we were on and she grabs it and throws it on the wall my 60 gig video..thats iPod murder (it was already broken but its jsut the principal you know which is y i have my new orange shuffle) and i was like what the hell and she goes you know it is not that you don't have respect for me its that i don't have respect for you and im all after all this time you wanna tell me that!? and she goes im sorry... and she kissses my cheek liek she gives a ****...and she left.. i guess thats just the way life is sometimes..im pretty broken and i hope i get better =( anyway thanks guys you have been so supportive...!
Heyy guys, firsti would jsut like to thank you all for your advice and some of you guys made me laugh...anyway...i called her at i donno...4 in the morning because i woke up from i guess a nap.. anyway... so she lives maybe ten minutes from me so i asked her to come over and she was liek why.. i go because... i wanna talk to you so she said okay.. and i could jsut hear it in her voice like oh Shi* im getting canned u know...so she gets to my house and i try to "suggest" the idea of what she did would hurt me "if" she did it...she goes ohh yeah.... about that... Thats the guy i have been seeing for the last year.. ( ihave been with this girl for 6 years) yaeh..young ..anyway she goes i have been with this guy for a year..andi could not beleive this was happening...so she says Johnathan...(thats me) Johnatahn....I really care about you alot blah blah blah..and you know how when someone talks to you and they wont stop and you jsut want interupt and say what you want to say..yeah it was like that...but you just...are to wild for me? i'm like to wild for you? What the fu** is this? sshe goes yeah i always worry abotu you cheating on me because of the band thing and you never answer your cell phone and then she turns this aroundo n me for like an hour saying how i never can just be her boyfriend and how i am always somewhere else..well whatever ithink iwas good.. wias caring..so later she goes onto say that this guy is better for her because he has a job and he knows where he is goingi n life and all that ******** and she weas gonna tell me but she didnt wanna break my heart...and in all this craziness she finds a way to turn thsi around on me....at this point i was like dieing soi jsut said anytghing to keep her...but it didnt work.... so yeah we talked for like 10 more mintues after that i was just like okay well fine be a whore i DONT CARE because i jsut couldnt take my feelings.. and i know it was wrong and i feel bad now about it...so my iPod was sitting on the table next to the couch we were on and she grabs it and throws it on the wall my 60 gig video..thats iPod murder (it was already broken but its jsut the principal you know which is y i have my new orange shuffle) and i was like what the hell and she goes you know it is not that you don't have respect for me its that i don't have respect for you and im all after all this time you wanna tell me that!? and she goes im sorry... and she kissses my cheek liek she gives a ****...and she left.. i guess thats just the way life is sometimes..im pretty broken and i hope i get better =( anyway thanks guys you have been so supportive...!
Well that just goes to show she has absolutely no respect for you, she handled that in a disgusting way. Be glad she's gone now though, concentrate on your band and friends. Go out and have some fun without being tied down.
I don't understand how she managed to turn it around on you, at the end of the day, she cheated on you for a year, there is no excuse for that. If she wasnt happy with your relationship, she should have spoken to you about it, not dated someone else for a year, then have a paddy when you find out.
Forget her, there are people out there with morals for nice guys like yourself.
I don't understand how she managed to turn it around on you, at the end of the day, she cheated on you for a year, there is no excuse for that. If she wasnt happy with your relationship, she should have spoken to you about it, not dated someone else for a year, then have a paddy when you find out.
Forget her, there are people out there with morals for nice guys like yourself.
She turned it around on me by saying that i deserved it because i was a bad bf.. and on and on and on jsut so we couldnt talk abotu what she had done but your right..there are other girls and alot of things to do
Wow, nasty!
But how did she manage to be seeing another guy on the side for a year without you even suspecting anything? Maybe your band does take up a lot of your time?
However, commiserations. But you will get over it. And you are young enough and the future is bright!
But how did she manage to be seeing another guy on the side for a year without you even suspecting anything? Maybe your band does take up a lot of your time?
However, commiserations. But you will get over it. And you are young enough
and the future is bright!It was her friend and they spent alot of time together..but i never suspected she was ******* him or nethign like that.... i thought it was the big brother thing..and i didnt wanna sound paranoid..o well