Go watch a sappy ass movie with her and see if you can kiss her. If she kicks you in the face... it's a no go. Sucking face is easier than talking sometimes.
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how to ask a girl out
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OK no joking here is some real advice....
You can't expect to be good at anything you have not done a lot. No on can be. My son is only a few years older than you and wanted a job. what I told him was that he needs to learn how to ask. So I say... Go to about a dozen places where you likely will NOT get hired and ask about work. The idea here is to learn how to ask for work. You learn that you need to look presentable, speak confedently, look at the person you are talking to and. You will also llean about how to deal with saying "NO, Not you, leave...". Then after some time go after the job you really want.
The above applies here. Make a goal to ask some number of girls out every week. Remember the part about "can't expect to be good at anything you have not done a lot".
OK now for a direct answer to you question: Start with some kind of small talk and see if a conversation develops past "what time is it?" Then after a few minutes ask her. If you can't even exchange four sentences with her she's not interested in you at all. Ask her to do/go something or some place with you that is very non-threatening and easy and low key. The hardest part of this whole process is asking the right girl. Likely you will get this part wrong, many times. But luckily there are about 1 billion to choose from and time is on your side.
What was that I said about "You can't expect to be good at anything you have not done a lot".
Say it nicely, i just asked a girl out recently, we're going out this weekend 
Yeah, what the other guy said, grow a pair
Just be like, hey, [insert small talk here, compliments, etc. (not too long though)], so I was just wondering if you'd want to go out with me to [insert activity here] sometime.
Yeah, what the other guy said, grow a pair
Just be like, hey, [insert small talk here, compliments, etc. (not too long though)], so I was just wondering if you'd want to go out with me to [insert activity here] sometime.
Guess what? Rejection is part of life. It isn't all "hearts and flowers". The earlier on in life that you learn that,the better off you'll be. Nine pages on how to ask a girl out
Almost 7 years back I told a friend that I fancied a girl on my course, a few days later during a drinking sesh he rang her and told her my thoughts about her. But it really helped since I was being all secretive.
Few days after that I asked her out and she thought I was just joking! Plucked up the courage and asked her out again a couple of days later whilst walking up to a lecture. But we were good friends at the time and everyone and their cat knew we were going to happen, so it wasn't as if I was jumping in blind. This was at age 16.
It's always easier if you know that person well, but that can be said for anything. The only nerve racking thing for me is when its unpredictable.
About a year before I asked a girl out who I barely knew and that was just a big mistake. She said no and I felt a little gutted, but the worse part was the embarassing moments seeing her in the classes we took together.
Few days after that I asked her out and she thought I was just joking! Plucked up the courage and asked her out again a couple of days later whilst walking up to a lecture. But we were good friends at the time and everyone and their cat knew we were going to happen, so it wasn't as if I was jumping in blind. This was at age 16.
It's always easier if you know that person well, but that can be said for anything. The only nerve racking thing for me is when its unpredictable.
About a year before I asked a girl out who I barely knew and that was just a big mistake. She said no and I felt a little gutted, but the worse part was the embarassing moments seeing her in the classes we took together.
I hope by now you have asked the girl out. If not, than I hope you will. Believe me, every guy on this forum who has asked ladies out have likely been rejected. Sure you meet the occasional sweet talking stud that doesn't have to worry too much about rejection; however, all of us have gone for it. Frankly that is the least of your worries in the dating world.
I think that if you really think that something might be there than you should certainly ask her out and see where things go. You will never know till you try to make something happen.
I think that if you really think that something might be there than you should certainly ask her out and see where things go. You will never know till you try to make something happen.
What about people's luck here? I've been rejected 1 time out of 4 (different girls).
So success rate: 75%
More in the future, I still have a while before I finish school (9th Grade).
As a kid, I would say that I was not really rejected much. Of the girls I decided to actually ask, I would say only 1 or 2 probably didn't go out with me.
Of course there's lots of girls I never asked. Sometimes out of fear of rejection. But, the thing is, if you never ask, they'll never say yes.
When I was really young, I think I perceived more rejection than I received. It was lack of confidence more than actual rejection. And, later I learned from many women that they had been interested in me in high school but thought that I wouldn't be interested in them. So, if I had only had the courage to ask them then, they would have said yes. So, essentially, they were afraid I would reject them, and I was afraid they would reject me. And, because of that, we never dated.
Talking with them later when I'd see them somewhere (in my early 20's) revealed a lot of missed opportunities. Bumping into their mothers revealed some very interesting feelings that the girls had for me that I never knew about (mom's tell all about their daughters).
So, I say ask now. They'll never say yes if you don't ask. And, if they say no, then you're no worse off than if you hadn't asked.
Lately, as an adult, I find that I have inadvertently been getting a very high success rate. Unfortunately, I'm not interested in dating them. I'm married.
So, I guess you could say that I'm in the interesting spot of declining dates. And, found some of the women quite aggressive (in such a way that I could not describe here without being censored).
But, of course I'm married. And, while the attention is nice, it's not something I'm interested in doing.
But, if you want a girl to notice you, and be interested, then you need to first appear interesting.
No matter where you are, appear as though you're having a good time. And, appear not to care whether you're there alone or not. Just have a good time.
Someone may notice you and come over and introduce themselves. Or, if you see someone you like, go introduce yourself to them. But, if you look like you're lonely or boring, then going over and introducing yourself likely won't do any good (especially if they've noticed you before you approached them).
So, have fun. Be fun. Look like you are quite comfortable wherever you are, and are having a good time even if you're alone. And, just appear to be enjoying yourself and your surroundings.
When I go to a bar, it is the people who are having fun that I approach and introduce myself to. And, likewise, when I'm alone, I still have a good time enjoying the band, the things happening around me, and whatever else. And, that draws people to me.
Some of the people that approach me are interesting and I hang out with them for a while. And, some are not very interesting, and I am nice to them and talk with them a little, but also let them know (without saying anything about it) that I am not really interested in having a conversation.
Many of the women who make a move on me are still quite interesting to talk with and hang out with even after I tell them I'm not interested in anything sexual or romantic with them. But, you have to be the kind of person who can say no without making it a rejection. You just let them know that it's something you're not interested in doing with anyone you meet, and still show them that you think that they are an interesting person. And, usually a very interesting conversation and good time hanging out will still follow.