I was right then... definitely start with the mum. 😀
Anyway... chin up, and as you're in a band, you have the absolutely best possibile way of properly getting over this. Groupies. And lots of them. 😉
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Girlfriend cheated on me
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I was right then... definitely start with the mum. 😀
Anyway... chin up, and as you're in a band, you have the absolutely best possibile way of properly getting over this. Groupies. And lots of them. 😉
devilot
Moderator emeritus
I've been reading this thread but didn't feel compelled to comment until I read this:
You cannot beat yourself up about this. You did your best. You were right in not being paranoid, and don't allow this lousy outcome turn you into a paranoid, bitter person. You must not beat up on yourself, okay? Seriously.
I'm so sorry you're in this position. Having been cheated on before, I can relate to some of what you must be feeling, obviously every relationship and situation is different, but still.
You cannot beat yourself up about this. You did your best. You were right in not being paranoid, and don't allow this lousy outcome turn you into a paranoid, bitter person. You must not beat up on yourself, okay? Seriously.
jsw
Moderator emeritus
Sorry to hear about that, TheDance511.
As you go through life, there will always be those women you look back on and wish you'd tried harder with.
She's not going to be one of them. Six years is a really long time, but be glad it wasn't 8, 10, or more. Yeah, the way she tried to around it around on you was horrid, but people do odd things when they're ashamed of their actions or embarrassed by being caught (as if she didn't know). What she did was bad, and to do it in front of you at a gig was terrible.
As much as it sucks, at least your eyes have been opened. Sorry, man.
As you go through life, there will always be those women you look back on and wish you'd tried harder with.
She's not going to be one of them. Six years is a really long time, but be glad it wasn't 8, 10, or more. Yeah, the way she tried to around it around on you was horrid, but people do odd things when they're ashamed of their actions or embarrassed by being caught (as if she didn't know). What she did was bad, and to do it in front of you at a gig was terrible.
As much as it sucks, at least your eyes have been opened. Sorry, man.
Apemanblues
macrumors regular
I'm surprised you didn't jump off the stage and knock the guy out.
That's the rock and roll thing to do.
That's the rock and roll thing to do.
iSaint
macrumors 603
Well, what I really meant was that the girlfriend liked him and he's in a band. Then she's sleazing about in the crowd right in front of him. She was his groupie, and whoever else she could find.
Raid
macrumors 68020
Dude I know that pain, I was dating a girl in highschool who cheated on me. It hurts now like none other I bet, but it will get better (just never soon enough eh?). After reading your story, I think you should realize that she wanted out. I mean kissing a guy right in front of you... that's not exactly what a discreet person wants to do. I'm not defending her at all, but I want to say if she wanted out it's better to let her go and move on.i guess thats just the way life is sometimes..im pretty broken and i hope i get better =( anyway thanks guys you have been so supportive...!
millar876
macrumors 6502a
wow, all therse people with self controll and no self image/confidence/anger issues, im impressed.
if it were me i probably would have jumped off the stage, swung the guitar by the neck, whacking the body of it full force (probably side on) into somones head (although not her), screamed at her, then run away and hide in a corner somwhere crying and not talk at all for a week, but then again i doo have a few issues.
if it were me i probably would have jumped off the stage, swung the guitar by the neck, whacking the body of it full force (probably side on) into somones head (although not her), screamed at her, then run away and hide in a corner somwhere crying and not talk at all for a week, but then again i doo have a few issues.
jsw
Moderator emeritus
jelloshotsrule
macrumors G3
whose head??? 😉
sounds like a terribly immature girl, and you're better off without her, of course. it'll take some time to realize that but it will happen.
carbonmotion
macrumors 6502a
Wow. This story is so similar to what my brother went through excatly a month ago.
Two good guys.
Both guitar players in a band.
Both with no intentions of hurting a girl.
Both fell in love with a girl.
Both had a long relationship.
Both girls a year ago got a case of the crazies.
Both thought that the other guy was better with a better job.
Both had the same lameass excuse as to why they didn't tell the guys.
Both girls destroyed/received many of the guys' expensive gifts.
Both breakups happened around the same time.
Both guys will have a smash album released.
Both girls will (and already do in my bro's case) want the first guy back.
Both guys will have (and my bro has) moved on.
All the best, TheDance511. 🙂
Two good guys.
Both guitar players in a band.
Both with no intentions of hurting a girl.
Both fell in love with a girl.
Both had a long relationship.
Both girls a year ago got a case of the crazies.
Both thought that the other guy was better with a better job.
Both had the same lameass excuse as to why they didn't tell the guys.
Both girls destroyed/received many of the guys' expensive gifts.
Both breakups happened around the same time.
Both guys will have a smash album released.
Both girls will (and already do in my bro's case) want the first guy back.
Both guys will have (and my bro has) moved on.
All the best, TheDance511. 🙂
hahah true... after a while i wanted to beccause after they were just standing there....watching me and doing wut ever people at concerts do..but...i just wanted to i guess its a ntural thing to feel that way even though im the kind of guy that will choosep eace over anything...but at that point i wanted to just break my guitar on that guy..anyhow had i done that the outcome would have been very bad... because its HARd very very VERY (HARD) to get a show anywhere in detroit...the detroit rock scene is dieing out..hopefulyl itll come abck but a bad reputation would ruin me there 🙁.... anyway guys i feel a little better this will be a ****** feeling i get daily for a while ican tell but thanks guys😎
P.S. I did end uup breaking my guitar....i do aftr everyshow so i have to keep getting new guitars..lolusually form pawn shops or wherever i can find them cheap...but hey... its rock and roolll
Poseidon
macrumors regular
[Having just seen this Chappelle episode again last night, this quote gave me a hell of a laugh. Thanks!]
TheDance:
Sorry about the whole mess - hopefully you can find someone else who treats you the way you deserve.
Just remember when dealing with the fairer sex: ALL women are evil. It's just a matter of how evil they are. 😎
- Paul
thankyou all so much! but lets not all make this about only me....if any of you out there have had similar experiences as mine post it here...maybe we can help you like you helped me thanks!!! 🙂
My whole philosophy is that guys shouldn't always be the ones chasing and getting heartbroken.
Wait until you find a girl who makes the effort to come to you, that way you know. If you have to chase a girl and keep pushing her to spend time with you it will never work.
Wait until you find a girl who makes the effort to come to you, that way you know. If you have to chase a girl and keep pushing her to spend time with you it will never work.
backsidetailsli
macrumors 65816
zblaxberg
Guest
they always do that...i can't stand it...btw i just recently broke up with my gf a few months ago and trust me it does get better cuz eventually you start to talk to more ladies and things get better...let it come to you. don't rush into trying to get a new gf
compuwar
macrumors 601
While it's going to take time to get over it, you will. Set a reminder in iCal to read this thread in a year, and see where you are by then. If she didn't have the courtesy to break up with you, then she tries to justify her behavior based on things she didn't talk to you about that were making her uncomfortable, then you're really going to be better off in the long run. Use the emotions you have to make music, some of the sweetest songs come from the worst experiences, and if you're going to go through hell, you may as well get something positive out of it.
