Guy at school harassing my girlfriend?

AlmostJosh

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My girlfriend and I go to different schools. Lately she's been telling me how a guy at her school has been tackling her (playfully) and how he once tried touching her "no no square" with a hand size american flag. And today she told me that he tried lifting up her shirt, which is way over the line in my opinion. He's also been telling her she's sexy and whatnot. I've tried talking to her about it but every time I do, she tells me to drop it and move on, like she doesn't even care. She told me that she's told him to stop, but he hasn't. It kind of seems like she likes the attention she gets from him. Advice please?
 

My girlfriend and I go to different schools. Lately she's been telling me how a guy at her school has been tackling her (playfully) and how he once tried touching her "no no square" with a hand size american flag. And today she told me that he tried lifting up her shirt, which is way over the line in my opinion. He's also been telling her she's sexy and whatnot. I've tried talking to her about it but every time I do, she tells me to drop it and move on, like she doesn't even care. She told me that she's told him to stop, but he hasn't. It kind of seems like she likes the attention she gets from him. Advice please?
She already told you. Brace yourself...
 

AppleLover9o

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It's definitely WAY over the line, far beyond being playful.

Understand, I see in your sig. you state you're 14, so you're young, meaning she probably is too. She probably DOES like the attention, young girls do, all girls really, but it doesn't excuse it's perversion.

I don't know how long you've been dating, but if not to long, then this is hers, and only her, battle. If the relationship has a long history, meaning more than say 6 months, then it is up to you to protect. But do it in a manner that is necessary for a 14 year old to do. :p

Be safe, and attentive, not physical and impulsive.

AL9o
 

AlmostJosh

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It's definitely WAY over the line, far beyond being playful.

Understand, I see in your sig. you state you're 14, so you're young, meaning she probably is too. She probably DOES like the attention, young girls do, all girls really, but it doesn't excuse it's perversion.

I don't know how long you've been dating, but if not to long, then this is hers, and only her, battle. If the relationship has a long history, meaning more than say 6 months, then it is up to you to protect. But do it in a manner that is necessary for a 14 year old to do. :p

Be safe, and attentive, not physical and impulsive.

AL9o
We've been dating for 10 months today, actually
 

charlesbronsen

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Playground stuff - when you're older you don't have to deal with it. So just age, and it'll all be over.



Then you get to deal with your bored wife considering getting nailed by her boss at work.



But you die and that worry is over too.
It's the simple things that make life so joyful:p
 

AppleMatt

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Playground stuff - when you're older you don't have to deal with it. So just age, and it'll all be over.



Then you get to deal with your bored wife considering getting nailed by her boss at work.



But you die and that worry is over too.
POTD.

It's funny because it's true. Which isn't funny.

Brilliant post.

AppleMatt
 

MattSepeta

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No question

No question about it. You MUST beat this guy up!


Or just slash his bike tires;)





Just kidding. Dont do either of those things.

Dump the girl and find one that respects herself enough to put this bozo down on her own.
You don't want to be involved with ANYBODY, much less a girlfriend, that allows this type of thing to happen. Dollars to donuts when the guy is messing with her, she is just laughing and flirting it off.
 

quagmire

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You need to tell her to have some self-respect and self-esteem about herself. What that guy is doing is sexual harassment and could potentially lead to rape. I highly doubt she wants that for herself.
 

Jason Beck

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10 months? Ultimatum time! Tell her if she doesn't put this lowlife down or whatever, then your out. Don't deal with the stress of a boy crazy girl. Which she is if she refuses to hurt the other guys feelings.

If he keeps trying to touch her, that is not cool. She should tell someone, a teacher, or whoever to make it stop. What is right is right, and that is not cool. Like the above poster said, it could lead elsewhere. Dude could shove your chick up to the wall and try to start feeling her up hardcore if she doesn't stop.

Merely flirting it off or what not could, and most likely, is what is egging him on. It also sends the wrong image out, she should have more self-respect than that.
 

charlesbronsen

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If he has good solid evidence of this going on, why not? What he is doing is a crime.
Well something this trivial should not be left up to the cops. I mean if your first reaction to a situation like this is to call the cops then you a tattle teller and nobody likes that. I bet that would drive this guys girls right in the direction of this so called "offender"
 

Jason Beck

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My girlfriend and I go to different schools. Lately she's been telling me how a guy at her school has been tackling her (playfully) and how he once tried touching her "no no square" with a hand size american flag. And today she told me that he tried lifting up her shirt, which is way over the line in my opinion. He's also been telling her she's sexy and whatnot. I've tried talking to her about it but every time I do, she tells me to drop it and move on, like she doesn't even care. She told me that she's told him to stop, but he hasn't. It kind of seems like she likes the attention she gets from him. Advice please?

When the play gets beyond play and moved physical, that isn't cool. The kid will develop into a total douchebag. If you don't tell anyone you should go
put him in check at least.