how to ask a girl out

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  1. wywern209 macrumors 65832

    wywern209

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    k, there is this one girl at school who i rly like but when i decide to walk up to her and attempt to ask her out, i get all nervous and decide against it...
    P.S i know the girl.so normal stuff ain't a prob but i can't ask her out for the life of me.
     
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  3. KingYaba macrumors 68040

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    Stay in your basement behind your computer screen instead.
     
  4. dukebound85 macrumors P6

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    grow a pair and do it

    sorry,but thats really the only way lol
     
  5. atszyman macrumors 68020

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    Yep, you go up and ask, her saying "no" is not the end of the world.

    Of course back when I was a lad, I was not a follower of my own advice and was frequently paralyzed by the thought of rejection. It all worked out fine, got the wife and kids, but if you don't ask you'll always wonder in some dark recess of your mind "what if?" On the other hand, you may remember the rejection forever, but you'll never regret asking and knowing what the answer was.
     
  6. floyde macrumors 6502a

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    +1 on the pair.

    Just drop something like this in the middle of the conversation "so hey, wanna grab a bite after school? There's this great (insert stuff here) restaurant that I've been wanting to go to for a while" but say it as though you were actually saying this to a dude: "dude, my arse is itching like crazy".

    Actual wording may vary ;). Just go for it though.
     
  7. Abstract macrumors Penryn

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    Say this: "Hi, I think you're cute. Want to go out with me at some point?"

    If she asks you if other people will be there, or if she asks you who else to invite, then consider it the equivalent of "No thanks."


    And then hand them to her to make it official. You may as well. Once you start dating, she'll have you by the balls. Marriage is supposed to be the same, except she has a firmer grip.
     
  8. JG271 macrumors 6502a

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    Just... do it? You'll never know otherwise.

    You really shouldn't need to post on a forum for things like this... don't you have anyone in the real world you can ask for advice??

    a bit harsh of me maybe, but yeah, just get it over with.
     
  9. apsterling macrumors 6502a

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    Just go for it. Rejection isn't really that bad, trust me.
     
  10. ChrisN macrumors 65816

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    Try it on a girl who is your friend but isn't your "girlfriend", but that might not work because you might feel to comfortable around her.

    ChrisN
     
  11. Kev052683 macrumors member

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    Rejection hurts a lot, avoid life lessons at all costs.

    Ask her out through a note, with a check box for yes, no, and maybe, and ask for a prompt return of said note with check box checked.
     
  12. xlii macrumors 68000

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    Just ask her out... Don't be this Hank Williams Sr. song:

    Kaw-liga was a wooden Indian standing by the door.
    He fell in love with an Indian maiden over in the antique store.
    Kaw-liga just stood there and never let it show,
    So she could never answer "yes" or "no."

    CHORUS:
    Poor ol' Kaw-liga, he never got a kiss.
    Poor ol' Kaw-liga, he don't know what he missed.
    Is it any wonder that his face is red?
    Kaw-liga, that poor ol' wooden head.

    He always wore his Sunday feathers and held a tomahawk.
    The maiden wore her beads and braids and hoped some day he'd talk.
    Kaw-liga, too stubborn to ever show a sign,
    Because his heart was made of knotty pine.

    Kaw-liga was a lonely Indian, never went nowhere.
    His heart was set on the Indian maid with the coal black hair.
    Kaw-liga just stood there and never let it show,
    So she could never answer "yes" or "no."

    And then one day a wealthy customer bought the Indian maid,
    And took her, oh, so far away, but ol' Kaw-liga stayed.
    Kaw-liga just stands there as lonely as can be,
    And wishes he was still an old pine tree.
     
  13. wywern209 thread starter macrumors 65832

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    lol yeah. that won't work. guess i will have to give the checkbox thing a try.
     
  14. ChrisN macrumors 65816

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    It also helps to know how she feels about you, if you are close to anyone who is good friends with her and you don't mind sharing your secret then ask your friend how she feels about you.

    ChrisN
     
  15. jonbravo77 macrumors 6502a

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    That's funny. :D But I have to say, there are exceptions to the rule. The OP might get lucky and find that 1 in a billion girl who will actually let him keep them balls like my wife has. Or am I just fooling myself? :(

    EDIT*** Sorry for the duplicate above. My internet must have farted and caused it... If a Mod can delete that "That's Funny" post of mine above that would great. TY
     
  16. Lava Lamp Freak macrumors 65816

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    How to ask a girl out in three easy steps

    Step 1) Ask her out
    Step 2) If rejected, don't let her see you crying as you walk away.
    Step 3) There is no step 3!

    Rinse and repeat.
     
  17. Kev052683 macrumors member

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    ....don't really do that, I was kidding.

    Seriously, just carry yourself with some confidence, not arrogance. You'll be surprised what confidence can do for your overall personality.

    Wait, I'm single right now... dammit...
     
  18. wvuwhat macrumors 65816

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    Alcohol solves all... I've said some things that I would have never said sober that ended up getting me the girl. However, the next day I'm kicking myself. Love sucks, one night stands are better. You'll realize this one day, until you find that one.
     
  19. sycho macrumors 6502a

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    You're probably gay, I know that's the reason I couldn't ask out girls.
     
  20. Crawn2003 macrumors 6502

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    Say....

    You're good woman. I'm good man...

    Worked in old country. You usually get a goat too!

    ~Crawn
     
  21. joepunk macrumors 68030

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    Read this book. Published by HarperCollins on November 25th of this year called How to Talk to Girls, by Alec Greven. This is how HarperCollins describes the book:

    It's a relationship advice book written by a child. If this is all publishing companies can come up with, then I say let them all die :rolleyes:
     

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  22. numbersyx macrumors 65816

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    Go for it. Even if she says "No" she'll be flattered by the request and you'll be treated well. If she says "Yes" ... you know the rest....
     
  23. iDAG macrumors 65816

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    If you are only 15 then you just might run into this problem. Most guys run into this when they are in high school. I've been dating my girlfriend for over 14 months. :D

    He is only 15 and this girl is most likely his first time, and just fears the thought of rejection. It doesn't mean he is gay. :cool:
     
  24. tennismanclay macrumors regular

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    If your scared of rejection, just start texting her alot. Eventually tell her you like and her and see what she says, if she says she likes you back, your all good =] Another option would be to talk to one of her friends, but not like her best friend, and ask them if they might could find out what she thinks about you. Hope it helps, let us know how it goes.

    -Clay
     
  25. wywern209 thread starter macrumors 65832

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    lol no, im straight. like iDAG said, this is my first time... im **** scared of rejection. btw, can't rly text her, don't got her phone number... how about email?( we have a school email...)
     

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