how to ask a girl out

[nickspohn]

You need to really have the attitude of "I'll have nothing to lose". I know it's hard and you'll be shy, but you need to engage in the conversation first if you want to get to know her. You have to make the attempt, and she will see that if you try to talk to her. If she responds back and is willing to keep talking that is a great sign. If she gives you short answers and she is looking around, that's a bad sign. If she is looking at you most the time, then that is good.

Really get to know this girl first. There are many things you can do. I know FOR A FACT, it would be EXTREMELY awkward for you 2 to hang out alone the first time. If you want success, here is what you need to do.

Get your friends and her friends to hang out. Like a small group, maybe 4-8 people. You guys can do movies because that is good for your age, but you can also do lunch or dinner. That is very good too. Make sure you TALK A LOT, and get her attention in a great way. There is nothing WORSE than sitting there and not making a conversation. That will put you backwards. Trust me i know from experience.

If you live somewhere warm, goofy golf works great too. Or go karts. Or you guys can all go the mall. Stuff like that.

 

[juanster]

I also think that because of your age, movie and then wendy's or whatever you guys like would probably be the best, start out by hey what did you think of teh movie? a nd then why or why she dind t leik it c ompare to other movies maybe? her favorite movieS? and take it form there...

 

[Abstract]

well, we sit at the same lunch table and we talk everyday but well if she likes me based on what i can tell from body lang., its about 50/50. she likes or not.

Well, if you don't make a move, and she really DOES like you (as more than a friend), you run the risk of losing her interest.

If you make a move and she's not interested, it'll just be weird for awhile and you can (probably) go back to being friends. It may be weird for all mutual friends involved (this is high school, after all), but oh well. Do you want to be sitting at MacRumours 10 years from now talking about how there was a girl you should have asked out? Do you know how many people tell us this story here? Too many. If you think she may like you, don't miss your chance.

well, she smiles when i say hi and stuff but as far as body language goes, i suck at reading that.

Well she's not going to rub her boobs in your face if she's interested, so as subtle as body language can be at times, you'll have to learn how to read body language by paying extra attention then.

hmm, i will have to see if we can hang out and celebrate after finals are over!cuz, next week, finals end and i want to see if she would like to come over wit ha couple of other ppl who also sit at my lunch table(she and i are friends with like everybody at the table so maybe i cna ask one of them for help)

Good idea. Maybe if you tell your friends, they'll help you out by intentionally leaving you two alone together whenever it's possible. I mean, if you're all walking together in a group, perhaps everyone else will back off so that you two can walk side by side.


P.S.: Mini-golf and McDonalds. After that, go have one of those sweet fake coffee-ish mocha vanilla creme brulée-ccinos at Starbucks or another café. Talk. Eating, background noise, and close proximity are always good.

 

[phas3]

to the thread starter, do you guys have mutual friends?

I suggest you get some of your friends together first and go get lunch somewhere, and then invite her to go and maybe some of her friensds that are also your friends. By doing this she won't feel wierded out and she can get comfortable becauses its just not you two, its with a bunch of poeple and she can be comfortable. And while you guys are at lunch this is would be your chance to talk to her more and get to know her and if by the end it goes well, ask her if she would like to catch a movie sometime.

 

[Teh Don Ditty]

Ask questions, that's it. Women do not care about what you have to say at all anyway. All they want to do is talk about themselves, so you just gotta let them do that. Ask questions, be cool, and be kind of a dick. Be David Caruso in Jade.

Watch '40 Year Old Virgin' much?

 

[Rapmastac1]

You just need to do it!

I have found girls at my school attractive but I have never asked them out per-say. Most of the time I will ask them to dance at a "free for all" dance (not the formal ones where you have to have a date) and it just goes from there. Even in my sophomore year I had a good job and I was making decent money for someone my age so it was really easy to just do stuff.

The last girlfriend I had in high school was a girl that I had seen around and thought was hot, but never thought twice about it. I guess she knew so she asked me to dance. I guess she had something planned with her friend because the next thing I knew they were daring us to kiss on the lips. From there the night was really fun! It was like six of us hanging out having fun and she wanted to hang out the next day.

The best way to pursue a girl is to make it friendly at first. Say "hey you wanna come hang out with me and my friends on saturday?". They feel more comfortable when other people are around and that is how people put themselves in the best light, if that makes sense. If you both have fun and you feel a connection, ask her out solo! Don't put too much stress on it.

In Jr. High I had major crushes and it was a major problem. I would put the girls on pedestals and it would make it impossible for me to go up to them and ask them out or even just talk to them. I would think about them all the time, I would dream about them, and I would get so nervous around them. It took me a while to realize this is a problem I have and had to work it out. Now it's not a problem, I could easily go up to a group of girls and get their numbers no problem! My job has really helped me out with that (Lead Manager - taking care of guests, talking to them, striking up random conversations, ect).

Just work on it and don't think about it too much. You can't stress over what ur not thinking about. I'm surprised you haven't asked her out yet. This is starting to sound like the Ghall Saga !

 

[Consultant]

Smile. Look at her eyes.

Some body language from her:
plays with hair more than usual
tilts head slightly
really smile
puts hands on you
compliments you frequently

k, are there any other things that i could do besides going to a movie? good idea though. us 2 and a couple of other ppl.

Well going to a movie much guarantees that you can put your arm around her, but typically dinner or some other activity before that s o you guys can talk.

 

[Abstract]

This is starting to sound like the Ghall Saga !

I certainly hope not. Not like that has ended on a very good note.

Smile. Look at her eyes.

Some body language from her:
plays with hair more than usual
tilts head slightly
really smile
puts hands on you
compliments you frequently

Yeah, or if she just listens to you more attentively and smiles and laughs more often. Oh, and if you feel a bit of nervous energy coming from her as well, then perhaps that's a good thing.

Well going to a movie much guarantees that you can put your arm around her....

Well if she takes his arm off her shoulders, then he just got rejected and will have to sit beside her in the dark for 2 hours.

Awkwaaaaard.

 

[wywern209]

to the thread starter, do you guys have mutual friends?

I suggest you get some of your friends together first and go get lunch somewhere, and then invite her to go and maybe some of her friensds that are also your friends. By doing this she won't feel wierded out and she can get comfortable becauses its just not you two, its with a bunch of poeple and she can be comfortable. And while you guys are at lunch this is would be your chance to talk to her more and get to know her and if by the end it goes well, ask her if she would like to catch a movie sometime.

yeah, we both have mutual friends. and we are sort of friends so i suppose i could arrange something... btw, school today was a suckish experience. after last period, i went to her locker to talk to her but sadly she was on the phone so just said see ya (insert name of girl). and then went off to my locker to get my stuff. maybe we can celebrate after finals are over. cuz most of them are over on friday. we have monday off and perhaps my friends and her as well as me could go to starbucks or something.

I certainly hope not. Not like that has ended on a very good note.




Yeah, or if she just listens to you more attentively and smiles and laughs more often. Oh, and if you feel a bit of nervous energy coming from her as well, then perhaps that's a good thing.





Well if she takes his arm off her shoulders, then he just got rejected and will have to sit beside her in the dark for 2 hours.

Awkwaaaaard.

lol yes. that would be frikin awkward...

u know, its a pity there isn't a sure fire way to do this. like a manual... then again, manuals are the books that most people toss aside when they buy something and open the box.

 

[bobfitz14]

u know, its a pity there isn't a sure fire way to do this. like a manual... then again, manuals are the books that most people toss aside when they buy something and open the box.

not everyone is perfect in all aspects, some guys are fine asking girls out because rejection doesn't affect them much, other guys can't get over the fear of rejection so they don't do it. it's a risk, go for it i guess.

oh and i saw on page 1 of this thread that you can't text her...get her digits first!

 

[wywern209]

not everyone is perfect in all aspects, some guys are fine asking girls out because rejection doesn't affect them much, other guys can't get over the fear of rejection so they don't do it. it's a risk, go for it i guess.

oh and i saw on page 1 of this thread that you can't text her...get her digits first!

1.Any ideas on how to get her digits?
2. For guys that don't fear rejection, they have been through this process more times than i have and thus i guess have perfected the art. lol.
step1. hang out with her and some friends
step2. get a phone number somehow
step3. ask her out
step4. step 4 is only here if you got rejected. go and curl up in a corner and cry.

 

[phas3]

yeah, we both have mutual friends. and we are sort of friends so i suppose i could arrange something... btw, school today was a suckish experience. after last period, i went to her locker to talk to her but sadly she was on the phone so just said see ya (insert name of girl). and then went off to my locker to get my stuff. maybe we can celebrate after finals are over. cuz most of them are over on friday. we have monday off and perhaps my friends and her as well as me could go to starbucks or something.

there you go man, you two have mutual friends so it won't be so weird to her. If they're gonna be over friday that's your chance to talk to her just chit chat, ask her how her day was, compliment her on something that just sticks out but don't put all your attention on her, mix in with her friends and your friends. If you're in with her close friends that means they'll aprove of you. Also joke around with her make her laugh and also kinda clown on her not like DAMN YOU GOT SERVED kinda stuff but if she messes up on something joke around on how she messed up. Again don't be too pushy though.

And if yall go out to starbucks stand in front of her in the line and when you're done ordering your drink turn to her and say whataya want? and if she says oh no its okay i can't pay for my own tell her its alright and that she'll get the next one when she takes you out to lunch sometime. And say it with a smile then say so come on whataya want its fine.

1.Any ideas on how to get her digits?
2. For guys that don't fear rejection, they have been through this process more times than i have and thus i guess have perfected the art. lol.
step1. hang out with her and some friends
step2. get a phone number somehow
step3. ask her out
step4. step 4 is only here if you got rejected. go and curl up in a corner and cry.

phone numbers easy, if all goes to plan on friday and you guys go to starbucks and what not at the end just say "hey can I get your number so I can let you know when I'm free for lunch?" thats if that plan i said up above goes well.

If not just say "hey do you wanna hang out sometime?" and then ask for her number"

another way opportunity is if she likes to take pictures with her phone see if you can take a picture with her on your phone and then do it with her phone then put your number on there while you have her phone and then say "i thought you'd like to have my number on her you know incase of emergency"

trust me if you do it with a little bit of humor she won't mind and you'll have her number and she'll havey ours. I wouldn't be telling you this if I haven't done any of this before and it works.

 

[bobfitz14]

1.Any ideas on how to get her digits?
2. For guys that don't fear rejection, they have been through this process more times than i have and thus i guess have perfected the art. lol.
step1. hang out with her and some friends
step2. get a phone number somehow
step3. ask her out
step4. step 4 is only here if you got rejected. go and curl up in a corner and cry.

for getting her numbahh it usually depends on what you're doing with her and like where you are and such. it could be anywhere from you whip out your....phone, she makes a comment, and you say "well it's a shame i don't [phrase that will get the message through that you want her digits]"
ya diggggg?

and lol@your steps 1-4. unfortunately i do have the fear of rejection.


EDITTTTTTT:
i don't know if you already said this or not, how old are you?
and...
take out the "4" in your sig before the "FTW" because FTW means "for the win" so your sig currently says "metal gear solid for for the win"

 

[Luis]

1.Any ideas on how to get her digits?
2. For guys that don't fear rejection, they have been through this process more times than i have and thus i guess have perfected the art. lol.
step1. hang out with her and some friends
step2. get a phone number somehow
step3. ask her out
step4. step 4 is only here if you got rejected. go and curl up in a corner and cry.

Ask her out first and then get her number. That way you could show further interest if the 'date' turns out well.

 

[InvalidUserID]

I say get in there and just go for it. Life is too short.

If it doesn't work out the way you picture, at least you gave it a shot. And unless its something like "I think of you as a brother" or "I'm insanely not attracted to you", at least she knows you think of her as more than a friend.

Go get her, tiger!

 

[wywern209]

Argh... i am in over-drive from stress. i kid you not. i have way too much crap due this friday than most ppl on the planet. why do i have to take my finals if i am acing my classes. it makes no sense, its like saying" mr.einstein, we will ask you to reinvent the wheel, just so we can make sure you are smart". i rly hate this time of the year. it is the polar opposite of xmas! is anyone here a master of body language and subtlety?

 

[apsterling]

Well hey, out of two times, the only time I was wrong was the first one, and it was because I didn't pay attention.
The second time I was right, and I waited far too long to make a move to the point where she got a guy cause she thought I didn't like her.
Yeah, dumb, I know.

Just go for it because you don't want to be the guy who gets tossed like I was.

 

[wywern209]

Well hey, out of two times, the only time I was wrong was the first one, and it was because I didn't pay attention.
The second time I was right, and I waited far too long to make a move to the point where she got a guy cause she thought I didn't like her.
Yeah, dumb, I know.

Just go for it because you don't want to be the guy who gets tossed like I was.

yeah.... that reassures me A LOT.

 

[chilipie]

u know, its a pity there isn't a sure fire way to do this. like a manual... then again, manuals are the books that most people toss aside when they buy something and open the box.

LMAO, what?! She's a person, not a sodding computer.

 

[MrM]

Dude, seriously, we can't be there in person to hold your hand and feed you words on this. Just do it. Girls like confidence. The next post I see from you better have a "She said yes!" or a "I"m too good for her anyway." in it.

 

[Yamcha]

Ask her if she'd like to have lunch or a coffee, I wouldn't say I like you straight away.. but obviously she will assume you do, imo bringing it up is not a good idea at this stage at least

 

[nickspohn]

Can you post a picture of this girl? lol

 

[anjinha]

I was going to give you some advice too but then I realized that I'm a 21 year old girl and I still can't ask the guy I like out...

God, I'm pathetic...

 

[ChrisN]

I was going to give you some advice too but then I realized that I'm a 21 year old girl and I still can't ask the guy I like out...

God, I'm pathetic...

Why don't you let the guy do all the asking?

ChrisN

 

[fotografica]

Dude, seriously, we can't be there in person to hold your hand and feed you words on this. Just do it. Girls like confidence. The next post I see from you better have a "She said yes!" or a "I"m too good for her anyway." in it.

+1..Fifteen years old or not,sack up and go for it..Four pages on how to ask a girl out Stop over analyzing and go for it....