But the OP didn't say that he KNOWS his wife is cheating, just that he is suspicious.
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But the OP didn't say that he KNOWS his wife is cheating, just that he is suspicious.
Reality is, a private detective will provide proof one way or the other.
All DIY investigations can do is cause trouble, especially if you break laws doing it.
If it goes to court, you end up paying twice/thrice for your own DIY investigation, once if you break laws, again for her lawyer to get your evidence tossed, and your own lawyer to try to prevent any of this happening.
However simple things like a couple VOX activated recorders might work one in your bedroom and another in her car, but it is only half the conversation -- so beware or that plus legal/criminal problems. Which means having a private detective do it usually is better since they are "licensed" and can testify to the evidence they collect.
All DIY investigations can do is cause trouble, especially if you break laws doing it.
If it goes to court, you end up paying twice/thrice for your own DIY investigation, once if you break laws, again for her lawyer to get your evidence tossed, and your own lawyer to try to prevent any of this happening.
However simple things like a couple VOX activated recorders might work one in your bedroom and another in her car, but it is only half the conversation -- so beware or that plus legal/criminal problems. Which means having a private detective do it usually is better since they are "licensed" and can testify to the evidence they collect.
It's interesting that the OP has not returned but maybe he's reading. It's also interesting how quickly arguments can form on the basis of a few ambiguous sentences posted anonymously on the internet.
OP - in light of all this back and forth, I think trying to talk first could go a long way towards sussing the situation out. If you get stonewalled but strongly suspect something is wrong, I think a private detective is a good idea. DIY spy jobs are bound to be very problematic in a variety of ways. I just think it's smart not to disproportionately escalate the situation before talking. Just my opinion on it though.
OP - in light of all this back and forth, I think trying to talk first could go a long way towards sussing the situation out. If you get stonewalled but strongly suspect something is wrong, I think a private detective is a good idea. DIY spy jobs are bound to be very problematic in a variety of ways. I just think it's smart not to disproportionately escalate the situation before talking. Just my opinion on it though.
How on earth could you put up with her!? First, did you know she used a PC when you proposed to her? and she's not even loyal enough to use IE? That should have been your first clue!
On top of all this, she has untouched history? She's a dumb cheater as well? Everyone knows if you leave your history linger, cache, cookies, it's going to slow that machine down. The HUMANITY!
I think you're full of ****.
https://forums.macrumors.com/threads/274541/
That much is certain.
It definitely opens you up for a variety of issues if you don't know what you are doing. And if any information is collected incorrectly (or illegally) it won't hold up in court.
Doesn't that mean that a display of a great example of an incredibly successful troll that is incredibly successful is being unveiled here?
Before the OP does anything, he needs to think carefully about what he wants to achieve and whether he really wants to have his suspicions confirmed or not. In my experience, some people ask questions hoping to have their suspicions denied, classics such as "Does my bum look big in this?". Only if he is sure that he can cope with either scenario, cheating or not, should he do anything.
If he is really sure, he should talk to his wife. I would be pretty angry if my partner was checking my emails, phone calls etc. The lack of trust could be a deal breaker. If the OP cannot trust what his wife tells him then maybe it's time to call a halt to the relationship.
If he is really sure, he should talk to his wife. I would be pretty angry if my partner was checking my emails, phone calls etc. The lack of trust could be a deal breaker. If the OP cannot trust what his wife tells him then maybe it's time to call a halt to the relationship.
What an interesting thread. A quick look at the OP's profile shows that he/she doesn't post very often and that this thread is the first post in a year.
Lot's of differing opinions on this one and quite different levels of intensity with which they are expressed.
Lot's of differing opinions on this one and quite different levels of intensity with which they are expressed.
I think its a lose-lose situation if he spies on her. It can turn into a real bad situation if the OP took that route, and could create a bigger, and unnecessary, problem in the relationship. The best, and sometimes hardest, thing to do is talk to your partner. IMO, its a MAJOR problem if you cant have/be in an open and honest relationship with someone. Its just as bad as not having good sex chemistry 
The disconnect from reality people have these days because of a computer is fascinating ****.
What normal person goes into what basically is a digital version of a public place and says,"HI PEOPLE I NEED EVERYONE'S HELP TO STALK MY WIFE!" If someone did that in the middle of the malls food court people'd likely call the cops and have the dude carted away in a snug fit White "I love me" jacket.
What normal person goes into what basically is a digital version of a public place and says,"HI PEOPLE I NEED EVERYONE'S HELP TO STALK MY WIFE!" If someone did that in the middle of the malls food court people'd likely call the cops and have the dude carted away in a snug fit White "I love me" jacket.
Ya know kids. It's been 3 days since the OP started this thread and he has never responded so I think this has become non-productive and it's time to move on to bigger and better things. If the OP is really interested in this topic he can send me a PM.
Otherwise I'm closing this thread.
Edit : Peace made a boo boo. I'm new. Give me a break !!
Otherwise I'm closing this thread.
Edit : Peace made a boo boo. I'm new. Give me a break !!
So are we only keeping threads open as long as the OP stays active in the thread, is that how it works now?
I would've thought the OP would be quite accomplished at spying by now.
Been at it, since at least 2007: https://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?p=3298702&#post3298702
Been at it, since at least 2007: https://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?p=3298702&#post3298702
Sweet.
Perhaps our friend has some "trust" issues.
Almost like he, or she, or it wanted to be caught?
One never knows, with the Internet.
Ain't that true. For all we know, the OP is the cheating spouse, figuring out, with our help, if there's any way their loyal wife might discover whatever nastyness they're up to.
Or maybe they're just a nosey babysitter, trying to snoop around in their customers' home computers?
Spying on others, whatever the justification, is just plain wrong. It shouldn't be encouraged.
I've realized a few things:
1: Being single - not so bad compared to some couples.
2: This situation will not end well - imagine if the wife stumbles across his posts?
3: MR members are sometimes a very scary lot...
1: Being single - not so bad compared to some couples.
2: This situation will not end well - imagine if the wife stumbles across his posts?
3: MR members are sometimes a very scary lot...
He's probably finishing up that algebra homework he was assigned to do over the weekend.
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